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RockinClothBunz · 10-26-2007, 10:19 PM

Oh, and ds would never sleep at my moms house until he was 1 and she watched him since he was 6 weeks old. He would do just fine at home and my mom would mimic what I did and it didn't work until he was 1!

Hayley · 10-26-2007, 10:23 PM

Is it possible that she may have some kind of sensory issues? Maybe she can't hear? IDK just something to think about.

togg_mama · 10-26-2007, 10:24 PM

have you tried gas drops?

CrunchyMama0607 · 10-26-2007, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Maddie'sMom

Sounds like the start of separation anxiety.

Wear her, don't leave her alone and don't let her CIO.

and maybe get one of her mommy's shirts or sthing that has her scent and let her carry it/have it close by

She might also be homesick....so maybe bring some of her things from her home to make it more comfortable.

ericak95 · 10-26-2007, 10:50 PM

Could you possibly try sitting at her house for a few days? It might help decide if it's separation or not. I know obviously her mom wouldn't be home, but it would be her stuff, her crib, ect... If it's a food thing, how are her diapers? Of course you really can't compare to BF poo, but how much solid food vs formula is she taking? My kids were BF'd so I don't know what formula poo looks like but I think allergies and such show up in poo kinda mucus like. Also is she on the same nap/feeding schedule as your DC? (We always followed the "eat, play, sleep" pattern) It could make it easier on you.

I DD#2 WILL NOT sleep anywhere but her crib, both kids have always gone to work with me DD#1 perfect sleeper, same routine with #2 and she will not sleep in the pack n play at work. She still seems to be a bit more "high" needs than DD#1 about a lot of things but she is only 21months.

Just a few thoughts -- I hope you find a solution soon.

mrsboyko · 10-30-2007, 04:15 PM

I was thinking the sent thing too. Do you have any room deodorizers, like those plug in things? They could be so normal to you, but she could smell them and they could be bothering her.

I also second the idea of being at her house for a few days, a week or so. Just to see if it is your house, you, or just 'not mom' that is the issue. Is she like this with mom and dad?

This may be a bit taboo too, but what about BF'ing her a bit? I would def. run it by mom, but as a last resort, it could be a special bond you would have with her that could calm her down a bit and make her feel more secure with you, KWIM?

That is all I got. G/L. I think Christmas is plenty of time for you to figure out what is going on or for her mom to find someone else.

Meg678 · 10-30-2007, 04:44 PM

Does she have a lovey/soother that her mom doesn't bring? I know I always keep Ellie's lovey at home in fear of losing it but it sounds like either
1) Something's hurting
2) she's got some seperation issues and just plain misses her mommy or
3) She's missing something in her routine at your house that soothes her in her own house.
Those would be my guesses anyway. Have you tried gripe water? That saved our lives with DS.

joy7s · 10-30-2007, 05:59 PM

wow I don't know what I'd do!! I've watched my friend's children off and on since dd#1 was like 6 months.

At first she would cry A LOT.. I comforted her sometimes and sometiems it helped.. now she's three and I love it b/c dd and her keep each other entertained!!

Hope you find what works for you!!

jessicap · 10-30-2007, 06:10 PM

I hate to say this, but she just may be the kind of kid that screams all the time...with nothing wrong...sounds bizarre, but totally possible.

I agree with other posters, I personally would give her 2 weeks notice and let her know it is just not conducive to any of you to have her screaming like that all the time.

Sweetpotatoesmom · 10-30-2007, 06:31 PM

My first thought was to nurse the poor baby!

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Originally Posted by mrsboyko

I was thinking the sent thing too. Do you have any room deodorizers, like those plug in things? They could be so normal to you, but she could smell them and they could be bothering her.

I also second the idea of being at her house for a few days, a week or so. Just to see if it is your house, you, or just 'not mom' that is the issue. Is she like this with mom and dad?

This may be a bit taboo too, but what about BF'ing her a bit? I would def. run it by mom, but as a last resort, it could be a special bond you would have with her that could calm her down a bit and make her feel more secure with you, KWIM?

That is all I got. G/L. I think Christmas is plenty of time for you to figure out what is going on or for her mom to find someone else.

10-26-2007, 10:19 PM	#11
RockinClothBunz Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,363 Ratings: 125 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: How long do you let them CIO? Oh, and ds would never sleep at my moms house until he was 1 and she watched him since he was 6 weeks old. He would do just fine at home and my mom would mimic what I did and it didn't work until he was 1! __________________ Nicole, graduate nurse and mommy to Bradley (05/05) Ava (11/06) Auntie to Trentin 5-31-09

10-26-2007, 10:23 PM	#12
Hayley Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Location: Seymour Johnson AFB Posts: 11,326 Ratings: 287 Feedback: 100%	Re: How long do you let them CIO? Is it possible that she may have some kind of sensory issues? Maybe she can't hear? IDK just something to think about. __________________ I sell Tastefully Simple

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togg_mama Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,821 Ratings: 89 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: How long do you let them CIO? have you tried gas drops?

10-26-2007, 10:50 PM	#15
ericak95 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 1,705 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: How long do you let them CIO? Could you possibly try sitting at her house for a few days? It might help decide if it's separation or not. I know obviously her mom wouldn't be home, but it would be her stuff, her crib, ect... If it's a food thing, how are her diapers? Of course you really can't compare to BF poo, but how much solid food vs formula is she taking? My kids were BF'd so I don't know what formula poo looks like but I think allergies and such show up in poo kinda mucus like. Also is she on the same nap/feeding schedule as your DC? (We always followed the "eat, play, sleep" pattern) It could make it easier on you. I DD#2 WILL NOT sleep anywhere but her crib, both kids have always gone to work with me DD#1 perfect sleeper, same routine with #2 and she will not sleep in the pack n play at work. She still seems to be a bit more "high" needs than DD#1 about a lot of things but she is only 21months. Just a few thoughts -- I hope you find a solution soon.

10-30-2007, 04:15 PM	#16
mrsboyko Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Il/ Wi Boarder Posts: 136 Ratings: 6 Feedback: 80% My Mood:	Re: How long do you let them CIO? I was thinking the sent thing too. Do you have any room deodorizers, like those plug in things? They could be so normal to you, but she could smell them and they could be bothering her. I also second the idea of being at her house for a few days, a week or so. Just to see if it is your house, you, or just 'not mom' that is the issue. Is she like this with mom and dad? This may be a bit taboo too, but what about BF'ing her a bit? I would def. run it by mom, but as a last resort, it could be a special bond you would have with her that could calm her down a bit and make her feel more secure with you, KWIM? That is all I got. G/L. I think Christmas is plenty of time for you to figure out what is going on or for her mom to find someone else. __________________ Wendie: 26 married to Chris: 26 and mom to Gianna: 11/17/06 and Demitri: 2/28/09