Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 07-12-2008, 01:01 AM   #11
Ashwin'sMommy's Avatar
Ashwin'sMommy
Registered Users
Formerly: onebumatatime!
seller
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Under a huge pile of luscious yarn!
Posts: 6,637
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

Hi mama - I haven't read all of the pp's, but I say it is OK to have this baby uncircumcised - if that is what you want to do, I say go for it. I am sorry you feel you made the wrong decision to circ your first 2 boys, but be kind to yourself, you only did what you knew at the time

Tara

Advertisement

__________________
Happy New Year!
Ashwin'sMommy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 01:23 AM   #12
whitecalx's Avatar
whitecalx
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 1,427
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

I wouldn't. When you know more you can make a more informed choice.

The parents I know in your situation report that its not a big deal between their boys. They might notice and the worst of it is just explaining (simply, "when you were born we thought this is what we should do but when X was born we learned that we shouldn't").

Its certainly a tricky decision to make but I don't think its fair to your youngest to have surgery and be altered just to be like his brothers.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, I hope it goes smoothly!
__________________
I've got dis one and dat one and baby girl 08/05/08!
ISO/IHA
whitecalx is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 10:09 AM   #13
AnnaG01's Avatar
AnnaG01
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Posts: 2,563
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

I am in the same boat as you mama! My DH and my DS1 are circ'd without any problems, however I still don't want to do an unnecessary surgery to him, back then it was all I knew, and everyone around me did it...now I know better and now I won't do that to my baby...he is going to be born with foreskin for a reason, and he's going to be born perfect, no need for alterations and cosmetic surgeries. When he's old enough to choose, he can choose himself to get circ'd...but I don't want to take away a choice from him. When our boys ask about it, we're going to be truthful and tell him how we spared him a cosmetic surgery that is no longer recommended and used to be when daddy and your brother were little...and besides no 2 males look alike anyway...I guarantee you they won't care if you say "daddy has brown hair, and you have blonde, daddy has brown eyes and you have blue, you have curly hair, daddy has straight, etc" I could go on and on, but there will be tons and tons of differences in your kids and their dad, and you can teach them to embrace differences and teach them how wonderful it is to be yourself.
__________________
Anna (26) wife to Kevin (29) ~very conservative, Jesus loving,
breastfeeding, cloth diapering, babywearing,
extended rear facing, no-circ, no-vax, no-fluoride, proud SAHM/photographer mommy to
Riley (6), Skyler (4) , Payton (2) & our new baby Quinn Mackenzie My Blog
AnnaG01 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 10:33 AM   #14
Terra's Avatar
Terra
Drinks her not-just-a-smoothie pina coladas in ALL CAPS in front of her preschoolers before she takes her CDs and goes home.
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Central Florida
Posts: 12,302
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!




We were in the same boat as well with our new little one.
Here's the thread I had about it back in April...it may help you as well

We too decided NO on the second DS as we feel it is his choice!
And be careful of those pesky pediatricians who still try to get you to do it!! [hence a thread I had a few days ago about this!]...

http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...d.php?t=386664
__________________
Terra: Independent woman, wife to Eric , mother to David & Aaron
Deeply spiritual, follower of Christ, connnected to my Native American spiritual roots. Over-thinker on life!
http://myownblueplanet.blogspot.com/
Terra is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 10:37 AM   #15
tararaboomdeea
Banned
sitesupporter
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 15,768
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

One of my boys is circ'd and 2 aren't. Same as you, we didn't know with our first son. I don't think it would be unfair at all of you to not circ this baby. I don't think you should if you'd only do it for cosmetic reasons, kwim?

tararaboomdeea is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 11:14 AM   #16
wear_your_baby's Avatar
wear_your_baby
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Virginia
Posts: 1,064
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

I think your momma gut is telling you what to do already. I haven't read the other responses b/c I"m in a hurry, but this is one of those topics dear to me. I, like you, made a decision with DS1 that I regret to this day. Now that I know better, I couldn't do the same thing to another DS, especially for the cause of having them all "the same." I kinda feel like the best I can do is make sure not to allow it to ever happen again, at this point. I hope this makes sense.
__________________
Jenny-CD'ing for 9 years!
Check my albums! Lots of Hannas to clear out.
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=4316bdb54f
wear_your_baby is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 12:29 PM   #17
acjlnmom
Registered Users
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 120
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

My response to them would be to ask them why your childrens' penis is of their concern. Seriously. Why do they care? Are they changing them? Are they taking your older son to a urologist and paying for it? Until they are, then they need to keep their thoughts to their self.
__________________
Jamie - Wife to Matthew
Mommy to Ashleigh, Collin, Justin, Lucas and Nathan
For Sale: Boys Gymboree 0-9 months
acjlnmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 07:30 PM   #18
gogokim's Avatar
gogokim
Registered
seller
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Posts: 6,687
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

Hope the appt went well for your son
__________________
Kim(45) ,mam toM,23M, 20K,11and A,4 and Oma (grandma) to T and B born 3/20/11
gogokim is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-12-2008, 08:21 PM   #19
luvsviola's Avatar
luvsviola
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Central Indiana
Posts: 17,103
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

For us, I will let DH make the decision. I am on the fence about it, so it will be up to him. Right now, his decision is to circ, but he obviously didn't think about it too much because we had a girl.
__________________
Kristen
Middle school teacher by day, super mom by night
Mommy to The Boss~2007, The Energizer Bunny~2009, and The Princess~2011
My kids are no longer in diapers, but somehow, my computer keeps finding its way back here...
luvsviola is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-13-2008, 02:15 PM   #20
Ami in Deutschland's Avatar
Ami in Deutschland
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Germany
Posts: 718
My Mood:
Re: Circ'ing questions. One ds but not the other?? Advice please!

I live in a country where people go regularly to the sauna and walk around naked, and I think the idea of people commenting on your son's penis is ridiculous. My DH had to be circ'd as a child after developing phimosis (foreskin doesn't retract and can interfere with peeing). His younger brother is not circ'd and I've never heard of them comparing.

If you do decide to circ, I'd recommend making sure as little as possible of the foreskin is cut. This is the technique used in Europe for medically indicated foreskin cutting. It is called preputioplasty. Your son would have a semi-exposed glans and therefore "look-like" most of his peers, but enough skin is left intact that you son would be less likely to experience painful erections as he gets older.
"Advantages claimed for preputioplasty are more rapid, less painful recovery, significantly less morbidity, and preservation of the foreskin and its various protective, erogenous, and sexual physiologic functions" from cirp.org/library/treatment/phimosis/
see also:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Preputioplasty
__________________
Little Bear almost 3 years old and Baby Bear 15 Months
Ami in Deutschland is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.