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Old 07-08-2008, 02:13 PM   #21
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I am so sorry for your loss. We just lost out on our second potential adoption. Its hard. But I hope that you come through this OK and your baby that was meant to be with you will find you soon.

I have to say I was glad to read that they had the decency to call and apologize to you. I think that shows this is someone who has a heart and did not make this decision lightly. And that is a good thing for this baby. We just lost out on our second potential baby, and the birth family just never called to tell us. We heard through a friend.

Anyway, I know its small comfort and that you are in a lot of pain. Hold onto the baby things, let yourself grieve, and be open to the little one that will surely find you.

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Old 07-08-2008, 03:00 PM   #22
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my heart aches for you and your family...I can only offer prayers and hopes for a new day.....have faith
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Old 07-08-2008, 04:01 PM   #23
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Old 07-08-2008, 04:25 PM   #24
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WOW! mama I am so sorry
if it helps any I will get preggers jsut for you...im not joking either...
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Old 07-08-2008, 04:59 PM   #25
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Mama, I am crying for you So sorry...words can't say it...
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Old 07-08-2008, 05:00 PM   #26
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I know it's soo soo painful right now, but I pray that you will look back on this experience with this precious baby with joy in your heart. We went through a similar experience. We had Alyssa for 8 days before her mother took her back. We knew it was a risk taking her home from the hospital, but just felt that it was the right thing to do at the time. We cherished the time we had with that little newborn and while we didn't get to experience the actual birth, we did get to see her within minutes of her birth. (Our Allison was 13 hours old by the time we got to the hospital.)

I know I had people that didn't understand the difference between meeting your child at 3 min. old compared to 13 hours old... as someone had told me that we will have the rest of our lives with our child - but for someone who may never get to experience a pregnancy and give birth, being with your potential adopted child from the min. they are born is very precious.

So I'm praying for you, that even if you don't get to have the hospital experience with the next child you attempt to adopt, that you will at least cherish the memories you got to share with little Lucy.

The first couple of days with our Allison, I actually felt numb and still grieved the loss of Alyssa (it was less than 7 months after we lost Alyssa that we got Allison.) But now, we have moved on and we have the blessing of Allison in our lives... who is more perfect than we can imagine.. and we thought Alyssa was perfect too! I pray that God is preparing you for an even greater miracle after the heartache you have had to endure.

My dh and I went into marriage couseling after the loss of Alyssa (we had gone before her to deal with infertility issues also.) It's very stressful on a marriage to loose a child - and each person/couple handles it differently.

And yes, the second time around.. we were definatly more guarded.. and I think we are still guarded as we think about adopting again.. because we have Alli's heart/emotions to protect too.

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Mama my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry.
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Old 07-08-2008, 06:51 PM   #28
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Karen, I am so so sorry. I've just read your blog and I am in tears for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 07-08-2008, 07:02 PM   #29
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I am so sorry
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Old 07-08-2008, 08:48 PM   #30
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I'm so sorry! I can only imagine your heartbreak. My BIL and his wife had a birthmom change her mind 1 week before the baby's EDD after 4 months of planning to have him become theirs. Please take care of yourself and take time to heal, it will take time!
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