Diaper Swappers

urchin_grey · 09-16-2006, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by babygirls2

YAY...I'm not the only one..LOL!!!

I did this same thing!!! I BF'ed #1 for 3 or 4 months and wasn't too successful. It didn't go to well. I had NO support and I knew nothing a/b BFing and there are NO LCs in this area believe it or not!!!!

So I tried and tried but then my milk dried up. She was loosing weight and the Dr said just give her formula. So then with DD #2 I was DETERMINED not to give up and be successful!!!!! I was and am. DD #2 was a little jealous and curious as to why her sis could get "ninny" and she couldn't. So I shared. She was turned two 2.5 weeks after DD #2 was born. So I tandem nursed until her Nana (G'ma) found out she was BFing and embarrassed her and said that she was a big girl that she didn't need to be getting "ninny"....grrrrrr....I was P!$$ED OFF!!! So then when I asked her if she wanted any she would cry and say she did but then would act bashful like she done something wrong.

So then I asked her if she wanted ninny in a cup and she has been getting it in a cup since. Every now and then she asks for ninny then says never mind when I whip it out. So then I just cuddle her and let her know how much I love her and she is better. So I say bravo to you for wanting to "share"!!!! I wished more mama's out there was more willing! I think it lessens the jealousy for siblings and creates a bond between them!!!!

Plus mommy gets to cuddle both her babes at once. (That is if you decide to tandem nurse.) If not...your DC #1 is getting your milk, antibodies, and what he is supposed to be getting!!!!! Don't let it embarrass you b/c it shouldn't!

Great job mama!!!!!

Aww, thanks! Pretty much the exact same thing happened to me when trying to BF DS. He was in the NICU for 12 days and was getting BM in a bottle. I *knew* that I could get him to nurse eventually but after a few months of trying and not getting anywhere with my LC, I just gave up and decided to only pump. But I also had almost no milk production on one side and after I went back to work (I stay home now though so that won't be a problem in the future) I finally dried up. I am also very determined to succeed next time too.

That really sucks that her G'ma embarassed her like that... that could like, scar her or something, ya know! Poor kid.

I never really thought that going back to nursing would ever work, but if it did for you, I might try it! I guess it will be up to him because by then he will actually be able to understand one way or the other, kwim? If I tried it at the age he is now, I don't think he would know what the heck was going on.. because he still does that with cups. LOL

(He still drinks from a bottle most of the time so he's still more used to that than a cup.) And even if he doesn't want to, no big, he can always cuddle with us anyway while the other baby eats.

ClarebearNkids · 09-16-2006, 07:08 PM

You know, kudos to you for asking about this!! My situation is a little... ok well ALOT different but here it is for all to see. With DS, I tried so hard to bf but no one in my family was supportive and I was young and dumb and knew nothing about LLL or anything, so I gave up and gave him formula. That was almost 7 years ago. Now with DD, I am successfully bfing and also have over supply issues. So, I pump after Lilyana is done sometimes. Well, B (grew up with UBER allergies, illnesses, etc..) found an avent cup thingie with a lid in the fridge full of bm about a month ago and asked what it was. I told him it was milk (i didnt say it was bm) and he came back to the fridge later on and drank it.

Being that he has always been prone to allergies and things, I didn't mind and plus, I always felt UBER guilty for not bfing him, since I've been successful with Lilyana. So every few days, he gets a cup of "susu" milk. He knows it's mama milk and I tell him it's ok for him to have that because I love him and it helps him be healthy. He isn't nursing from me..

but he knows where it comes from. I don't know how long I'll let him have it...but I don't think there is ANY reason to feel odd about it. Perhaps if I had bf him as an infant, I wouldn't be giving him cups of my milk now... but I love my DS and want him to be healthy. Makes sense to me. OK OK OK, I know he's older, but same premise. I mix a bit of strawberry powder in it so it tastes better to him. LOL
Ok, you can all think I'm weird now.. go ahead.

twinsmomkatie · 09-16-2006, 07:33 PM

You're not weird! That's pretty cool!

