Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 06-18-2006, 01:25 PM   #11
SheilaJoy
I grow people
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Posts: 4,322
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

It would bother me a great deal, and I wouldn't accept it. I know when I wanted to dress in "goth" in high school it was because I was severely depressed and black was the best way to express how I felt about myself and life in general. I noticed the same trend with the other "goths" I knew. I think it's a lot more than just a different clothing style.

Advertisement

SheilaJoy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-18-2006, 08:14 PM   #12
amanda1188's Avatar
amanda1188
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Alabama
Posts: 523
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

Just for the record,we are "country" and from Alabama and my 17yo dd(stepdd, she has lived with us for 4 years) does dress like this . She also has her hair dyed black,purple and blue (yes,all at once) and has her nose and lip pierced and a tatoo. That being said, we have absolutely no problem with any of this if it makes her happy. She is a very happy,loving girl & not depressed whatsoever. I have homeschooled her and I know first hand that she is a wonderful student that made very good grades & she just graduated. She only has a few close friends & a boyfriend that we know very well and she's not out drinking and doing drugs, because they spend all of their time at our house hanging out, because believe it or not, she actually likes to be around us because we let her be who she is, not who we think she should be. The way she dresses has nothing to do with the way she acts. It is ONLY appearance. Just a little hair dye, some clothes, and some jewelry (even if it might be pierced in some different places than the rest of us). Really it all depends on how well you know your child and sometimes goth is nothing more than a "clothing style". Just my .
__________________
~Mandi~
Mom to Sophie 3/02, Lilly 10/05 and Jack 1/09
amanda1188 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-18-2006, 08:17 PM   #13
worldwarcaitlin's Avatar
worldwarcaitlin
Registered
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Star City, Virginia
Posts: 2,429
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

I wouldn't care as long as he was still focusing on school and not drinking/doing drugs. I wouldn't want his fashion sense to take over his whole life and personality. I couldn't complain really because I'm not a conventional mom. I'd rather he be into more punk rock than the gothic though, his father and I'd be proud.
worldwarcaitlin is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-18-2006, 08:40 PM   #14
Shannon's Avatar
Shannon
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Posts: 8,790
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

It's definitly not a look I prefer, or that I would encourage. I want my girls to be girly girls(like me) but you know, there are a lot of things that I would put my foot down on before them dressing in all black or goth or whatever. It is a misconception that goths are devil worshipers...I thought that for the longest time...mostly installed in me by my parents....but having grown up a bit, and also met some of these teenagers that dress...uh...differently now..they are generally good kids. Clothes don't make the person. And I know that the preppy, clean cut kids are doing just as bad of stuff as the goths...sometimes worse.

I have to admit though, I still stare at them. Not because I'm embarrassed for them, or look down on them, but because the stuff they come up with to wear nowadays is just awesome. They have the neatest belts and shoes. I'd never wear them but their outfits are just so cool to look at all the details.

Did you all know the newest style( I learned this from some teens I used to work with) is for guys to wear tight GIRL jeans? One of the girls was like "Oh it's so hot" and I was like "Gag!" I couldn't look at my DH without busting up if he tried a style like that....LOL But now we see boys all the time in TIGHT jeans(tight legs even) girl jeans that sag?!?!? WIERD! And mohawks seem to be the going thing...
__________________
Currently Single mommy to Aspen (7), Chloe (5) and Layla (3)

Marrying my wonderful Fiancee' Rodney on 6/26/20010
[/COLOR]Expecting to TTC in July 2010
Shannon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-18-2006, 08:45 PM   #15
SandyG's Avatar
SandyG
Moderator at heart, but no longer moderator
The best way I know of to win an argument is to start by being in the right
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Yuma AZ
Posts: 13,777
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

it would totally bother me. and i know it would bother dh.
__________________
SAHM to David (5) ; wife to my sweetie. Praise the Lord
sorry Im not around as I use to be
Old DS Feedback DP Feedback www.americansolutions.com--take action NOW!!
SandyG is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-18-2006, 08:50 PM   #16
ZooCrew10's Avatar
ZooCrew10
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Eastern TN - in the Smokies!
Posts: 2,100
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

