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Old 07-15-2008, 08:56 PM   #1
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I'm finally ready to share my story... (please be considerate of your comments my heart still aches.)



Let me start from the begining. Ok, back in May we were approached by our children's pastors wife, we had a young girl at church that was pregnant (she planned on giving the baby up for adoption) and she asked us if we were at all interested. So Michael and I talked and prayed about it and we really felt like it was something we should presue.

So we met with the birth mom, she told us that she wanted an open adoption. We talked about our expectations etc. She then called and said she wanted to meet my whole family, my parents included. So one Sunday we all went out for lunch. Things went amazingly well. Then she told me that she was due at the end of June. So things are moving pretty fast, she said she had decided that we would be perfect parents for her baby.

Things at this point are going really well, we met with an attorney. Hired the attorney. He started getting all the paperwork together. Then we find out the baby is a little girl and our excitment grew. Mind you, i was still keeping my heart guarded because nothing was set in stone.

On June 1st. We got a call at 4:15am and she's in labor. I go to the hospital and Michael came up later. I was in the room almost the whole time. At 5:15pm the baby was born. They came and got me and I got me so I could get the matching braclett (you know the security bracelett) and then I got to go to the nursey with her. By now I'm completely attached.. Michael and I pretty much got to spend from the time she was born until Thursday with her. When we arrived at the hospital to bring her home. We had to wait for some discharge paper work and in the mean time the birth mom changed her mind and decided to parent. The TX law says that no adoption paper work can be signed until 48hrs after the birh. So no papers were signed. We came home with no baby.

It's been hard..It was hard to explain to my other kids that no baby was coming home. I know I didn't give birth to that baby but in my heart she was my baby.

I'm doing much better now. I'm finally starting to find some closure to the whole situation. It's been a hard road, but I know God is in control and he has his eyes on me.

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Oh mama. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry.
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I'm so sorry for your loss mama.
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Momma, I am so sorry! I know that nothing is going to make you feel better but time and prayer, but just remember that God doesn't make mistakes...and He doesn't give us anything we can't handle!
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i am very sorry. my heart goes out to you.
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Oh honey, I am so sorry. You are completely validated in feeling like she was yours. We bond very quickly with babies. Take your time and grieve. It truly is a loss.
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that is heartbreaking i am so sorry that your baby was taken away from you. I hope you give yourself time to grieve the loss
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