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Old 05-13-2008, 07:29 PM   #1
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Adoption terms

Since this is a rather new forum, I think we should discuss some adoption terms so nobody is offended. This is a forum for ALL members of the triad, and we should respect one another.

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Bmom, birthmom, firstmom, tummymommy. But please, lets not call them a BM because that is just rude. The same should apply to birth fathers. Let's agree not to call these people sperm or egg donors either unless that is indeed how the child was conceived.

Adoptive parents, pre-adoptive parents for those of us who have adopted. "Real" has no place on here - all members of the triad are real.


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Old 05-13-2008, 08:40 PM   #2
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Re: Adoption terms

A common term for an adoptive parent is AP and for a "prospective adoptive parent" is pap.
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Old 05-13-2008, 09:31 PM   #3
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Is biomom an ok term? Someone else had used that and I think that works... I know some argue that all humans are "biologogical", but I don't think it is offensive.
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Old 05-13-2008, 10:49 PM   #4
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well BM on this site is breastmilk, I just made a long post referring to our Bmom with BM nothing offensive meant, as we love rher dearly, it was just internet abbr.
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Old 05-14-2008, 05:13 AM   #5
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Biomom is just fine!
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Old 05-14-2008, 02:11 PM   #6
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I've been on many adoption sites and everyone uses the term "BM" for birthmom. Just like we use "DH" for Dear Husband.
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Old 05-14-2008, 09:03 PM   #7
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Re: Adoption terms

Not everyone uses BM as a term to describe birthmothers. On many adoption forums, it is taboo. I believe the only forums where it is used freely are ones that don't have many firstmoms as members.
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why is BM offensive? just wondering why? I am on another BB and we all use it.
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I am just a little confused about the BM. I talk on SEVERAL adoption groups and am even an assistant to missionaries in Taiwan to place children and there has never been a problem nor upset with the abbreviation BM. I am also an adoptive mom of 2. I totally agree with not using sperm donor or such, but BM is a highly recognized and widely used term amongst the entire adoption community. Also, another term my friend uses is "Birth giver" she is adopted and introduced this term to another site I talk on. I do not get offended by AP or PAP because it is only an abbreviation.
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Old 05-30-2008, 12:47 AM   #10
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Not everyone uses BM as a term to describe birthmothers. On many adoption forums, it is taboo. I believe the only forums where it is used freely are ones that don't have many firstmoms as members.


Not true, adoption.com They use BM a lot and there are BM's present. Also on listings for adoption availabilities and in "networking communities" also on Cafe.mom
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