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Old 06-27-2006, 03:47 PM   #21
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I don't think that's being overprotective. My first didn't spend the night away until about 18 months...and that was AGAINST my wishes (well, i allowed it, but really didn't want to)...i was pressured into it because dh kept saying that ds1 needed to be familiar with spending the night away for when I went into the hospital to give birth to ds2. Turned out to be completely unecessary....but ds1 loves to stay over at MIL's...HOWEVER...i disagree with her "parenting philosophies" as well....l never bring up him spending the night over there and she rarely asks anymore since he's getting older and into the terrible two's....her patience is wearing incredibly thin and I think she just doesn't want to deal with him...which is FINE with me. He's been over there a handful of times. Ds2 had to stay with them at 7mo because I was with ds1 in the hospital overnight. He's only been overnight that one time and he was asleep nearly the whole time (which must've been the one time in his 10 months that he's slept decently).


I think MIL thinks I'm overprotective, but I don't think there's ANYTHING wrong with it! When he's older, he'll want to be away plenty....while he's young and doesn't have a choice, I'm keeping him with me Goes for both of them!


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Old 06-27-2006, 11:46 PM   #22
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Overprotective not at all. My dd didn't stay overnight at grandma's till she was 3.5 yrs old or nearly 4 yrs old. Ds will be 3 yr tommorrow and he hasn't yet stayed the night away from us either. As for sitters watching them, mamma needs a break now and then...mostly Dh and I switch off but we have let grandma babysit for an hour or so every so often since he was maybe like 1 or 1.5 yrs old. Now that he is older I have used the grandma babysitting a little more often like 1-2 x a month.
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Old 06-28-2006, 12:15 AM   #23
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I don't think you're being over-protective... the only sitters my kids (age 3 and 1) have been with are my folks (for long enough to go watch a movie) who live out of town so you can figure how often *that* has been. My inlaws are another kettle of fish (that whole parenting philosophy thing) and are never gonna watch my kids... not gonna go there.
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Old 06-28-2006, 03:08 PM   #24
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My ds (9 mos) won't be spending the night at my parents (I don't have any living in laws, so at least there is only one set of parents to contend with!) any time in the forseeable future. I just don't think that little babies and toddlers are mature enough for overnight visits. Obviously, there are extenuating circimstances, and you do the best you can in them, but for a visit? No way.

We will have to decide what to do when dc #2 is born (we will probably be TTC this fall). IMO, that's another big strike in favor of a homebirth. But our hospital here will discharge as soon as 6 hrs after the birth if everyone is doing ok...I am just concerned with their definition of everyone doing ok. DS had some breathing issues that turned out to be minor, but there is no way they would have discharged him - they wouldn't even let me nurse him until 12 hrs after he was born because he was breathing too fast and they didn't want to stress him (I am still upset about that, and next baby would be more insistant).

BTW - my parents are the *only* people who have ever babysat ds. And I doubt that will change anytime soon, either. If they can't watch him, we either take him with us, or don't go. I love my son, and my absolute first priority is his safety and security. I don't care who I offend to keep him safe and secure.

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