Friend encouraging me to stop BF

[stefanielee2001]

Originally Posted by sillymama Boobs are for sex? Then why does milk come out of them after you have a baby? I had always planned on breastfeeding until a year and then stopping, but now that DD is just about 10 mos (on Friday) I can't see stopping at one year just b/c she is a year old. She loves breastfeeding, and she gets so excited, why would I stop that to make other people happy? The next time your friend makes a comment, I would merely reply, "I am doing what is best for the both of us, I'm sure you can understand."

Honestly!!! Their original purpose was for sustinence, IMO. Its cultural to think of them in any other manner. I mean, relating to them in sexual terms is a cultural view. Not totally a bad thing but I think our society has totally lost touch with their original design. Its like judging a book by its cover, breasts may look great on the outside, but they are filled with anatomy to make milk.

[stefanielee2001]

Originally Posted by tigerchic89 I personally would distance myself. IMO, this is a basic parenting philosophy, adn if you disagree 180 degrees on this, there will prob me many more disconnects in teh future. I'd make teh friendship much more casual, and not as intimate. It IS nutritious and emotionally beneficial. There are many benefits to toddler nursing. If she keeps asking you/briging it yp, I'd just repeat, "It works well for our family"... no one but someone in yoru family can dispute that. GL

You know, you may not be far off. I really love her, like a sister, but we have to be soo careful about stepping on each others toes about parenting. She just doesnt understand me on things sometimes, or I purposely don't about about stuff cause I know it wont be a conversation, rather a debate.

[stefanielee2001]

Originally Posted by amrijane128 If "boobs are for sex" I'd tell her to stop giving that dildo to her baby!

Awesome!

[starc]

There's a great article on extended nursing toddlers in the latest issue of Mothering magazine. It has some really great info and advice.

http://www.mothering.com/sections/cu...ent_issue.html

[mamoo3]

"boobs are for sex"???? Why aren't teens taught in health class what boobs are for???

[shutterbugmom]

Originally Posted by amrijane128 If "boobs are for sex" I'd tell her to stop giving that dildo to her baby!

[tigerchic89]

The latest NEW BEGINNINGS magazine (the LLL magazine) also has a great article on extended nursing. I'm sure your local LLL group woudl have a copy for you to read/borrow.

[tinab]

Just tell her the WHO guidelines are what you are going to go by, so she needs to stop asking about you stopping nursing until he is at least 2.
My eldest weaned when I was pregnant with #2 and she was 31 months old. She got many health benefits from it! Not only nutrition, they get all of the good antibodies from it still.
Kellymom has some incredible info on all of the nutrition and health benefits of extended breastfeeding.

[togg_mama]

Originally Posted by tinab Just tell her the WHO guidelines are what you are going to go by, so she needs to stop asking about you stopping nursing until he is at least 2.

why does she care what you do with YOUR body?

[stefanielee2001]

Originally Posted by togg_mama why does she care what you do with YOUR body?

To be honest, I think my BFing bugs her. She said, 'your not going to be like so and so, are you?!' I really try to stay out of confrontation with her on this but she just doesnt get it, and never will. BFing is her issue, not mine. So yeah, if it comes down to it, I would definately end the discussion with that, 'its my body and my son'.