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Old 06-08-2007, 12:20 PM   #11
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There isn't much you can do, but there are a couple of things you can stop doing. Stop defending yourself to them, it's not their business. Stop discussing it at all in fact, and change the subject.

"So when are you going to wean that baby?"
"Would you like another cup of coffee?"
"Seriously, how long are you going to keep it up?"
"How about a muffin?"
"You're not answering me."
"So what do you think of this weather we've been having?"

Or, you could start asking them questions about things that are none of your business ("So, is Dad?Grandpa/Great-Grandpa on Viagra yet?", or "Looks like you've been eating on a good pasture lately, how much weight have you gained anyhow?"), instead of the weather, too. That was meant to be funny, I don't think I'd have the nerve to enter that territory.
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Oh I get that from my DH's side of the family too. My mom breastfed all 7 of us for a year or more, so she knows that it is up to me. My MIL though keeps saying things like "soon I will be able to take the kids overnight since you will be weaning the baby in a few months." Umm excuse me?! I just tell her that I don't know when I'll wean him. Plus she doesn't realize that I don't want to leave my kids even for a few hours with her, so overnight is definitely not in the near future. This will be fun battle soon.

hehe, i wouldn't leave my kids with my MIL either....ever....ever.....ever

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Old 06-08-2007, 12:48 PM   #12
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Re: Ok Seriously, get off my BACK!!

I was nursing DS#1 in the mall when he was about 15 months old...some lady walked over to me and asked "When do you plan to stop doing that?" She had this ugly smirk on her face like she was disgusted...

I replied with "In about 10 minutes or so, would you like to be next?"

She was speachless, and stormed away.

I told that story to my MIL and added that it really wasn't anyone's business how long I chose to nurse MY children. She must have passed that along to the rest of the family (which was my hope) because no one has ever said a word since...at least not about that issue (they still bug me about co-sleeping and babywearing)

Just as a side note here...my IL's are hispanic, and there is only 1 or 2 members of the family who have breastfed (and only for 2-6 months). I have never really asked, but dh says that everyone thinks it makes fat babies??? FIL did say one time that my MIL did not breastfeed because it was too hard after having a C-Section and he did most of the feedings for the first month. And I only mentioned that they are Hispanic because we spent 4 weeks in Mexico 2 years ago and breastfeeding is the norm...it was awesome to be in the grocery store and see moms breastfeeding their babies as they walked around the store...sitting on the bus breatfeeding babies...everywhere there were moms feeding their babies and doing it comfortably

I don't want to start a heated discussion here...just sharing an observation I have made and wondering if others have similar experiences or any comments.
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Old 06-08-2007, 12:51 PM   #13
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Lol those are pretty funny! Luckily, all of my family lives 2-3 hours away so I only have to hear it on the phone and when they come down, and my MIL is very supportive of me nursing even though she didn't nurse her kids, she wishes she had and doesn't mind me nursing at their house. FIL - a bit of a different story, but he never says anything to my face.

eta : my boyfriend and his parents are hispanic as well. My family is heinz 57 white lol, so that may be a factor actually.

that's hilarious...I'll have to remember that the next time someone gives me a dirty look for nip
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I was nursing DS#1 in the mall when he was about 15 months old...some lady walked over to me and asked "When do you plan to stop doing that?" She had this ugly smirk on her face like she was disgusted...

I replied with "In about 10 minutes or so, would you like to be next?"

She was speachless, and stormed away.

thats great!!! I hope I can remember that one.
I too have gotten this and my baby was only 6 months. 6 months! the MIL said oh I thought you were done nursing? (even though I have a website for the baby's progress which says I will do it till he is at least 1.5 years old. ) she thought I stopped cause I was pumped one time and he had a bottle. she still asks if I am nursing yet. "uh, yeah."

I think instead of being nice about it and going along I just need to be sarcastic once and be done. No explaining. they aren't going to hear it anyway.

God luck mama. I feel for you. so frustrating.
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Hi Judi - I am ss they are gioving you a hard time - my mom and sister live in another freakin country and whenever I even hint at bf;ing our 13 mth old, I get the same speech. I think it's becasue my mom is 71 and is of the old school (kinda prudish!) and my sister was not able to successfully bf at all.

No advice mama, but when they come to visit in a few mths I am sure I will be in your situation!

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hehe, i wouldn't leave my kids with my MIL either....ever....ever.....ever
i would like my kids with either of my MILs anyday over my mother... but that is a whole other story... my mom sounds like all your MILs.. never nursed and keeps asking when is he going ot stop (he'll be 1 yr next friday)
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I nursed my oldest until 1 mo b4 his 3rd birthday (my 2nd until 2 1/2). I didn't think *I* would ever nurse that long!! But, it worked for us. I even nursed in front of my granddad (think great white hunter man) when DS was over 1. They would ask ALL THE TIME, "When are you going to wean??" I just shrugged and kinda ignored them. 'Course after about 18 mos to 2 yrs nursing in public wasn't so convenient so most ppl didn't even know.

Well, guess what? Out of all the cousins and such, he's the healthiest physically and emotionally. Is it *only* because of breastfeeding? Probably not. But, I think breastfeeding helped me be a better parent bcuz I put baby's needs on the priority list. I also enjoy getting a "break" now and again bcuz I *have* to feed the baby.

Nothing makes me more sad than to see a teeny tiny baby in the car seat carrier/stroller with a bottle propped in his/her mouth. Babies should be held when fed - whether it's a bottle or the boob!

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Re: Ok Seriously, get off my BACK!!

What would happen if you

a) told them how much it bothered you
b) ask them not to discuss their feelings about it with you
c) let them know that you felt it was rude of them to question your parenting

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