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Old 06-24-2013, 02:05 PM   #1
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When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

With my first, bfing was so difficult, I was so misinformed, and my support was lacking, so I gave up fairly early on. With my daughter, she is now 9 months and we are still ebf. Early on I tried bottles with expressed breastmilk and I had to stop. The pump made me seriously agitated, so I stopped pumping, skipped out on a "freezer stash," and just nursed her.

So to keep myself commited, I set small goals. First a month...then 2...then 3...then 4...then 5.5 months which was where I gave up with my first. And now we are at 9 months and going strong. I guess it was so hard the first go that I never really thought about the long term this time. My new goal is a year, but I have no "end goal" and intend to wean when we are both ready.

How old is your nursling and did you anticipate making it this far?

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Old 06-24-2013, 03:04 PM   #2
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

With my son (who is now 4.5 years old) I did hope to make it a year. I didn't really know what to expect as he was my first take home child and I had issues with my prior children and pumping. Turns out he was fully weaned at 2 weeks shy of his first birthday.

This baby I know what to expect a bit more so I am hoping to go 2 years if not a bit longer. I learned a lot with my son and I learned what made my supply go down with him. So I am going to avoid that with newbie.

I don't know if I will succeed but I hoping for the best and I have VERY good motivators to make me succeed (I will have to go on hormone replacement therapy if I don't succeed). So we will see.
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Old 06-24-2013, 03:15 PM   #3
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

I didn't. My first I EBF until 8 months, and my pregnancy dried my supply up. My second was 2 1/2 or some odd years, and we were both done. This one will be however long it works out. I don't like putting that kind of pressure on myself.
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

I did and those goals have changed.

I originally planned for 2 years and due to a lot of circumstances I will be happy to make it to 8 months.
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

My goal is a year, but I'm flexible. I wouldn't mind going longer, but if things do not work out, I'd be willing to go a shorter time and not stress about it too much.
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

I am the first person in my family to successfully breastfeed, so I started out with pretty low expectations and goals. My goal was to make it 3 weeks. I was going to do WHAT EVER IT TAKES to make it 3 weeks. Then it was 3 months, then 6 months, and that was really hard - months 4 and 5 were terrible! Once I got past 6 months, my goal became a year. I won't continue on past my year though (3 more days!!!!).
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I have tiny goals. We had a bad try with my daughter and didn't know enough to continue.

With my son, we had a horrible go at it as well. Crying in pain for each nursing session and crying at the thought of the next. But much better support system this time and education to avoid the mistakes i made with DD. Barely got the scabs healed and now I see and feel a purple bruise on one nipple. He's 11 weeks now.

At first, it was to 3 weeks -same as DD. then it was to when my doula came to see me at 6 weeks. Then things got easier. I take each growth spurt at a time. Looking at one in the next week or so.

Overall goal is a year, but some days that seems really far. So 3 months, 6 months...
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

My goal was a year and I have been very lucky and we have had a good BFing relationship- so I anticipate going the next 6 months at least and perhaps longer if it works out.
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My first goal was 6 months, then a year. Around 12 months that changed to self weaning, but now at almost 15 months I'm not sure. I still pump some when I work, and I almost over it and ready to call it quits with the pump. I'm afraid if I do that though my supply will tank, because somedays I work 12+ hours. So right now it's just one day at a time, enjoying whatever nursing time I have left.
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Old 06-27-2013, 12:27 AM   #10
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Re: When you started bfing did you set long term goals?

With DD#1 I was young and uneducated with BFing. I introduced formula at that 6 week growth spurt and my milk supply went down so I went completely to formula when she was 8 months old or so. When I was pregnant with DD#2 I was committed to BFing fully, heck, I even had a homebirth My goal was 2 years, I never set smaller ones, I was committed to 2 years. Little did I know I was going to get pregnant when she was 5 months shy of that 2 year mark, but I kept going She self weaned a few weeks after turning 2 due to my milk supply diminishing from my pregnancy. I planned to tandem if she wanted but when baby #3 was born DD#2 had no desire to. So far I'm almost 5 months into nursing DD#3 and I plan to continue until she self weans; hopefully not until she's at least 2 years old though.
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