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Old 09-21-2006, 10:33 PM   #11
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that's why I'm even cloth diapering in the first place, to save money wherever I can.

Have you heard of EC'ing or Elimination Communication? I started researching whether to CD or use 'sposies and found out about EC, which is why I decided to CD and convinced my hubby that we should. Go to DiaperFreeBaby.org to learn more, they have great articles. The more I read the more I want to do EC, which btw will save you even more money than just CD alone.

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Old 09-22-2006, 12:23 AM   #12
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I have baby clothes too. I don't know if you have a boy though. PM me if you're interested.

I had a similar experience (VERY similar) although it wasn't a trade. She held me off long enough though to where I couldn't file with paypal. I left negative feedback and then another mama did too. She was banned from DS, but I never got my "BRAND NEW MUTTS" or my $. It sucks!!!

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Old 09-28-2006, 04:28 PM   #13
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Thanks, ladies, for the offers. They are so generous. I am so scared to trade, buy, sell, do anything right now...I just get a bad feeling in my stomach...I'm going to hold off swapping for now through DS or anywhere else. I know that's silly but...I don't know. Just for a while, anyway.

An update...I did finally leave negative FB. It's been 45 days now. I had warned the mama in advance and she asked for "a few more days" (as if 30 plus weren't enough?)...she said she'd send more clothes Priority...we're even located within miles of eachother from what I can gather, but still nothing, so...I posted my FB. I feel awful about it. Totally awful. I have a huge knot in my stomach. I never, ever thought I'd have to leave negative FB. I hate the thought of how it would make the other person feel. But, flat-out honesty time here: the mama told me she had at least two other mamas who never got her packages...yet, I don't see any FB from them. That means...many mamas don't leave FB if it's negative. And when they don't leave the FB, that means that other mamas--like me, in this case!--have NO warning and go ahead into a purchase or swap, and never get their stuff. That is SO unfair. So I had to be the one to swallow hard and do it, for the next mama.

I feel totally terrible. I'm going to stay away from DS for a while.
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Old 10-07-2006, 09:49 PM   #14
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Update...the momma finally got in touch w/me saying she'd had computer issues. I told her exactly like it is...she misled me saying she could swap in a couple days, but it was 2.5 weeks; she put the stuff in too small a box and it got sent back; etc.; etc. She argued with me, saying it was *my* post office that was to blame even though she had previously told me she had at least two other mamas who never got her stuff either. (scratching head) Unless all three of us are in the same town, I don't see how that's possible. Anyway, her stance is now that I "wouldn't work with her" (I DID work with her...I just thought 7 weeks was plenty of working-with time and I'd had it!) and that I'm "rude" so even though she got MY stuff in ONE WEEK, hello, she's going to give me a neutral rating.

That's fine. I don't care that much about what sort of rating she gives me. She's going to give me neutral for getting upset after two freaking months? Her story changes every five seconds, too. I have warned mamas and that is enough for me. It's something I wish other mamas had done for me. I know why mamas don't leave negative FB--they fear retaliation. And they're right--look what's about to happen to me. Negative because I was "rude" by being flat-out honest with her after almost two months and by the way, never receiving the package.

So...you mamas who are scared to leave negative FB are right; the person will retaliate. But I don't plan on swapping, buying or selling from here anymore so I was willing to stick my neck out for the next mama. Next time I'm just going to save my pennies, buy new and have at least some sort of guarantee that I might actually get the product. I never did...and now, obviously never will...because how dare I complain after a mere two months.

p.s. I did tell her it was completely unprofessional for her not to make good and sure I got my stuff after she had misled me and held me up for more than two weeks instead of a couple of days at the very beginning, and that she might have overnighted the package. She claimed that would have cost $50 (?? Is it being overnighted from Mercury?) and that I was being rude. Apparently, rude is the issue here. (still scratching head) I hope she thinks of me every time she puts on the clothes that I got to her as fast as I possibly could. Ohhhhhhhhh, am I ever ticked right now.
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Old 10-07-2006, 10:12 PM   #15
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don't leave ds over this please! we like you!
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Old 10-07-2006, 10:12 PM   #16
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that's a stinky situation I hope she doesn't leave negative. neutral will not count against your rating. Just don't let this one experience mess with you DS experience just B/S/T with mamas with a lot of food FB to know that you're gonna get your stuff
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wow Mama I'm sorry that this happened to you and I hate that it soured FSOT for you
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Old 10-07-2006, 11:01 PM   #18
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im so sorry this happened to you, ppl can be mean!
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I was going to leave after a similar situation, but now I am just more cautious and I have had positive experience since then which has made me feel better! Please stick around. I am sending you a PM.
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Old 10-08-2006, 09:33 PM   #20
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Re: I hate to do this :( UPDATE: Will not be receiving my stuff now, obviously

Thanks, all. I just feel so bad and so frustrated. This probably shouldn't be affecting me all that much--I mean it isn't like I spent $500 or something. I guess it's just the first time this has happened to me and it was really sad to keep going out to the mailbox every single day and seeing nothing. And then to be told I'm going to get a bad review for not being patient ENOUGH...oh man, that was the icing on the cake.

Thanks so much for all the kind words. I'll get over it, I just wanted to vent, and get advice, and to warn other mamas in the future, I guess.
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