My twins (2 when baby wasa born) wanted to know what their baby brother was doing, so I offered to let them try (they nursed until about 19 months). They were pretty shy about it (which I actually found rather strange), and never did want to nurse. But they DO go around nursing their babies and thier stuffed animals!

sharebear2u · 09-16-2006, 07:51 PM

When I had my daughter our oldest was 5. She was VERY premature and I had to pump for almost 2 months before I was able to try nursing. Well, I was so worried about not having enough milk that I way overproduced. The NICU had to buy a bigger freezer! By the time she came home (and all the milk, too) I knew that I had more than I could ever use with her. I really didn't want to throw it out, so I asked the DR what I should do with it. She told me that it would be wonderful for me to give it to DS. He had a dairy allergy and couldn't have cow's milk, but human milk is totally different. He LOVED it because it is totally different from other milks and on the sweet side. The antibodies are very helpful for all ages, not just babies. He mostly had it in his cereal or I would make pudding, things like that.

This time around I plan on pumping for a milk bank.

Sherrie

halyled · 09-16-2006, 08:52 PM

I don't think giving milk to an older child is weird at all. How long have humans been around? I don't believe at all that mother's have always just weaned their older children at the magical age of 6 months or one year or 2 years or however long. Breastmilk is easily digestible and it's nutritious. It's even been helpful for people that are seriously ill (such as cancer patients), or so I've read. I think BM would be good for your older child and help his growth, especially if it's added calories on top of whatever else he eats. It has lots of fat and is certainly better for him than cow's milk. Good luck!

mercy589 · 09-16-2006, 09:25 PM

Kudos to the Dr who told you to give BM to the older DS!! You mamas all rock! Way to go! I think its awesome that you are giving BM to the older babies/ kids, totally healthy and wonderful for them!!!

Sarah · 09-16-2006, 09:48 PM

I'm kinda doing this,but with a much older child and not on a really regular basis. I was pumping hoping to take some classes this fall. Not gonna happen,Taci is a mama's girl and thinks bottle contain POISON!!!
I had some BM in the fridge and Sophie(4)wanted it(I think because it was in a bottle),so I gave it to her. Now she's begging for baby milk daily and I give it too her as often as possible. She was breastfed in the beginning so I don't have a problem with it.

meganbuffington · 09-16-2006, 10:10 PM

Nope...Not strange- Awesome!!!

Julie Durheim · 09-17-2006, 01:02 AM

I know of a family that adopted a extremely sick undernourished 2yr old little girl from Africa (weighed something like 12 pounds when they got her!) and she had just had a new baby, and tandem nursed the adopted 2yr old with great results!
The only thing I would caution is since breast milk is so much richer than cows milk, to be sure to mix them at first, just in case!

Mom2Natalya · 09-17-2006, 02:44 PM

I think it's great too! We as a society think it's normal to give our children milk from another species, but then think it's weird to give them milk from our own species. Hello?! I don't see anything wrong with it at all, and in fact, DH and I have discussed me continuing to pump after DD weans and until I get PG again so I can give her my milk instead of cow's milk. We are vegetarians and try to avoid dairy.
(a note, I do make sure DD is getting enough calcium, protein, etc from other sources so I am not worried about the lack of cow's milk)

You know when you think about it, several centuries ago (and even more recently) upperclass women often hired "wetnurses" to nurse their babies, and today, having another woman nurse your child would be severly frowned upon by the general public. It's all about what society accepts, kwim?

