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Old 07-11-2008, 09:08 PM   #111
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Oh God, don't get me started on those types of people. I don't believe children can sin...definitely not BABIES. I know someone (definitely not a friend!) who let their 7 week old boy CIO because his crying was "sinning." Makes ME want to cry!

I've just got to stop reading this thread. It makes me so sad. Like I said I have my days sometimes where I am Evil Mommy but I can't fathom treating my children like this!
No I know. What a way to teach them to love God, huh?

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Old 07-11-2008, 09:31 PM   #112
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For those who expressed they are looking for discipline without yelling/spanking,etc, there are quite a few resources. STart at your local library, there are books on positive/gentle discipline-Jane Nelson(or Nelsen) has a few and in that section there should be more. There are also websites you can look up on that subject-gentle christian mothers and get off your butt parenting if i'm remembering correctly. It is hard to change your ways, but really it's worth it
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Old 07-12-2008, 01:09 AM   #113
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Hey mama - just started reading this thread - but and more - I wish I was there to get your 4 yo off the gym and out of the street! I am really feeling for ya here - even though I have a 2yo I swear he is almost as biog as a 4yo and is super strong!!!!

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I don't think you were out of line wit your post, and honestly it makes me feel bad when I see these situations too

But I have to chime in... I'm sure you and anybody else with children knows how taxing emotionally/physically/ and every other way little ones can be on occasion. When I'm at my best as a mommy, I feel like I did well handling it all. I will stay calm, rational, remove the child from the bad situation and put them in a good one without yelling..etc..Give lots of hugs and go the extra mile to spend time doing all out fun things with them because those cute/baby years go by so quickly!

At my worst, I am ussually exhausted from nursing all day/night, and dealing with two very rambunctious boys who are constantly fighting over toys or getting into trouble; everything wears on me more. On days like this, nothing seems to get done around the house, and the boys seem to have pushed every last "mommy button" I have in my being.

One particular day comes to mind, when I took all three of my little ones to the park. I had the baby in her ring sling, snuggled with me. The 24 month old was playing, pretty contentedly, and the four year old was climbing and being his ussual energetic self. Then..it was time to head home because the baby was starting to get hunger, and the wind was picking up, making it a bit more chilly than ussual. We live about a block from the playground, so we always just walk there and back.
Well...at this point...the 24 month old decided he would try to kick and scream and throw a tantrum that it was time to go. The baby was crying in her sling because she was starting to feel chilly. The four year old climbed to the top of the slide/jungle gym where I couldn't reach him and told me he wasn't going to move!
Now...like I said I'm ussually a patient, loving mama (or I try to be!) but I felt so helpless! I wished so much that my DH could have been there to help me, but I was alone and had no way of getting this kid down from that jungle gym. The tantrum/screaming was putting me on end with the baby crying....And I almost lost it. I really did yell at my four year old "COME DOWN NOW, get down here! We have to go home! You get down RIGHT NOW! etc..." and I must have sounded much like the mom you described in your post.
When my four year old finally did come down..he RAN away from me...INTO The road despite my running after him (holding a newborn, and dragging a 2 year old by the hand), and my yelling NO! DANGER GET BACK!!! He ran into the road, and zigg zagged all the way down it until he got to our house. Then he ran inside and hid just before I got in the door.

Yeah..he was in trouble. Yes, he got a spank, time out, dinner by himself away from the family dinner table, and sent to bed early.
Was I a bad mama? He got the message, and never did it again..but yeah, I had to yell, and I had to maintain that Mommy means buisiness.

Sorry that was so long, but it hit a chord with me when you said you were upset with the mama for basically saying all the things I said to my son that day = \
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Old 07-12-2008, 01:13 AM   #114
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I agree with you mama plus after reading just the first few posts, what about PPD - especially for new mamas? I really hope that we can reach out to some of the mamas that are losing it so to speak and maybe try to help these mamas...

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I agree. All of us as moms know not to start by yelling. We all start there. But none of us get the sleep , food, or downtime that we need. Frustration comes quicker than we would like.
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Old 07-12-2008, 01:22 AM   #115
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Oh well, she will learn, I guess!

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*while I let my boobs hang out and uncovered* (sorry, I had to!)

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oh my!! Umm you might want to go hide... Thats what I would do if I said that here. It's your opinion and I'm fine with that... But umm yea.. Dude, not cool... Breastfeeding with out covers and red carpet boobage are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS!!!

I don't mean that, not literally... (the go hide thing)
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I think I you!

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OP--I am sorry you had to see that. I still, for the life of me, can not figure out how people smack their kids in the face.. It's just wrong on so many levels. I don't want to be smacked, why the hell would my kids?
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