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Old 06-04-2008, 01:04 PM   #21
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I shouldn't have opened this thread.

I am still mourning the fact that my milk dried up because of pregnancy.

I completely disagree with your decision and you should do some more research.

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Old 06-04-2008, 01:16 PM   #22
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I honestly don't see any bashing on this thread so far. I see a bunch of mamas who don't share your same opinion and are genuinely concerned for your baby. You said you thought six months was the most beneficial for breastfeeding, and that is just misinformation. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommend breastfeeding for AT LEAST one year, and the World Health Organization recommends at least two. Yes, your baby derives great lifelong benefits no matter how long he/she breastfeeds, but why wouldn't you want to continue those benefits if you know that one year or two years is even better? From an evolutionary standpoint breastfeeding is designed to feel good for mom and baby when done properly; if it were so horrible to feed our children we would have died out as a species long ago because no one would have done it! I agree with a previous posted who suggested getting some help from a different LC, one who is IBLC certified, so that you may clear up your pain issues and enjoy your nursing relationship. As for feeling like you did more for one child than the other, I would think you'd want to do the most you know how for each child. Stopping now just because you stopped for your other lo is honestly not fair to your current nursling. With your older child you can truly say you did what you knew best, but can you say that for this one? All you can do is try your best for both children, and that doesn't mean doing things exactly the same. If you gave your older child a toy that is now recalled you wouldn't give it to your younger child just because the older child had one, because now you know better. Breastfeeding is the same.
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Old 06-04-2008, 01:30 PM   #23
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Wow! Didn't realize that I would be bashed. Not sure if I'll be posting any request for advice here again & will just stick to buying/selling. Thanks for the advice from those of you who answered with no judgement. Yes, I feel as if I have done well by my children and have done a hell of a lot better than some! I think it's ridiculous how so many mothers think they're so much better than everyone else and are quick to ridicule. People just can't agree on everything. Please realize that no one is really "right" because everyone has his/her own opinion!
I see no bashing or ridicule here. I think weaning that young isn't right for baby, but I also know that pumping is more exhausting than actual breastfeeding.
Oh, and I saw no one saying "I'm right and you're wrong" here. I saw some express dismay and offer advice. One just simply wrote of the minimum 12 month reccommendation, which is getting upped according to my pedi to 2 years. Breastfeeding 6 months is great, but if you did research you would see that there are benefits to giving moms milk every day the child gets it, it is proven that there are HUGE health benefits to breastfeeding in the childs second year.
But, if you are resigned to quitting, do so and don't get your drawers ruffled when you come to the breastfeeding support section and ask about weaning a baby way young. My poor cousin would love to nurse longer, but her various meds stop her from doing so. She googled drying up breastmilk and found her answers. She said the advice was good, she only is able to nurse 4-6 weeks, and then is back on her meds and has to stop. She found lots of answers that way and was able to wean without getting mastitis (which hurts really bad, I had it once).

Oh, and a lot of my opinions on breastmilk is from actual scientific research, LC's, knowledgable pediatricians, the WHO, etc.
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Old 06-04-2008, 01:54 PM   #24
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Yes, I know that breastfeeding is reccommended for 12 months, but I've heard that the first 6 months are the most important if you aren't planning to breastfeed for very long. Also, I work 8 hours a day. I would love to be a SAHM. My boss promotes breastfeeding and doesn't object to it in any way, but it is hard to pump at work. Yes, I know that I can pump longer if I want to, but I just choose not to. I would've loved to throw in the towel earlier but haven't because I know it's good for my baby. I was setting 5 months as the goal for breast feeding since I did it for my first. No, I'm not quitting just because I want them to have the exact same amount of time being breastfed. I've had to talk myself out of quitting BF since day one, so I had the 5 month mark in my head to keep me going! My appologies to everyone for posting my question in the wrong group! I figured some mothers here would be BF for subsequent children, and would have the knowledge of how to wean. I don't agree that I haven't been bashed here. I'm really not feeling much love right now!
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Old 06-04-2008, 02:16 PM   #25
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I'm going to tell you the same thing I said to my friend who had to stop breastfeeding her twinks at three months. I may be flamed for this but so what.

It doesn't really matter whether you child gets formula or breast as long as your child is getting a rested, stress free, happy mother. What works for one particular mother/child combo may or may not work for another and no one can judge based on what works for them.