09-16-2006, 07:08 PM	#12
ClarebearNkids Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Sanford, NC Posts: 275 Ratings: 27 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Really strange question about BFing.... You know, kudos to you for asking about this!! My situation is a little... ok well ALOT different but here it is for all to see. With DS, I tried so hard to bf but no one in my family was supportive and I was young and dumb and knew nothing about LLL or anything, so I gave up and gave him formula. That was almost 7 years ago. Now with DD, I am successfully bfing and also have over supply issues. So, I pump after Lilyana is done sometimes. Well, B (grew up with UBER allergies, illnesses, etc..) found an avent cup thingie with a lid in the fridge full of bm about a month ago and asked what it was. I told him it was milk (i didnt say it was bm) and he came back to the fridge later on and drank it. Being that he has always been prone to allergies and things, I didn't mind and plus, I always felt UBER guilty for not bfing him, since I've been successful with Lilyana. So every few days, he gets a cup of "susu" milk. He knows it's mama milk and I tell him it's ok for him to have that because I love him and it helps him be healthy. He isn't nursing from me.. but he knows where it comes from. I don't know how long I'll let him have it...but I don't think there is ANY reason to feel odd about it. Perhaps if I had bf him as an infant, I wouldn't be giving him cups of my milk now... but I love my DS and want him to be healthy. Makes sense to me. OK OK OK, I know he's older, but same premise. I mix a bit of strawberry powder in it so it tastes better to him. LOL Ok, you can all think I'm weird now.. go ahead. __________________ SAHM to Brandon 13 and Lilyana 6 yr and Ayliana 22 mo Joyful follower of our Messiah Yeshua, Helpmeet to my superhero, Mike , expecting our 4th blessing in June!! www.thebabywearer.com

09-16-2006, 07:33 PM	#13
twinsmomkatie Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: New Hampshire, Live Free or Die Posts: 1,430 Ratings: 128 Feedback: 100%	Re: Really strange question about BFing.... You're not weird! That's pretty cool! My twins (2 when baby wasa born) wanted to know what their baby brother was doing, so I offered to let them try (they nursed until about 19 months). They were pretty shy about it (which I actually found rather strange), and never did want to nurse. But they DO go around nursing their babies and thier stuffed animals! __________________ Katie

09-16-2006, 07:51 PM	#14
sharebear2u Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: IL Posts: 147 Ratings: 21 Feedback: 100%	Re: Really strange question about BFing.... When I had my daughter our oldest was 5. She was VERY premature and I had to pump for almost 2 months before I was able to try nursing. Well, I was so worried about not having enough milk that I way overproduced. The NICU had to buy a bigger freezer! By the time she came home (and all the milk, too) I knew that I had more than I could ever use with her. I really didn't want to throw it out, so I asked the DR what I should do with it. She told me that it would be wonderful for me to give it to DS. He had a dairy allergy and couldn't have cow's milk, but human milk is totally different. He LOVED it because it is totally different from other milks and on the sweet side. The antibodies are very helpful for all ages, not just babies. He mostly had it in his cereal or I would make pudding, things like that. This time around I plan on pumping for a milk bank. Sherrie __________________

09-16-2006, 08:52 PM	#15
halyled Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 333 Ratings: 24 Feedback: 100%	Re: Really strange question about BFing.... I don't think giving milk to an older child is weird at all. How long have humans been around? I don't believe at all that mother's have always just weaned their older children at the magical age of 6 months or one year or 2 years or however long. Breastmilk is easily digestible and it's nutritious. It's even been helpful for people that are seriously ill (such as cancer patients), or so I've read. I think BM would be good for your older child and help his growth, especially if it's added calories on top of whatever else he eats. It has lots of fat and is certainly better for him than cow's milk. Good luck! __________________ Amy - SAHM to Colin and Rhyon , stepmom to Jayson

09-16-2006, 09:25 PM	#16
mercy589 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,424 Ratings: 48 Feedback: 100%	Re: Really strange question about BFing.... Kudos to the Dr who told you to give BM to the older DS!! You mamas all rock! Way to go! I think its awesome that you are giving BM to the older babies/ kids, totally healthy and wonderful for them!!! __________________ Christy - breastfeeding, cloth diapering, natural living, homeschooling, homebirthing, stay at home mama to Lucy (6), Julia (4), Esther (2), and Isaac (brand new!) my blog about healthy living and mothering