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Old 03-04-2013, 12:43 PM   #11
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I'm so sorry. I have 3 boys and DH just had a vasectomy done last month and I have been depressed ever since. I just can't accept that I'll never have a daughter, and of course I torture myself thinking that my 2 miscarriages were my only chances for a girl. I'm honestly not sure its something I'll ever be able to come to terms with or "get over".
I felt like the miscarrages I had were my boys, too. This pregnancy has been different from the get go and I was so sure that meant boy. DH is getting a v when this baby is born. I don't want to have any more, pregnancy is hard and I am 35. But I am so sad about it.

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this is boy 4 for us as well. i cried for a few days after we found out. especially because at around 17 weeks, we had been told girl. i even bought her coming home outfit. ...

ugh.

when we found out it was a boy, i felt like i had disappointed everyone, including DH. i felt like i had let him down, because evidently i am incapable of giving him a girl. he said he didn't care. i felt like "no one is going to be excited about this baby because it's JUST another boy... we already have three, who cares?"

as time gets closer, i am so excited. will be 31 weeks in a couple of days, and i can not WAIT to bring him home. i've ordered his home coming outfit, gotten some cute clothes for him, picked out his carseat, bed, etc. i am just meant to be a mama to boys. God probably knows that a girl would do me in, and lead me to a nut farm.
I had 3 younger brothers and I love boy stuff. Hubby doesn't care at all, he told me this was a girl from the start. He's even been calling her the name we'd discussed.

Sigh. Maybe I will feel better as time gets closer to her birth. Today I am just feeling really sad. I went to a breastfeeding support group and everyone has little boys (except for me and another mama who are both due around the same time, she has a toddler girl and anther girl on the way).


My oldest is also turning 12 this week and I am feeling really sad about that, too.
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I am so sorry you're feeling this way, Helena.

I can say that I totally relate to the feelings of disappointment... and the dang guilt that goes with it. As you know, I was told girl at 16 weeks then boy at 20 weeks... I was devastated... My husband is adamant that he wants no more than 2 kids so while I am super happy and thankful this little boy is healthy, I can't help "mourning" the thought that I'll more than likely never convince hubby for a 3rd and most likely never have a daughter that I get to buy dresses/bows/girly stuff for.

I AM excited about the new baby though, and I know when he arrives that any/all feelings of disappointment are going to disappear.
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I had 3 younger brothers and I love boy stuff. Hubby doesn't care at all, he told me this was a girl from the start. He's even been calling her the name we'd discussed.

Sigh. Maybe I will feel better as time gets closer to her birth. Today I am just feeling really sad. I went to a breastfeeding support group and everyone has little boys (except for me and another mama who are both due around the same time, she has a toddler girl and anther girl on the way).


My oldest is also turning 12 this week and I am feeling really sad about that, too.
KWYM!! Of my 5 friends with similar age kiddos (4 with girls, 1with boys), they ALL got the opposite gender they wanted with their second /last kiddo. It just seems so unfair!
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I have 3 boys and I'm finally at a point that I can say if (when lol) #4 is another boy I will be ok. That has not always been the case though. At DS2's ultrasound I had to excuse myself to the bathroom and cried for at least 5 minutes. The car ride home was silent. I didn't tell anyone, not even my mom, for several days. I was a mess.

Just remember that you have a chance at 4 fantastic sons in law!!
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Congrats!! And look how adorable your little girl is in you profile pic!!! Hugs mama. Also out of your 4 daughters I am certain one will have a son one day so you will get your son it will just be a grandson
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