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Old 06-25-2006, 08:28 PM   #11
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that is not selfish to say. I think that mom should have way more say becasue she is home with the child/ren. I say explain your reasons for it adn then offer some chioces, such as fine we (meaning child and you) will sleep in a deifferent bed when you are home. Or we can add an extra matteress to ours so it is bigger and we will have more room, find where you will comprimise and offer those options to him. you are mom, yes we have to keep the DH happy to some degree, but you are the primary parent.

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Old 06-25-2006, 09:21 PM   #12
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yea I told him we would just sleep on the hideabed, he said no... and that is right, wether they like to hear it or not, we are the primary parent... I think the three weeks away will help though, cause I know he is going to miss our lil man (and DSS & I lol) SO bad that I think he will realize it's not such a big deal lol we have not been apart since he returned from his deployment, so it's been a while (aside from him going to work every day of course lol)
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I think sometimes it is hard for military men to see things the ap way. My dh is in the Navy and (even though he is a psychologist and should see the benefits) he didn't want our dd co-sleeping. It took a few nights of her sleeping in her room and me waking him up to bring her to me (after all, I have to wake up to nurse, the least he can do is to bring her in) for him to relent on his mission to get her out of our bed. I also explained to him that I was falling asleep in the rocker and it was MUCH more uncomfortable for me to nurse that way and that I would probably need to see a chiropractor ($$). Our compromise of sorts was that my dd sleeps on a futon in her room, so if I have to go in there in the middle of the night, I have a comfortable place to nurse. He is still bitter that we aren't using the crib though.
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Old 06-26-2006, 08:06 AM   #14
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I think co-sleeping is the best, but if your dh is so against it, you might want to reconsider. I'd hate for your marriage to suffer because of it. Maybe if you talk to him when neither one of you are angry and let him know how much it would really mean to you if you could continue to co-sleep.

I might not be 'popular' for saying that, but IMO it's your DH's 'right' to wanting part of his bed back for himself/you and him alone..
I hope you can work something out.
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yea I can understand where y'all are coming from, "not popular" heck I asked for advice didn't I? lol and you both do have a point, I am just hard headed about it lol but it all seems good for now LOL
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