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Old 11-19-2013, 07:09 PM   #1
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Aack the holiday drama has started already (rant)

Just wanted to quilt in peace and go to bed early. Is that too much to ask? :-(

On one side, we have a violent convicted felon and lots of people too polite to say. "I don't want him around my kids." I can 't blame them... It's really hard to tell your parents you refuse to have your kid and your brother in the same house. Maybe ever. But I did it , and so can you. Man up.
Pass the wine, please.

On the other side we have ongoing prima donna drama compounded by my ILs who, while sweet, are clueless to the monster they have created. I am trying to be a good DIL. Please allow me to say two things that cannot (should not) be said IRL:
1. You reap what you sow, honey. You can only make so many nasty comments about the family (most of which are lies, btw, i know this for a fact) before they decide to stop associating with you. A teensy bit of effort is all that was called for, but it is too late. So don 't whine to me about not having family to visit on Christmas Day. It was always your choice.
2. I understand that you want to protect your kids, and I appreciate that it extends to us DILs. However, it seems like the one who apparently gets unlimited Camp Nana time should be expected to exert herself a wee bit , on occasion. Yes, you want to spend time with your grandsons, but the fact that your granddaughter is not moving, and her daddy comes home at night, doesn't make her less deserving or less in need of, your love and attention. I know that you love her. I just worry that some day she'll resent you, the same way I resent my parents.

Thank you for the free therapy. Anyone else wish it was Jan already???

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Old 11-19-2013, 07:49 PM   #2
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Old 11-20-2013, 09:49 AM   #3
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bummer. As a grown adult, I have a lot of resentment towards my grandmother for some of these very same reasons. I think it comes from being the baby for 18 years and feeling like I got a small amount of grandma time, and then the new baby came along and she got her own room at grandmas, she was cared for BY grandma after school for, well ever. I have to keep reminding myself that this is good change and Kate has gotten the best of grandma because that just happened to be the time in her life when she was able to do those things. It doesn't make me want it any less though. I think it is good to help guard their tiny hearts.
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I feel you on the violent felon brother...
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ugh, no advice but that sounds like a super fun holiday!
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ugh, you are being an awesome wife and DIL though.
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Old 11-20-2013, 06:33 PM   #8
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Thank you for the free therapy. Anyone else wish it was Jan already???
December 15th, I only have to make it to dec 15th. That's my chant!!! I'm lucky we have christmas then they leave town for the winter at that point. Unfortunately we didn't happen to dodge Thanksgiving this year. But at least we get to enjoy Christmas day with just us and the 6kids.

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ugh, you are being an awesome wife and DIL though.
And an incredible mother, protecting your kids even though it's complicated. Sounds like your doing a great job. I know its hard that they don't feel that way but oh well, my parents and in-laws are not the ones I'm responsible for, they can put on their big girl panties of they have too.
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