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Old 10-29-2007, 07:18 PM   #21
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I feel judged everyday on this board.

It's just a matter of whether you can look past it or not- and some people obviously cannot. We all make choices based on what is best for out families in our own unique situations. And no one knows what any one elses lives are like.
I am sure there are members all over this board who lie so that they feel like they "fit in" and that is very sad to me.
I come here to learn about cloth diapers- and I certainly have. I have real life friends, I don't need cyberspace ones. I don't post a lot, but I certainly read a lot. I just get chuckles out of the stuff that gets people so upset.
I wouldn't even be posting this but I had a nice message tonight asking me to please post since it had been a while since my last one.

So KatieZ- I will hopefully be messaging you someday on a FF Forum. Just because I think it's fair, and I commend you for speaking up about something you think is a good idea.

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i FF .. i did bf in the past.. i can see why there is a BF board as there is alot to do with BF. my other formus have bf boards and not FF im used to it. i just ask about FF along with other topics on the parenting board.
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The more i'm reading this thread the MORE I'm feeling judged.

The more important point here is that we are all mothers caring for our children the best ways we CAN - just because woman can BF and chooses not to - or maybe does both BF and FF - should not feel critiqued and judged because of their decisions. We should all be rejoicing that all of us mamas are making sure our children are well fed.
Just a friendly comment -
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Old 10-29-2007, 08:35 PM   #24
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FYI: Only 10% of women cannot breastfeed due to medical reasons and even adopted moms can partially breastfeed. Not judging but throwing out a stat.
I guess I fall into that 10%, I cannot breastfeed for very long before my milk dries up completely, really, after 3 IBSLCs, I cannot produce anymore milk!

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i FF .. i did bf in the past.. i can see why there is a BF board as there is alot to do with BF. my other formus have bf boards and not FF im used to it. i just ask about FF along with other topics on the parenting board.
There are LOADS of problems that can arise with BFing..trust me, I think I've had just about all of them

That being said, can we PLEASE have this forum..we are not having issues with our formula, but with my first child, we had to go through so many different kinds, he has food allergies, had reflux, stayed sick all the time, and somehow his formula aggrevated everything!

So I think it's a great idea to have this forum, I had a ton of problems FFing my first after my milk dried up, so I totally feel for these FFing mamas that have problems/questions...I wish I had someone to talk to when I had problems!!
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What is so hard about making a section so mothers who do not follow the status quo of the forum have a place to speak about raising their child? It's not "keeping this forum going" it's catering to the people who already visit this board.




That's a statement loaded with underlying judgment. Some mothers formula feed for reasons that aren't even medical. The problem being is that mothers can't be open about that because there will be a backlash on them for "not trying". I've had it happen to me with my oldest daughter (not on this forum). I mean look at the judgment already passed on this thread. I think an area for formula feeding mothers would be good. Then mothers who are adamant about breastfeeding can just not look at it and hopefully avoid some tension caused by a difference of opinions.

I agree, some people are just really mean to people who choose to FF, so if you don't like it that much, just don't comment about it. Remember your grandma said "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". By now, if people are active on this board, they know about the benefits of BF and they didn't make the choice to FF because they aren't informed. I don't think people need to be hit over the head repeatedly because they choose to do something that someone else disagrees with. Can't we just be nice?
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I realize the numbers are lower but possibly more people would be willing to come out of hiding if they realized that there is an area they can express themselves in without feeling judgement as well as talk with others who are going through similar experiences? It could even bring more people to the forum when they realize there is support for them and get them involved as members in other areas as well.

I also realize the whole 10% stat but keep in mind there are foster Moms on here so the possibility of bfing is not allowed. Also some people like myself are in unique situations with the children they are have adopted/are adopting or raising and an attempt to bf could cause issues with the arrangement etc. Another thing is some women attempted to bf and due to serious lack of support or other issues despite wanting to be successful chose the route to ff. Even adoptive Mothers who choose to lactate may still need to supplement with formula.

Regardless of why they chose to do so they are still parents with concerns and questions.

ETA: Didn't Canada FSOT start out slow? It's still there. I think the problem with a formula feeding section lies within the people who cannot think outside the box and realize not everyone is successful at bfing but that doesn't make them a bad parent nor less of one.
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I guess I fall into that 10%, I cannot breastfeed for very long before my milk dries up completely, really, after 3 IBSLCs, I cannot produce anymore milk!





That being said, can we PLEASE have this forum..we are not having issues with our formula, but with my first child, we had to go through so many different kinds, he has food allergies, had reflux, stayed sick all the time, and somehow his formula aggrevated everything!

So I think it's a great idea to have this forum, I had a ton of problems FFing my first after my milk dried up, so I totally feel for these FFing mamas that have problems/questions...I wish I had someone to talk to when I had problems!!
i agree. i feel judged by some people on here and IRL. there are days when dh's family asks me why i didn't try harder at least 20 times. it would be nice to go some place where mamas understand you. just like the BF mamas have. i think we should create a FF forum.

and on the suggestion we should just post on the parenting board, we shouldn't have to pray our posts get seen among all the other subjects. the BF mamas get a place to go where they can ask a question and know that everyone that sees it will know what they are going through. i would love to have that.
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Just feeling the need to stick up for us FF. We too have questions and concerns and it's nice to be able to discuss them w/other FF moms w/o feeling judged or otherwise looked down upon. There are so many reasons why FFs don't or can't BF and it's helpful to talk to others from time to time. Just my as a very newbie!
I completely agree with this- I for one would appreciate a FF forum for questions, support- etc...
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Can we add a sposies forum too?
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I am getting so tired of all the judgemental holier-than-thou women that I see on these boards! I just want to say to them "So most of you breastfeed! Good for you! Wanna cookie?" LOL. If the formula feeding mothers want a forum, they should be granted one. I don't think the name of this site is http://www.diaperswappersforbreastfe...othersonly.com

I breastfed and formula fed my dd because of serious challenges I won't even go into detail here and plan to breastfeed my new one exclusively. But if a woman wants to or needs to FF then she should be able to do it without being stoned to death because of it.
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whats all the discussion for? if enough people think there should be a ff forum so be it-just my 2 cents
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