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Old 06-08-2007, 09:38 AM   #1
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I swear everytime I talk to my mom, my Grandparents or my great grandma....the one enevitable question comes up or I get their unsolicited advice...wean her. She needs to be off the boob now. What are you gonna nurse her until she goes to school?
She's only 20 months old, and if I want to nurse her until she's 4, THAT'S MY DECISION. So back the freak up and let me raise my own child.

Argh, I'm just sick of defending my choice to let my daughter self wean. Any ideas on how to get my family off my butt about it? Or is it just one of those things that they will always have an opinion on? Geeezzzz!!

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Old 06-08-2007, 09:43 AM   #2
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I get it too. My dh was just telling my dd last night, won't be long until you're two and you don't get it anymore. I was like, I'm not sure about that. I don't really know what to do but I would like to hear what others have done. I worry more about him than anyone. I'm going to florida in about 2 weeks and I know my uncle will give me a TON of crap about it. Not looking forward to it. Oh well I'm with you, it should be NO one elses' business except mom and baby.
I personally don't even think I should need to take into account dh's perspective when the only reason he says she should wean is "because it looks bad" that in mo is not the BEST reason to do it. LOL
At least we're not alone in this battle!!
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Old 06-08-2007, 10:02 AM   #3
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What are you gonna nurse her until she goes to school?
My answer would be... Yep, probably up until college.
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Old 06-08-2007, 10:14 AM   #4
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Doesn't matter what you say, they comments will just keep on coming. Trust me. Best case scenario is that they'll stop making the comments to you and just talk about it behind your back, that is my experience anyway.

Just let it roll of your back and when your kid is older and well-adjusted just remember that the proof is in the pudding. I know for me it has resulted in a super snuggly kiddo. Nothing like having your child come up to you out of the blue and give you a "kiss attack". We made it to 3.5 years.
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I've always been of the mindset that once they start eating solid foods, that's the first step to weaning. So when someone asks when I'm going to wean my DS, I just tell them that he's weaning on his own, so I'm not going to take any drastic measures.
I don't bother to mention that it may take him another couple of years to complete this process.
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Tell them you'll wean her when she has boobs of her own.
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Old 06-08-2007, 11:03 AM   #7
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Tell them you'll wean her when she has boobs of her own.
i love that one!!!!!

i'm getting it already and brighton is only 10 months old, he's getting told "you're almost one, 2 more months of it buddy". i say ummmmm i said i was nursing him until he's AT LEAST one.". blerg.....i mean he mostly nurses....only gets "real food" here and there.....i don't know what to do either.....*sigh*
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My answer would be... Yep, probably up until college.

I'm so using that

I'm not close with my own extended family (who I am sure would have something to say), just my immediate family. Luckily, they are cool with it because my mom bf'd all of us, and one of my sisters nursed until she was 4. We're very much a "to each their own" family anyway.

My MIL and SIL, however, give me the shocked "she still does THAT?" in disgusted and hushed tones. MIL never breastfed and SIL (who is pregnant with her first) has made various comments like "oh yeah, America really wants to see that" (re: me nursing dd in public when she was 6 months), or "gross! I'll never bf, I don't want some kid sucking on my chichis". I actually get quite a bit of pleasure out of shocking them sometimes, but it's also irritating and I wish they would just let me be. Anytime they ask "when are you going to wean?" I just say "I don't know" and smile.

I also agree with pp that best case scenario is that they stop saying stuff to your face, and start talking about it behind your back. That seems to be happening somewhat in my case...
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Re: Ok Seriously, get off my BACK!!

There isn't much you can do, but there are a couple of things you can stop doing. Stop defending yourself to them, it's not their business. Stop discussing it at all in fact, and change the subject.

"So when are you going to wean that baby?"
"Would you like another cup of coffee?"
"Seriously, how long are you going to keep it up?"
"How about a muffin?"
"You're not answering me."
"So what do you think of this weather we've been having?"

Or, you could start asking them questions about things that are none of your business ("So, is Dad?Grandpa/Great-Grandpa on Viagra yet?", or "Looks like you've been eating on a good pasture lately, how much weight have you gained anyhow?"), instead of the weather, too. That was meant to be funny, I don't think I'd have the nerve to enter that territory.
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Old 06-08-2007, 11:52 AM   #10
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Oh I get that from my DH's side of the family too. My mom breastfed all 7 of us for a year or more, so she knows that it is up to me. My MIL though keeps saying things like "soon I will be able to take the kids overnight since you will be weaning the baby in a few months." Umm excuse me?! I just tell her that I don't know when I'll wean him. Plus she doesn't realize that I don't want to leave my kids even for a few hours with her, so overnight is definitely not in the near future. This will be fun battle soon.
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