Diaper Swappers

SheilaJoy · 08-24-2006, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by a_cthelen

I think she meant "unite"

oh

fpww_rachael · 08-24-2006, 01:05 PM

I think it's funny when people when people ask about having "the talk" with your parents! Growing up it was hard to differentiate between having "the talk" and having any other kind of talk in our household!

My daddy is a Baptist minister, and him and my mother has always been extremely open about EVERYTHING! There were 4 of us kids growing up and I was the oldest. We learned about sex since we began learning about Adam and Eve!!!! I remember my mother teaching me, first, obviously, by reading me a book called "the wonderful way that babies are made". It's put out by Focus on the Family I believe. Anyway, it has a part you read to younger children, then it has a different and more descriptive section you read to older kids. Anyway, that was when I was little. Then, when I got to be around 9-10, we watched a video about it which really grossed me out. It was nothing graphic, though, but still surprising to me since I didn't even know I had two holes down there!!!

Then, each year my mother would come and talk to me about menstruation and that I don't have to be afraid to come to her with anything. Since doing this, my parents haven't stopped talking about sex. Now we just joke about the fact that that is all they wanted to talk about, but I guess I'd rather have it that way than never have spoken about it with them.
The one thing I appreciated from my parents is that they never made the talk out to be a dirty thing or something that is bad, but rather something special and sacred. Hopefully I am able to be as open and sensitive to this when we teach our girls, which I'm already getting nervous about!!

LinzluvsGJ · 08-24-2006, 04:31 PM

My mom gave me some weird book while I was in like 5th grade with no discussion thereafter.

tropicalmom2b · 08-26-2006, 01:02 PM

It was actually a series of books, one for each different age I was. Maybe two or three of them.. They were quite good now looking back at it and although they came with a talk, the book was great in that I could go back and look and review instead of forgetting what was said, ykwim?

halyled · 08-26-2006, 08:18 PM

I learned early. I think I was in the first grade when a neighbor who was 3 years older than me told me that babies were made when a guy peed inside you. No lie. I think before that she told me that babies were made when a guy kissed you and put his tongue in your mouth. So...when I went and told my mom, she realized she needed to straighten me out. I'm pretty sure she used a book, don't remember what it was called, though. And I remember watching the "My Mom is Having a Baby" after school special, but I already knew pretty much everything that was in it by the time it came on (I was maybe in 3rd grade or so).

So, at some point, I decided to share my knowledge with a friend who was younger than me. Her mom called my mom to let her know. I didn't get in trouble but my mom said that I didn't need to be going around telling others about it because that was something parents should tell their kids, not friends. She did say that at least I had given factually correct information!

DS was old enough to be very curious during my pregnancy last year (5 to 6 years old). We often watched A Baby Story and Birthday on the Learning/Discovery channels. He knows the difference between a c-section and vaginal delivery. He knows all about breastfeeding. He knows that mom and dad get together and that there's an egg and a sperm/seed involved to make the baby--he just doesn't know exactly how they get together. We didn't quite get around to discussing how. Wasn't sure if he was ready for that knowledge, but I found a book I liked. We've read the first chapter that describes the differences between boys and girls. Everytime he wants to read more of it, though, it's at bedtime (and I'd rather have plenty of time available to read and discuss). He's always been curious, LOVES to know how things work. I think he was 2 or 3 when he asked where babies come from. We've also read the Childcraft book section about "where did I come from" but it also does not cover intercourse, just the sperm/egg.

I was fortunate to be able to talk to my mom about pretty much anything. I don't remember when we discussed contraception. I may have learned it at school in health, not really sure. Or from reading. I read her copy of Lace in junior high, I think (she didn't know). That's where I learned about oral sex (and my reaction was EEEEEWWW!).

TMI, probably...seems to be par for the course for me.

SandyG · 08-26-2006, 08:35 PM

hey i just said something of the sort on the OT forum.
nope never had the talk

. im not doing that mistake with david though nope.

Lasciate · 08-27-2006, 03:10 AM

My mom sat me down and had a long talk with me around age 7 or 8. She had grown up watching nearly all her peers think they were dying because no one had told them about menstruation

My grandmother on my father's side had begun menstruating at age 9, and my mom wanted to make sure I was prepared. I had also just walked in on my parents romping around (my dad was naked, my mom was not) and so she explained sex to me as well.

Later in 5th grade we began sex ed in school which was pretty good at covering the basics. I felt fairly educated on the subject after that.