Quote:
Originally Posted by amanda1188
Really it all depends on how well you know your child and sometimes goth is nothing more than a "clothing style". Just my .
I agree!
__________________
Carson ~~ Wifey to Sam, Mom to a blend of 8 crazy kids!
WAHMama taking a break for pre-nursing school!
~ Gallery ~ Blog ~
ZooCrew10 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2006, 03:46 AM   #17
nothing_butt_cloth's Avatar
nothing_butt_cloth
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Under the Rainbow
Posts: 2,900
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

I dont care, i think if you push them out of the phase or whatever, it just gets worse. BUT my girls will not wear anything slutty. i hate when my friend buys her teenage girls stuff i woul dnever allow my kdis to wear. She encourages it.

in about 2 years my oldest will not even be allowed tank tops, let alone other clothes no little girls( or teenage girl) should wear.
but goth. I dont care, I am half punk. it depends on teh day. i want more punk clothes, but i cant afford what i like. ( its hard to find some modest punk stuff sometimes)
__________________
Melissa, At home, homeschooling, proud LDS Mom to 3 miracles on Earth, 5 angels in heaven, Nothing butt cloth is now closed. Thank you for 5 years of support.
nothing_butt_cloth is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2006, 04:49 AM   #18
jennyofthemoon's Avatar
jennyofthemoon
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Posts: 1,008
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Shannon

Did you all know the newest style( I learned this from some teens I used to work with) is for guys to wear tight GIRL jeans? One of the girls was like "Oh it's so hot" and I was like "Gag!" I couldn't look at my DH without busting up if he tried a style like that....LOL But now we see boys all the time in TIGHT jeans(tight legs even) girl jeans that sag?!?!? WIERD! And mohawks seem to be the going thing...

I recently ran a booth at a career fair at a local high school, and I could NOT get over the jeans the guys wore. Seriously, it was just WEIRD. But whatever...onto the goth thing. We have a new family tha just moved in two doors up. Their older dd is 16, she dresseed in ALL black, I mean ALL black. The little kids on the street thing she is bizaree, but she is the NICEST 16 year old girl I have met in a LONG time. The funniest part is she is always teellign me how much she likes my cloths,, and I wear mostly pink and purple

My kids are little now, and I let them dress however they want. MY 3 1/2 yo always has on a dress with legs that don't match lol my son always looks flaming gay (at 5 whatever...seirously, think drag queen here lol) and my 7 yo thinks the more skin showing the better. But they wear what they like. Personally, I think that clothing is just clothing, and whatever they like is fine...I really dislike when people automatically assume they know everything about you based on how you dress, but I also hope that my children will choose kind, open-minded people to befriend that will get to know the "real" people under the clothes, regardless of if they wear leather and chains or a potato sack.
__________________
mama to A, J L and S
jennyofthemoon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2006, 07:35 AM   #19
MamaZ's Avatar
MamaZ
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 4,119
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

I wouldn't mind. It's a time in their lives when they are searching for who they are and they are going to want to try to do everything. I say go ahead
__________________
~Tiffanie~
Ashlee due April 18th
Dylin (5/24/02) Amber (1/2/06) Autumn (8/31/07)
MamaZ is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2006, 08:26 AM   #20
amanda1188's Avatar
amanda1188
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Alabama
Posts: 523
My Mood:
Re: Kids and clothes, what would you do?

My dd's boyfriend wears girl jeans sometimes. And to make matters worse, he's so skinny he wears a size 1 . What a man!
__________________
~Mandi~
Mom to Sophie 3/02, Lilly 10/05 and Jack 1/09
amanda1188 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.