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Old 09-07-2013, 07:55 PM   #1
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18m pinching everyone - help!

My daughter did NOT do this and I am at a loss on what to do. DS is 18m and will just pinch for absolutely no reason. He does it ALOT. We have gotten several notes from his daycare about cutting his nails, which we do but they are as low as I want to cut them. He starts as a scratch but then grabs skin and pinches/pulls. It hurts!

I don't know what to do to get him to stop. We are saying, No, ouchie, nice hands but he just giggles. I don't think he's trying to be MEAN because its never when he's provoked or upset, we will just be playing on the floor and he will reach over and do it.

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Immediate negative consequences. He can understand right from wrong at this point so EVERY time he pinches he gets a swift and direct punishment. What they should be is a parenting choice - it could be time out, loss of privileges, etc..... he doesn't need to understand it hurts, you can teach him that its not OK to do and that will be enough IMO. He probably just thinks its a game - so you make it clear its NOT.
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Old 09-07-2013, 10:15 PM   #3
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Re: 18m pinching everyone - help!

I found overreaction helped at that age/with hurtful actions. Pretending to burst into tears from the pain, turning away, having another adult step in and say "ouch! You hurt mama. People don't want to be around those who hurt them. You go to your room while I see if she is ok."

Or, if the child responds well to the hurt they caused, you can immediately have them "check on the person & make sure they are ok" - hugs, kisses, gentle touches, sorry, etc. Otherwise I would do this part after they come out of their room/timeout.

ETA: I know your pain, mama. I have a 20mos old, who when she doesn't get her way with me, goes over to her 3yr old sister & pushes her over! I was not prepared to handle that as my first DD did nothing like that ever!
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Old 09-07-2013, 10:38 PM   #4
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I agree with the overreaction. Yell "OW!" and pull yourself away...look all horrified like he just tazered you.
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I spank hands at that age. I would tap him on the hand and say ouch. I know that may not be a popular vote though.
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I agree with the overreaction. Yell "OW!" and pull yourself away...look all horrified like he just tazered you.
That would've made it a game to DS1! He had a bigger hitting problem, though.

I tried everything with DS2, now I just hold his hand and tell him no. Nothing works with him. GL!

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Immediate negative consequences. He can understand right from wrong at this point so EVERY time he pinches he gets a swift and direct punishment. What they should be is a parenting choice - it could be time out, loss of privileges, etc..... he doesn't need to understand it hurts, you can teach him that its not OK to do and that will be enough IMO. He probably just thinks its a game - so you make it clear its NOT.
I agree.
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