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Old 03-11-2013, 03:46 PM   #1
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Afraid of getting pregnant again

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post, as I'm not sure if I'm TTA but I'm definitely not TTC. I'm not even sure what kind of responses I'm looking for. I'm just confused I guess.

With my first, dh wanted to wait but I wanted to TTC right away. I understood his reasoning for wanting to wait, but I knew so many people with fertility issues I was scared it might take a while. I even told him that if we waited and then couldn't get pregnant that I wasn't sure I'd be able to not think "what if we could have if we tried earlier" and be able to forgive him for hurting our chances of having a baby. Well we got pregnant on the first "try" even though it was a couple of days early.

I figured we'd just do ecological breastfeeding to space out our children. Well DS was super high needs and was nursing every 40 minutes at night. Somehow I still got my period 3 months postpartum. I guess I figured we wouldn't get pregnant when I was still nursing so frequently because I don't remember worrying about getting pregnant. At 8 months pp I was late for a period so I took a pregnancy test and it was negative. I cried. I didn't think I wanted another baby yet, and I knew it would be hard, but it was then that I realized my heart wanted another. The next month I was late again, tested and still wasn't pregnant, and cried again. So then I started using OPKs. Found out I wasn't even ovulating in months 10 and 11 pp and so I thought that even though I was having a period, I wasn't ovulating since I was still breastfeeding around the clock. Next month (12 months pp) I got pregnant with DD. I was super surprised and excited.

So now we're up to the present. DD is 6 months old. I just got my first period a few weeks ago. And I can not stop thinking about how I don't want to get pregnant! And the weird thing is that she's an easy baby, so I don't know why I'm scared. Maybe because the only 2 times dh and I have dtd when I was ovulating I've gotten pregnant? lol.

We're Catholic and planned on just using nfp and eb. But I can't get accurate temps when I'm waking up to feed the baby so much (every 1-2 hours... she's teething...already has 6 at 6 months!). And my other signs seem all over the place when I'm breastfeeding (I couldn't read them when I was bf DS either).

So I'm not sure what to do. I want to want another baby. But I don't...I do, but not right now. I think I'm scared because DD still needs me SO much and I can't give her what she needs if I were to get pregnant soon.

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Old 03-11-2013, 06:18 PM   #2
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I know how you feel! DD3 was a nfp with breastfeeding fail. I love her, but the timing was all wrong.

We decided nfp on its own was too "iffy" right now and are using a diaphragm too.
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Old 03-11-2013, 06:23 PM   #3
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Re: Afraid of getting pregnant again

If opks worked the first time I would just use them again!
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I understand how you feel. I'm not sure if I ever want another one, but I'm not sure I don't. Keeping fingers crossed that the man upstairs has heard your plea for just a smidge more time before adding another blessing to your brood.
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Re: Afraid of getting pregnant again

We're Baptist, but we also have agreed to NTNP and leave it up to God. We had used condoms before and had gotton pregnant the 2nd cycle the first time and with the next two on the first cycle (the 3rd being the first cycle of NFP). We came to the agreement to stop all use of them 5 cycles ago now. So if we do get pregnant this time it will have taken 6 cycles. I'm rather shocked and honestly getting a little worried, but all in his good time if he so wills it. I've never tracked ovulation to get pregnant, just took the NTNPing route and boom. All this to say, I'm scared at times too, but trusting and God and I guess he knows I'm not ready. His timing is never wrong!!

ETA: There is a thread here of "Quiverfull"/Leaveing it to God mamas, they very encouraging, http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/....php?t=1405770
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Have you thought about using nonhormonal birth control - condoms, diaphram, copper IUD? It might give you some peace of mind.
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Thanks ladies. I knew birth control wasn't for us, I was just having a hard time with re-trusting that His timing would be best for our family.

It's been almost a month since I got my period back (and I'm not pregnant) so some of the initial shock and worry has faded. DH has offered to give me some room in the dtd department... At least until I feel more at peace.

So I guess I'm done here in the TTA forum. My week here was nice. Thanks!
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I feel just like you right now. We are Catholic also and do not use bc. My DD is also 6 months old, and even though I don't feel like we are done having kids, I can't imagine having any more right now! Between having 4 kiddos and homeschooling, I feel like I can never get any housework or cleaning done, and the thought of having more laundry (especially with cloth diapers in the mix!) and more dishes to do about makes me want to cry! But, I trust God and His perfect timing, so I'm sure if He decides to send us another baby, He will also send the grace for us to raise him/her!
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I'm so scared, we rarely dtd. ha! One can never be too safe.
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Re: Afraid of getting pregnant again

I have a two month old and confused too!! I want to attempt nfp but had very irregular periods prior to conception (metformin and clomid baby!) of current LO. I just want my period to come back so I know how to proceed. DH hates condoms, so a diaphragm may be our next step.
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