Re: Adopting older children.
Actually, changing his birth order to oldest was extremely hard for him. But, the thing was, he was so angry because his bio-brother was left behind. He very much wanted his older brother to come and be the oldest. But, his brother was never placed for adoption, nor could the family have afforded to place him for adoption. So, it was as much a grief process as anything to do with resentment for being the new oldest. Part of how we helped him understand the increased responsiblity was by taking away the increased priviledges being oldest gave him and making him earn those priviledges back again. When he understood that with responsibilty comes priviledges, its never been an issue again. Now, he LOVES being oldest, and he LOVES his extra priviledges that the others don't get.
He's also become extremely protective of all of the little ones.
Mom of 8 rainbow children.
Big sister to Passelofkids