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Old 12-09-2007, 07:56 PM   #11
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Could you try giving her something that smells like you? That's the only suggestion I can think of, but I do know of people this has worked for, especially those who nurse. Sometimes your smell is comforting. It might not work, but it might be worth a try. Definately try to find some time for you. It's hard with a little one, but definately necessary. I hope things get better for you soon.

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Old 12-09-2007, 07:57 PM   #12
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You could always try co-sleeping. I caved with my first after I literaly couldn't hold my head up cause I kept nodding out
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Old 12-09-2007, 07:58 PM   #13
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Thanks everyone. I'm still crying (the guilt is so overwhelming!) but she's finally stopped. I waited for 5 minutes after she stopped and went in and checked on her. She's sound asleep and looks so peaceful. My heart is still broken though!
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We Co-Sleep and I dont believe in in CIO - I have no words just
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Old 12-09-2007, 08:01 PM   #15
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Mama, you are doing the best you can do. Give yourself a break
I am not big on CIO, but I do believe that there are times when that is the only option. Your baby will be okay, and you are not a bad mama. Pushing yourself to the point where you behave as you described in your post creates a much bigger problem than letting lo cio. Just take a deep breath and hang on. It does get better....
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Our bed is pushed up to her crib with the rail off so its like we are co sleeping but she still has her space. If she wakes up I can put my hand on her. Maybe that will work.
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What about daddy? can daddy start comforting her when she wakes up?? i'm sorry you have to go through this! i hope you get the much needed rest you need!
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Thanks everyone. I'm still crying (the guilt is so overwhelming!) but she's finally stopped. I waited for 5 minutes after she stopped and went in and checked on her. She's sound asleep and looks so peaceful. My heart is still broken though!
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Our bed is pushed up to her crib with the rail off so its like we are co sleeping but she still has her space. If she wakes up I can put my hand on her. Maybe that will work.
Thats a good idea-we did this except with a vibrating seat with all 4 of my kids and it worked. Naps IMO, are learned however so soothing themselves to sleep is still important. Only my DS took naps w/o a fight.....needless to say I have spent the last 4 years in spurts utterly sleep deprived. (I have 4 ages 4 down to 6 weeks....)
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Do you have someone that can watch her overnight for you? For just one night? It may make a world of difference for you. I know, I wouldn't want to leave DS overnight with anyone either. But right now it's come down to her not sleeping or your mental state. I think you need your mental state. If it was me (and I've gone through this too, just not quite so bad) I would ask someone to stay with her for the night and get a hotel to sleep in. Then sleep. I'm against CIO, but if you are not sleeping with her in your bed, you need to do something different and if CIO works (eventually lol) then do it. You may find that works for you. I wish you luck! No sleep sucks!
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