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Old 07-23-2007, 06:20 PM   #1
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my toddler is unbearable

I seriously do not know what is going on with my toddler. She hit 20 mo and turned into a monster. She was such a mild mannered baby and now its temper tantrums every 3 minutes. About everything. Bath time was her absolute favorite part of the day. Now you'd think we were killing her. She is esp bad about food. Foods she has always loved she won't even touch. She loved creamed cauliflower. Tonight I set it in front of her and she threw it across the room and cried. Actually she threw all of her food on the floor tonight. I dont think she even ate 2 bites.

I seriously don't know what to do. How do I deal with these constant fits?

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Old 07-23-2007, 06:24 PM   #2
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Breeeeeeathe mama!

I know, it's tough. I think it's especially tough for parents who had "easy" babies when they start hitting the tantrum stage... for me, our son was always "temperamental" (heehee) so the tantrums weren't much of a shock. Just remember... it's a phase. You'll get through it. You'll want to rip your hair out 1/2 the time, but you'll get through it.
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Old 07-23-2007, 06:26 PM   #3
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Yeah, I agree with above. What we found that worked well was to NOT lose our cool. If a child threw their food on the floor, mealtime was over. OUT of the chair. "We don't allow food throwing. When you can sit at the table like a big girl, you can rejoin us." And then enforce it.
Temper tantrums resulted in removal from the room. "You need to stay in your room until you can control yourself". If the child came out screaming, they were escorted right back into their room.
We didn't have a huge problem with such behavior, because it didn't last long when they didn't get a rise out of us.
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Old 07-23-2007, 06:32 PM   #4
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I feel your pain mama...Mikey is really getting at a difficult stage He bites and screams and When I say screams it smore like yelling at me. He doesnt talk so its hard for me to "talk" to him about wat he needs to do and doesnt need to do. I feel like Im saying "NO" all day long. Today especially I feel like i want to cry. He found all my yarn and ripe it all out and tangled it all up

I cant barely take him anywhere because he screams all the time. He hates to go to the store and go anywhere for that matter. I find myself staying home everyday because its just easier than running ANY errands....

I erally hope he grows out of this because I feel like Im doing somehting wrong becasue he is so hard....
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Old 07-23-2007, 06:53 PM   #5
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Oh my gosh...do you have my child? She will be two next month and the last couple of days have been completly unbareable. I want to pull my hair out. I'm talking throwing herself into the floor kicking and screaming, hitting herself tantrums. I feel your pain, I am at my whits end. I have been putting her in her room and walking away, but she will stay in there and scream for 20 min. This thread will help me too.
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Old 07-23-2007, 07:07 PM   #6
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I feel ya momma. I was just telling someone about my daughter and I described her as a demon child. She used to be such a nice baby....sigh. She's not really tantrumy but I'll tell her not to do something, she'll look at me and then do it anyway. She's 20 months too.
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The best thing you can do is to keep soooo cool, and keep your voice really soft, which is near impossible, but you have to try. I didn't learn this for a REALLY long time, even though my pediatrician always told me to do that. Also ignore as much as possible. Like walk to another room and shut the door, or just continue about your business as long as you can! DS is three now, and he still has tantrums. The latest technique for me is to ENCOURAGE the tantrum. I basically DEMAND that he throw a huge fit, which makes him say "NO" (of course), and then we both can't help but smile. Ahhhh, things will get better for you, I promise.
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I feel your pain mama...Mikey is really getting at a difficult stage He bites and screams and When I say screams it smore like yelling at me. He doesnt talk so its hard for me to "talk" to him about wat he needs to do and doesnt need to do. I feel like Im saying "NO" all day long. Today especially I feel like i want to cry. He found all my yarn and ripe it all out and tangled it all up

I cant barely take him anywhere because he screams all the time. He hates to go to the store and go anywhere for that matter. I find myself staying home everyday because its just easier than running ANY errands....

I erally hope he grows out of this because I feel like Im doing somehting wrong becasue he is so hard....
wow this is like exactly how nevaeh is...except she can talk really well and chooses not to when she is mad and throwing her fits. she knows lots of words for what she wants and everything but she just refuses to talk...i feel like pulling my hair out! she is 20 months too and this just started a few weeks ago!
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Old 07-23-2007, 08:01 PM   #9
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What do yo ufeed them. Allie refuses anything but crackers. I don't knwo what to do. Even foods she used to love. I don't want to give in all the time but she has to eat something. Today she had a little dry cereal and 1/2 a mini bagel and 3 grapes. That's it.
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mama, it's hard sometimes, DD is 21mo and attempts her little fits every so often, my first attempt is to redirect her but if that doesn't work then I calmly explain to her that is not how we get what we want and then stick close by, but pretty much ignore her. If she's crying but asking for me to pick her up I will and she usually stops pretty quickly after that. Hope it gets better soon!
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