View Poll Results: How did your parents tell you about sex?
Had a 'talk' (may have used a book too)	26	28.26%
Handed you a book but didn't really talk to you about it	13	14.13%
They never told you about sex	46	50.00%
Other - Explain!	7	7.61%
Voters: 92. You may not vote on this poll

08-24-2006, 01:05 PM	#32
fpww_rachael Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Austin, MN Posts: 409 Ratings: 156 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: How did your parents tell you about sex? I think it's funny when people when people ask about having "the talk" with your parents! Growing up it was hard to differentiate between having "the talk" and having any other kind of talk in our household! My daddy is a Baptist minister, and him and my mother has always been extremely open about EVERYTHING! There were 4 of us kids growing up and I was the oldest. We learned about sex since we began learning about Adam and Eve!!!! I remember my mother teaching me, first, obviously, by reading me a book called "the wonderful way that babies are made". It's put out by Focus on the Family I believe. Anyway, it has a part you read to younger children, then it has a different and more descriptive section you read to older kids. Anyway, that was when I was little. Then, when I got to be around 9-10, we watched a video about it which really grossed me out. It was nothing graphic, though, but still surprising to me since I didn't even know I had two holes down there!!! Then, each year my mother would come and talk to me about menstruation and that I don't have to be afraid to come to her with anything. Since doing this, my parents haven't stopped talking about sex. Now we just joke about the fact that that is all they wanted to talk about, but I guess I'd rather have it that way than never have spoken about it with them. The one thing I appreciated from my parents is that they never made the talk out to be a dirty thing or something that is bad, but rather something special and sacred. Hopefully I am able to be as open and sensitive to this when we teach our girls, which I'm already getting nervous about!! __________________ Rachael; Wife to Bradley, SAHM to Shelby(2/04), Lily(VBAC-12/05), Kelsey(VBAC-10/07), and Hailey(VBAC-7/09) I earn Amazon gift cards here: http://www.swagbucks.com/refer/Reeser6

08-24-2006, 04:31 PM	#33
LinzluvsGJ Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Wright Patterson AFB Posts: 81	Re: How did your parents tell you about sex? My mom gave me some weird book while I was in like 5th grade with no discussion thereafter. __________________ Mommy to 5!

08-26-2006, 01:02 PM	#34
tropicalmom2b Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 178 Ratings: 58 Feedback: 100%	Re: How did your parents tell you about sex? It was actually a series of books, one for each different age I was. Maybe two or three of them.. They were quite good now looking back at it and although they came with a talk, the book was great in that I could go back and look and review instead of forgetting what was said, ykwim?

08-26-2006, 08:18 PM	#35
halyled Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 333 Ratings: 24 Feedback: 100%	Re: How did your parents tell you about sex? I learned early. I think I was in the first grade when a neighbor who was 3 years older than me told me that babies were made when a guy peed inside you. No lie. I think before that she told me that babies were made when a guy kissed you and put his tongue in your mouth. So...when I went and told my mom, she realized she needed to straighten me out. I'm pretty sure she used a book, don't remember what it was called, though. And I remember watching the "My Mom is Having a Baby" after school special, but I already knew pretty much everything that was in it by the time it came on (I was maybe in 3rd grade or so). So, at some point, I decided to share my knowledge with a friend who was younger than me. Her mom called my mom to let her know. I didn't get in trouble but my mom said that I didn't need to be going around telling others about it because that was something parents should tell their kids, not friends. She did say that at least I had given factually correct information! DS was old enough to be very curious during my pregnancy last year (5 to 6 years old). We often watched A Baby Story and Birthday on the Learning/Discovery channels. He knows the difference between a c-section and vaginal delivery. He knows all about breastfeeding. He knows that mom and dad get together and that there's an egg and a sperm/seed involved to make the baby--he just doesn't know exactly how they get together. We didn't quite get around to discussing how. Wasn't sure if he was ready for that knowledge, but I found a book I liked. We've read the first chapter that describes the differences between boys and girls. Everytime he wants to read more of it, though, it's at bedtime (and I'd rather have plenty of time available to read and discuss). He's always been curious, LOVES to know how things work. I think he was 2 or 3 when he asked where babies come from. We've also read the Childcraft book section about "where did I come from" but it also does not cover intercourse, just the sperm/egg. I was fortunate to be able to talk to my mom about pretty much anything. I don't remember when we discussed contraception. I may have learned it at school in health, not really sure. Or from reading. I read her copy of Lace in junior high, I think (she didn't know). That's where I learned about oral sex (and my reaction was EEEEEWWW!). TMI, probably...seems to be par for the course for me. __________________ Amy - SAHM to Colin and Rhyon , stepmom to Jayson Last edited by halyled; 08-26-2006 at 08:20 PM.