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Old 02-28-2013, 05:12 PM   #1
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What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

What do you say to an acquaintance who has just had a baby with down's syndrome? She is not a close friend, but I do see her in passing at the preschool and we exchange words. I have not met the new baby, but when I do I don't want to say something that comes across as insensitive or rude.

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Old 02-28-2013, 05:16 PM   #2
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

I think I would say the same thing I'd say to anyone who just ad a baby. Usually something along the lines of, "congratulations, he is beautiful/perfect/precious/whatever is true"
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Old 02-28-2013, 05:17 PM   #3
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

I would say congratulations, just like i would to anyone else who just had a baby
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I think I would say the same thing I'd say to anyone who just ad a baby. Usually something along the lines of, "congratulations, he is beautiful/perfect/precious/whatever is true"
I have a dd with downs and I notice when people sound nervous to ask about her or talk to her and they ignore my other kids. I think it's best to just talk as you would for any other baby/child when you see a sn child, I mean for my dh and I, we don't see her any different then our other kids and she doesn't get special treatment, that is what we'd like from others as well.
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Old 02-28-2013, 05:20 PM   #5
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

One of my best friends has a baby with downs so we talked openly about it in detail. I still ask her lots of questions and she likes sharing her story. I also have a son with health issues and I'm really open about sharing his story with others. If you aren't close I'd just say congratulations just as you would with a healthy baby. Maybe ask if you could provide a meal for her family?
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Old 02-28-2013, 05:22 PM   #6
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I would say congratulations! An procede to ooo and ahh over how cute! My sons best friend hasdown syndrome. His mom says the greatest compliment anyone ever gives them is to treat him like he's normal and equal.
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

agreed! congrats on your new addition!
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

Definitely I'd say congrats, she is beautiful. Same as any other kid. Special needs just make kiddo awesome.
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Thanks for all the responses guys. I will definitely congratulate her on the new addition! He is surely loved. I understand why it doesn't have to be a different type of congrats than any other baby.
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Re: What to say to a woman who just had a baby with down's syndrome

To me it wouldn't be hard. Downs babies are beautiful.
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