And I nursed The Kid until 16 months and am not planning on stopping anytime soon with Ducky. You know what works best for your child and your family, there's no point in pumping/breastfeeding if you're going to resent your child for it. The child will feel the resent and it will affect her. and GL.

Also, I would stay clear from things that help produce milk like oatmeal and such until you're dried up.

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Old 06-04-2008, 02:31 PM   #26
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When I am done breastfeeding I cut one meal out a week until I am done. For example I only like to breast feed until my child is 9-12 months and I could care less what other people think. I figure out how many times I feed a day for example, morning, afternoon, late afternoon, evening. Four weeks before I want to be done I stop an afternoon feeding for a week and then the late afternoon for a week and then the morning for a week and then they evening for a week. I have never had a problem or any soreness. I know you may want to stop right this instant but so it might not be so painful it may take a month or so. I say good for you for pumping I would have just gave up I think pumping is so much hard than formula feeding I could never get the hang of it.
All I can say is that no one ever told me how painful breastfeeding was until after I had my first child and I didn't need to be told after that. I had huge sores on my nipples for 5 mo with my first. The 2nd was much better and the third I have not had any problems. I however caked on the Lansihol(sp?) cream before and after they were born which I did not do with the first. Good luck I hope all goes well for you.
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Old 06-04-2008, 02:46 PM   #27
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Thank you, Amby & Sourpatch Babe! Maybe I should take my approach slower. I was given the advice to quit cold turkey with my first child and realized it was a huge mistake! That's when I called a lactation specialist for help, and she told me to do what I'm doing now. She did tell me that she would've given me a better approach if I was just starting to wean. Thank you! I've actually been pumping a little more today than the past few days because it seems to hurt more today.
Yes, I think breast feeding is harder for some people like myself. I think I would be a mess emotionally if I BF much longer. I decided we'd have a happier household if I quit after the 5 month mark. I so admire all the women who breastfeed for so long because it is really a huge sacrifice!
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Old 06-04-2008, 02:51 PM   #28
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I think this thread has remained pretty respectful. I believe there are a couple of reasons that mamas get worked up about this.

1. There are some, like myself who have had to work extremely hard to produce enough milk for their LOs and it is hard to understand why someone who is producing well would want to give that up.

2. Your original mention that "I heard 6 months is the most beneficial for breast feeding" is not really accurate. Mamas want to make sure to debunk this myth. I say it is a myth, not because of my opinion, but based on the AAP and WHO recommendations.

3. The part about wanting to keep things equal with your kids seemed a bit impractical. As another poster mentioned, you do the best with the information you have at the time. I have nursed each successive child longer due to increased experience, education and support. I feel sad that I didn't do as well for my eldest son with BFing. But he was the first and he received my undivided attention for almost 3 years.

When raising children, things will never be perfectly equal and they really don't need to be. I believe that there are pros and cons to each child's position in the family and as long as you make your decisions with love and fairness, it will all be fine. I didn't really learn about APing until I had my 3rd child. But, once I learned about it, I can't imagine not doing it with my younger kids for fear that it would be unfair to my older kids. That is like deliberately withholding something that I know could benefit them.

Sorry, if you do not feel supported. I think that mamas are providing you with information and opinions which I am guessing you wanted or you would not have posted initially. If you feel like you are making the right choice, don't let other people's opinions bother you.
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I did just think of something. I weaned suddenly with my 2nd child (due to poor medical advice ) and when I went to the doctor with mastitis they bound my breasts up with an ace bandage. The pressure is supposed to reduce the milk production.
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To each there own

I think the myth about 6 months started because babies start making their own amunities at 6months, yes breadtfeeding apst that is beneficial just that at 6 months they begin to start protecting themselves.

As for weaning, yes start losing one feeding a day and don't do another for several days. ie.. cut out your mid day pumping or stretch it a few hours longer then normal. Keep yourself comfortable!

Trying a sinus pill can halp a bunch like benedryl or sinus tylenol.

CABBAGE, must be cabbage not lettuce leafs cold from the fridge, tucked inside your bra for several hours a day, so like from when you get home until bed time will help reduce supply.

Bind them snuggly with ace bandages and a sports bra will ehlp too, but you need to sontinue pumping like normal just cutting out a bit here and there until you slowly wean yourself off the pump.

I wouldn't suggest cold turkey.

I am proud of how long you pumped and gave yoru baby breastmilk, you are right you did much longer then some mommas are willing to do and that is something to be proud of, there are just some mammas heer who would love to ba able to make milk, so sorry you got your feelings hurt.
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