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Old 05-03-2013, 09:14 AM   #51
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Thanks I am really struggling with my emotions right now I guess. I just feel like I don't belong anywhere everyone around me is pregnant, like I said I'm struggling right now. Thanks for the welcome though I really appreciate it.
We all here know too much about emotions. I felt I didn't fit here last summer when I knew I would have issues after the trial conceiving my first. Then I had my first m/c. Then my second m/c. Then my third m/c. Now the doctor wants me taking more meds than drinking water, and I'm thinking OMG, I've become the person who has more meds listed in her signature than a pharmacy.

We know exactly how you feel, and this is the BEST place to get hugs when everyone else around you gets scared to hug you for fear its the wrong thing to do. Welcome!!!!

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Old 05-03-2013, 01:14 PM   #52
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Well AF showed this morning....

I also found out my step sister is pregnant with her second and due in Dec.


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I chuckled a bit. I'm more defective than you, so that's a good thing. Only in the world of insurance and infertility, I'm afraid....
I detest my insurance. It's a love hate relationship. I'm glad I have it, but it irks me to no end that because I have a live child, acording to them I don't suffer from infertility.

AFM, I got a spike on an OPK a few days ago, but it still hasn't gone down, adn I never felt O. I always feel it. So I'm wondering if my body geared up and then didn't release it. IDK what to think because I wasn't temping this month. I guess next cycle I need to temp. But then again next cycle I"m going to be monitored more carefully too and starting meds but we've decided just to time since I"m still in school at that point and the following cycle we start IUIs.
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Do you know what I wish? I wish that when people ask me how my doctor appointment went, and I tell them, that their first response isn't "are you REALLY gonna go through all that to have another baby? I mean, you already have one." Even my own mother is trying to convince me that I'm going to die if I have a baby, and she's always been my go to. I feel very alone, and wish I could chat with someone who understands that its scary, but I would consider it.

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Do you know what I wish? I wish that when people ask me how my doctor appointment went, and I tell them, that their first response isn't "are you REALLY gonna go through all that to have another baby? I mean, you already have one." Even my own mother is trying to convince me that I'm going to die if I have a baby, and she's always been my go to. I feel very alone, and wish I could chat with someone who understands that its scary, but I would consider it.

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That's horrible. My husbands co workers said the same thing now that I'm dealing with a probable 3rd miscarriage in a row. I really wish people would keep their opinions to themselves when they haven't walked a mile in your shoes.

I say "good for you!" Try again. And again if you want to. There is nothing worse than the empty feeling of loss at a time like this. Having a goal or a plan makes a big difference in the healing process I am finding. Nobody should feel like they have a say in how many children you have especially when they have no idea what a loss feels like.
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Hi ladies!

I wondered if I might join you. We likely won't be having any more kids because it would require IVF which we can't afford and insurance doesn't cover. But still, I feel like I don't know many people who can relate and I know you ladies can. Just been feeling really alone in all of this and was hoping maybe getting to know others who understand might help!

We have two kids but it took a lot to get them here. I've always wanted three or four. I don't feel like our family is complete and it's hard not feeling like you actually get to make the decision that you no longer add to your family, know what I mean? Infertility is still painful and being surrounded by several people expecting a baby is hard too. Sigh.

Anyway do you have room for one more?
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That's horrible. My husbands co workers said the same thing now that I'm dealing with a probable 3rd miscarriage in a row. I really wish people would keep their opinions to themselves when they haven't walked a mile in your shoes.

I say "good for you!" Try again. And again if you want to. There is nothing worse than the empty feeling of loss at a time like this. Having a goal or a plan makes a big difference in the healing process I am finding. Nobody should feel like they have a say in how many children you have especially when they have no idea what a loss feels like.
Thanks - I'm going to get to talk to my BFF tonight. While she doesn't understand ANY of this (tbh, I doubt she even knows she ovulates 2 weeks into a cycle) and has always had kids really easy, but she's super supportive, and if I tell her I'm looking for someone to say, go for it you'll be fine, that's exactly what she'll say (likewise, if she's looking one day for me to say to "leave that loser" and the next day to rave about what a wonderful husband he his, I will - ultimately we just want each other to be happy and know we need someone in our corner). So I'm looking forward to that!

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Hi ladies!

I wondered if I might join you. We likely won't be having any more kids because it would require IVF which we can't afford and insurance doesn't cover. But still, I feel like I don't know many people who can relate and I know you ladies can. Just been feeling really alone in all of this and was hoping maybe getting to know others who understand might help!

We have two kids but it took a lot to get them here. I've always wanted three or four. I don't feel like our family is complete and it's hard not feeling like you actually get to make the decision that you no longer add to your family, know what I mean? Infertility is still painful and being surrounded by several people expecting a baby is hard too. Sigh.

Anyway do you have room for one more?
Welcome! We are all in different stages of the journey, but I think you will find kindred spirits here! I'm so sorry for your struggles...
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Thanks, Hope4More!

I guess I will do a quick introduction. My name is Melanie and DH is Doug. We'll have been married 13 years next month.

To make a long story short, I have endometriosis. It took a lap and 27 months to conceive our son. It then took 4+ years including another lap before we finally decided to go the IVF route. We were so thankful to have it work the first time (we only could afford once and had no embryos to freeze) and that resulted in our daughter. We've not avoided since DD was born since we knew it wasn't likely to happen on its own anyway and here we are over 2 years later.

I'm going to see a specialist who deals with endo a lot on the 30th of May and am probably looking at another lap. I have a lot of adhesions and I know he's going to want to remove my right ovary. DH hates that I'm having a third lap and if its really bad in there when the doctor does the lap we may decide to just do a hysterectomy.

Meanwhile I still really want a third child, maybe even a fourth if we had been able to just have kids when we want. So not getting to choose the size of our family has been hard for me to let go of and I'm still not there yet. I go through cycles. Right now I'm having a baby fever cycle. LOL I do wonder, sometimes, if that desire to add another child to our family will ever go away.

So there we are I look forward to getting to know all of you!
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Welcome to all the new ladies! We are so glad to have you here. To save me time and headache could you please add your info in this format (in red) so all I have to do is cut and past and change colors into the top post. Thanks so much!

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**ALSO: as I was going through the top thread there are several ladies under actively TTC who I believe actually belong in graduates or praying to make it. If you ladies check by will you please toss me your update. And if I deleted anyone who is still coming by, please just put an update for me, it was unintentional for sure.
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