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Old 05-13-2013, 11:47 AM   #11
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I'm shocked at this. I don't get that impression from you here on DS at all. Kind of the opposite actually.
LOL maybe I'm more outspoken on DS b/c I don't have to speak face-to-face to a person.

Plus, I am pretty awful when I have hormonal rage issues. I calm down a whole lot when I am no longer pregnant.

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Old 05-13-2013, 11:56 AM   #12
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LOL maybe I'm more outspoken on DS b/c I don't have to speak face-to-face to a person.

Plus, I am pretty awful when I have hormonal rage issues. I calm down a whole lot when I am no longer pregnant.
Funny, I'm the opposite. I think I'm more timid online than in reality - I don't mince words when in a real confrontation with anyone, but for some reason I do a lot of second-guessing of my own posts here on DS. I'm afraid of the indelibility of the written word and how people might be able to turn it against me, or gang-flaming, etc.

You write very well. Concisely, logically, and confidently. I'd try writing a letter to the doc's office expressing exactly how you feel about the whole situation - maybe just rephrase "snot" - and you might be surprised with a positive response. I might even walk in, explain that you are better with writing than verbalizing, hand the letter to the doctor or the young nurse and ask them to read it right there, if you don't want a long turnaround time.
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Old 05-13-2013, 12:42 PM   #13
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Funny, I'm the opposite. I think I'm more timid online than in reality - I don't mince words when in a real confrontation with anyone, but for some reason I do a lot of second-guessing of my own posts here on DS. I'm afraid of the indelibility of the written word and how people might be able to turn it against me, or gang-flaming, etc.

You write very well. Concisely, logically, and confidently. I'd try writing a letter to the doc's office expressing exactly how you feel about the whole situation - maybe just rephrase "snot" - and you might be surprised with a positive response. I might even walk in, explain that you are better with writing than verbalizing, hand the letter to the doctor or the young nurse and ask them to read it right there, if you don't want a long turnaround time.

I think I post before really thinking about how "indelible" my post is. ....and that is definitely something I should work on.....

At any rate - I may write a letter. But I am not sure what good that will do if I don't intend to leave the practice? I understand the purpose of it in theory - to let the doctor and nurse know that not all patients are happy with the staff change and that the nurse may be coming off as a little rough around the edges. But in practice, I think all it will really do is add another dimension of awkward-ness to the situation. Then she'll know I don't care for her attitude, and they will also know I don't intend to follow their suggestion of bringing my kids to well-checks...

I think I'm over-thinking this. I kind of feel like a moron right now.

I guess I'll just keep going and see what happens. I don't have much other choice. I really do wish there were more vax-friendly docs in my area.

ETA: of COURSE I wouldn't call the nurse a snot in my letter (if I wrote one)... I was trying to convey her attitude through describing her. Probably not very nice, eh? A good example of how I post without thinking!

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No advice really, but I totally understand! We don't vax and so I prefer not to take them to well visits. I can see that they are growing like weeds myself. Our last ped wouldn't see them for a sick visit anymore because they had not been to well visits. For crying out loud! What kind of a *doctor* won't see a *sick* person just because you didn't bring them in when there were *not sick*. So absurd! Anyway we'll be trying out a new ped in a few weeks for the new baby so here's to hoping this one's better about it.
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I think the letter should be to the doctor not the nurse. The doctor is the nurses boss. He/she is who should then deal with the nurse. The nurse may figure out the letter is from you. Then again I bet she is behaving similarly to other patients/parents since you said this Dr. is the only one who will accept non vax children.
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Can you try to schedule appts that don't have that nurse involved? I've to receptionists straight up " I don't like so-and-so, can we see someone else?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't (and sometimes I can hear they agree with me that the person is difficult).

And keep in mind, you pay them. They work for you.
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No advice really, but I totally understand! We don't vax and so I prefer not to take them to well visits. I can see that they are growing like weeds myself. Our last ped wouldn't see them for a sick visit anymore because they had not been to well visits. For crying out loud! What kind of a *doctor* won't see a *sick* person just because you didn't bring them in when there were *not sick*. So absurd! Anyway we'll be trying out a new ped in a few weeks for the new baby so here's to hoping this one's better about it.
Oh no, that is crazy! I am hoping we don't encounter the same issue. I hope your new doctor works out great!
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No advice really, but I totally understand! We don't vax and so I prefer not to take them to well visits. I can see that they are growing like weeds myself. Our last ped wouldn't see them for a sick visit anymore because they had not been to well visits. For crying out loud! What kind of a *doctor* won't see a *sick* person just because you didn't bring them in when there were *not sick*. So absurd! Anyway we'll be trying out a new ped in a few weeks for the new baby so here's to hoping this one's better about it.
This is the sole reason we do well baby checks. My middle child suddenly developed a seizure disorder at 11 months of age. It took weeks to get him in to see a doctor. Now we go for well checks on the off chance I need a doctor right now.
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Re: Disappointed with our Ped. :/ Vent - pls help me work through this.

Since you don't really have much of an option just keep going and deal with her. Don't let her crappy attitude affect you so much. Can you imagine what her life must be like if she is that horrible at work? I bet she is super unhappy or doesn't have a sex life
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I think the letter should be to the doctor not the nurse. The doctor is the nurses boss. He/she is who should then deal with the nurse. The nurse may figure out the letter is from you. Then again I bet she is behaving similarly to other patients/parents since you said this Dr. is the only one who will accept non vax children.
I see your point. ... I think I'm kind of confused why it would be okay before for me to skip them and suddenly it's a big deal. I get the nurse saying something, b/c of her own convictions, or whatever... but why the doctor? Did he not notice we were skipping well visits before and now that it's been brought to his attention, he's saying something? Did he not care before but now is changing his mind? Is the nurse pressuring him to say something?

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Can you try to schedule appts that don't have that nurse involved? I've to receptionists straight up " I don't like so-and-so, can we see someone else?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't (and sometimes I can hear they agree with me that the person is difficult).

And keep in mind, you pay them. They work for you.
There's only one nurse, unfortunately. I can try to ask next time I schedule a visit, but I am doubtful.

I am thinking about scheduling another appointment to do the 2 month check up and my YDD's yearly physical (I do prefer to do a yearly physical for each kid), and then at that appointment just letting them know I won't be coming back in unless there is a concern or they are sick, or I am bringing them for their yearly check up. But I worry that would be too straight-forward and not received well. What do ya'll think?
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