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Old 04-03-2008, 03:36 PM   #1
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Very personal TMI question...

Ok, this is something I have been dying to get an answer to but haven't had the guts to ask. I apologize in advance if this question or any terminology I may use is offensive to anyone. I am definitely not trying to offend anyone, just get an answer for myself.

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How does bf fit into your sex life? Are your boobs totally off limits, or maybe just the nipples? Or has nothing changed?

I'm totally embarassed to be asking this question . I've visited lots of websites and read lots of books, but none of them really broach this subject. Please feel free to PM me with any reply as this is obviously a sensitive subject.
And please, someone let me know if this is something that I shouldn't be asking on the forums. I don't want to break any rules...

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Old 04-03-2008, 03:39 PM   #2
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With my first yeah, I was like, "don't touch the boobies" but with my second I wasn't concerned with it. DH could have his way with me. I think I was just more confident with my mommy body though.
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Old 04-03-2008, 03:40 PM   #3
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

I never really liked when DH touched the boobs before I had my DS and now it just is weird. I let him go there but he has cut back about 50% of what he did before. When he goes in for the boobs it just makes me think of DS and totally ruins the mood. I don't know if that helps or not.
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Old 04-03-2008, 03:42 PM   #4
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i only know with me they were off limits. Mine were extremely sensitive to any touch so i would leak A LOT! I don't know of ANY man who would be okay with just "lighty" touching them . but i know every mama is different.
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Old 04-03-2008, 03:42 PM   #5
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

They go through phases of when they feel "good" to me and when they don't.

Nipples are off limit most of the time until the child is older... not sure why I feel that way... but I don't mind a squeeze or grab
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Old 04-03-2008, 03:50 PM   #6
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

dd is 6 months and they have been kinda off limits since she was born - not officially but that's just how it works out I guess. Poor dh.
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Old 04-03-2008, 03:51 PM   #7
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Nope, they're pretty much off limits!! At first it was because any pressure at all and I'm be leaking. That was a pretty big turn off to us both. Now it's just too much of a reminder, and mood killer!
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

Not off limits at all! They were at first (like when I was having soreness) but now they feel just fine. And I like them to be played with etc.
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Old 04-03-2008, 04:12 PM   #9
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

Thanks for all the replies, ladies! Sometimes I think I feel one way, then the next day I feel differently so it's great to know that no matter what there's someone that feels the same way
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Re: Very personal TMI question...

lol....this is totally not a TMI question to me. Maybe my TMI meter is set high..IDK

Mine wouldn't be off limits except that any stimulation will cause serious leaking. I warned DH that he can touch them if he doesn't mind being squirted (seriously my will start spraying...ugh). So for now they are usually off limits with the exception of some squeezes here and there.
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