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Old 04-25-2008, 08:49 PM   #1
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This week when Ds started fussing to nurse when I picked him up and sat him in my lap he starting pulling the neckline of my shirt down, He has done it like 3-4times. How do I teach him not to do this? Luckily I was at home those times and didnt flash anyone

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Old 04-25-2008, 11:25 PM   #2
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Well, I'm not sure how you'd teach him not to. It's basically his way of communicating to you that as far as he's concerned it is TIME. Generally you don't reward a behavior that you don't want repeated, but I think not nursing when he does that may frustrate him. I know that doesn't really answer your question but maybe just seeing that it's his way of expressing his needs would be helpful?
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Old 04-25-2008, 11:28 PM   #3
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Margo has started just attaching her open, drooly mouth directly to my shirt in the appropriate *ahem* place - whether in public, at home, visiting friends ...

It's not subtle
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You could try replacing that behavior with something else, like a baby sign. Just keep making that sign every time he nurses, every time you offer, and every time he tugs at your shirt. Then hope he picks it up sooner rather than later. If you're comfortable doing so, you could also discourage the behavior directly by turning him away from you or setting him down for a few seconds, as is often recommended to curb other undesirable nursing behaviors such as biting. I wouldn't personally do it for this until he'd learned some other way to ask for nursing, though, because I'd hate to discourage an attempt to communicate, which is all that the tugging really is.
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You could try replacing that behavior with something else, like a baby sign. Just keep making that sign every time he nurses, every time you offer, and every time he tugs at your shirt. Then hope he picks it up sooner rather than later. If you're comfortable doing so, you could also discourage the behavior directly by turning him away from you or setting him down for a few seconds, as is often recommended to curb other undesirable nursing behaviors such as biting. I wouldn't personally do it for this until he'd learned some other way to ask for nursing, though, because I'd hate to discourage an attempt to communicate, which is all that the tugging really is.
He does know the sign for milk but I guess thinks its easier to just go directly to them now that hes big enough I will try putting him on the floor for a few secs next time and keep signing milk then offer again. Thanks for the advice.
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Old 04-27-2008, 08:26 AM   #6
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Margo has started just attaching her open, drooly mouth directly to my shirt in the appropriate *ahem* place - whether in public, at home, visiting friends ...

It's not subtle
can't help but laugh mama, thats cute.
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My dd is older (2) but I have taught her that I don't like it when she pulls my shirt up. She'll actually come sit on my lap and say "Mommy, you do it." and waits for me to pull it up. I know it is harder with a younger one though, but really it is amazing how much they can understand, I would just keep saying "That makes me uncomfortable, please don't do that." That's what worked for us, but it does take total consistancy for them to know that's not something you like.
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Re: pulling my shirt to nurse

You all are such great mommies. My 2 yr old and 4 yr old both started sticking their arms down the top of my shirt about the time they were 12 months. I knew that it was them trying to communicate that they wanted to nurse, but it made me very uncomfortable. My solution was that they were 1 yr and so I weaned them because it made me very uncomfortable to have my baby asking to nurse, or worse yet to just take liberties! I'm not so sure if that would be my solution now. I have a good friend that is still nursing her 2 yr old and they have a special word for nursing. They call it "Nay nay". I think it's a good solution because if you're out in public and they start asking for "nay nay" or whatever no one else knows what it is and you can wait for an appropriate time and place to nurse. So, I guess I would agree with the other great mommies here and say you need to find another, more apropriate way for your little one to ask to nurse.
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My dd 13 mos has recently started pulling up my shirt, as well. I have been calling it Nee-nee and also signing "milk" when we nurse, so she sometimes cries a little and says "nee-nee." I am glad to see that I am not alone in this, although some people have commented that now that she is old enough to tug on my shirt or ask for it, maybe she should be weaned... No way that's going to happen! She loves nursing so much, I just can't imagine denying her, or her not wanting to nurse in bed, for instance. I guess that day will come eventually
Thanks for giving your suggestions in this matter!
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My dd 13 mos has recently started pulling up my shirt, as well. I have been calling it Nee-nee and also signing "milk" when we nurse, so she sometimes cries a little and says "nee-nee." I am glad to see that I am not alone in this, although some people have commented that now that she is old enough to tug on my shirt or ask for it, maybe she should be weaned... No way that's going to happen! She loves nursing so much, I just can't imagine denying her, or her not wanting to nurse in bed, for instance. I guess that day will come eventually
Thanks for giving your suggestions in this matter!
Even though he can "ask to nurse" I am not gonna wean. He loves it so much.
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