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Old 10-12-2006, 11:55 AM   #31
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I think what the pp was saying is that the person she was speaking of isn't married yet and has no kids. Therefore, she has no experience on breast or bottle feeding and that hopefully by the time she does get married and/or has kids she will be more informed.

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Old 10-12-2006, 11:55 AM   #32
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I post hesitantly because I am in the minority I guess...But I have 7 children and did not bf any of them. I grew up in a family where touching,emotional things, saying I love you, anything really nice..lol..was just not done! I never had "the talk" about my peroid, or sex, or anything..I still am a very non touchy feely, unemotional kind of person who is trying so hard to be different with her own kids! but I was very uncomfortable with the idea of bf'ing and I just could never bring myself to try it..I hope my dd's will think differently..who knows..I am trying! I love my kids to death and always cuddled and held them while giving them a bottle, I feel i have done my best.

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Old 10-12-2006, 11:57 AM   #33
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No one in my immediate family BFd either and I was the first of my friends to have kids (obviously, I was only 16!) and I just didn't have much support or enthusiasm in anything parenting related since they didn't think I should be a parent to begin with! I had decided to not BF since it was twins and I was returning to school in early Sept (they were born in June) and I had WIC so the cost wasn't an issue, not that that IS a good reason, I realize that now. The nurse asked me if I planned on BFing shortly after birth and I said no and she warned me that it would be very painful if I didn't and that it would help my babies even if I only did it for the time I was home. It made sense so I tried but they were 6wks early and in the SCN and had latch issues, jaundice and Baby B had inhaled fluid during birth so he was under a hood and on IV abx. They encouraged me to pump and provided me with a hosp. grade pump and I was getting 16oz per 10min session on day 3 and they were SHOCKED! Obviously that made me proud so I kept up the good work but had to dump a bit out since they stayed for 7 days and only ate 1oz MAX per feeding! I got a hosp. grade pump for free through my ins. and Medicaid paid the 20% co-pay. I pumped exclusively for about 4wks and started supplimenting at night to get some sleep. Then at 6wks just switched to FFing FT and started school a few weeks later. It worked out well for the circumstances and I learned a lot!!
Baby #3 was way different. I planned to EBF and didn't even BUY Formula before birth. They didn't send me home with any and all I had was a dinky old style (2001) Evenflo single battery op. pump (plug in thingy broke the first day!) that didn't do anything! I got super engorged and developed a fever and was borderline mastitis by day 5! I was trying to nurse but he wasn't getting anything b/c I was so swollen, but I was still producing from trying to BF. It was a vicous cycle and without a pump it was awful. The home RN told me to try ice to stop the swelling and not to touch them or get them warm or else it would produce more milk. Well she told me to start from scratch once I got past that but I ended up getting sick before I could try again and was seperated form him for 7 days and diagnosed with heart failure so I was on tons of meds that I couldn't BF while taking. I ended up with PTSD over the experience leading up to the diagnosis and it was a really scary thing. I had really bad anxiety and went to counseling for about 10 mos. I stopped going when I got pregnant w/ #4. Nothing I can/could do to change it so I don't dwell on it.
Baby#4 I wanted to EBF even MORE! I did good and kept it up for about 4wks. I had a Medela double electric pump and it was great. Dh helped me with cold packs for swelling, hot packs for flow and massage for duct issues. I did great and stored some as well. At 3wks he still had jaundice so we had to do bloodwork and a bili blanket. Nothing was working so she called a specialist who said it was Breastmilk Jaundice and I needed to suppliment with formula for 4 days and if his levels go down by day 5 that I can try to introduce BM again. Well who with 4 kids has the time to pump AND make formula and take care of everything else?? I was sad that my milk was making him have jaundice and he didn't want to take the breast after having a bottle nipple for almost 5 days! It was a hard transition so I just gave up. Plain and simple. I ended up on Prozac about 4 mos later and had PPD w/ anxiety again.
Baby#5- I AGAIN was dead set on BFing but was ok with FFing if I HAD to again, no guilt this time. I had supply issues from the get go. I had to pump and eat tons of calories and drink tons of water to keep up with him. I started feeling PPDish around 4 mos PP and got on Zoloft (safe to take while BFing) as soon as I knew it was going to be a problem again. The only thing was I got totally nausous and couldn't eat for like 3 days. I tried but it was just awful! My stomach hurt so bad and I was all jittery. I started BFing at night and trying to pump 3x/day but nothing was coming out. I ended up waking up one morning and only one side was even slightly full and I couldn't even express more than a drop! I was so sad but I knew I tried and tried. Once I could eat again I tried the tea, pumping, oatmeal, water, extra calories... still nothing! He also had dairy allergies and eczema which stopped on the soy formula.
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Old 10-12-2006, 11:57 AM   #34
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Re: Why don't people breastfeed?

Some people think it's sexual in nature and that the mother is getting her jollies with doing it, some think it's disgusting drinking bodily fluids, some feel it's child abuse or not appropriate (all having to do with sex except the bodily fluids). Some just simply do not want to be "tied down" to the baby and would rather have a bottle to be more free. Understandable.

I bf my first 2 DD's until 2 months but since I was working and had NO support, I ended up quiting and it was a difficult decision but one that just worked for me at that time

I went on to have 2 more children when I was no longer employed and was fully capable of BFing with no restrictions and I really desired to BF until 12 months (that was my goal.) I BF keegan until he was 11 months and then I had NO interest anymore and then I didn't really want to stop with Nate but I did at 13 months.

I wonder how long I will with our last LOL
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I think what the pp was saying is that the person she was speaking of isn't married yet and has no kids. Therefore, she has no experience on breast or bottle feeding and that hopefully by the time she does get married and/or has kids she will be more informed.

Correct me if I'm wrong.
Okay. That makes sense.
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Old 10-12-2006, 12:11 PM   #36
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Re: Why don't people breastfeed?

I breastfeed, but I have a friend, who similar to the article in Fit Pregnancy last month, was sexually abused as a child and because of the psychological trauma is unable to breastfeed her children so sad.
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I breastfed for 6 weeks, at that time I tried to pump my milk. I could pump half an oz before nothing else would come out. That was from the left breast, I couldn't get anything out of the right. My nipples would become so enlarged, swollen and painful that I could not continue to pump. I didn't really know about the LLL, I gave up. I was so disappointed. I HAD to go back to work when DS was 7 weeks old, I'm military and didn't have a choice. My husband was totally understanding and had a DS from a previous marriage where she tried BFing for a day and quit because her "nipples hurt" so he wasn't educated enough to care that I stopped and we both had know idea their was help out their. So I guess what I'm getting at is.... with my next DC I want to breastfeed and pump.
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Old 10-12-2006, 12:17 PM   #38
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Re: Why don't people breastfeed?

I think w/ the pp said about not being married, if you read above that line, she says that she thinks that she would have dh help her get up w/ the baby so she didn't have to all the time and therefore bottle feeding would be easiest as her dh can help, but she's not married yet so she can still change her mind

Anyhow, w/ my 1st I was 21 when I had him. I did try to nurse in the hospital and I did for a whole day *whoopie* and the whole time, he screamed and cried and flung his body to and fro, but when given a bottle, he ate nicely and then slept. He was obviously hungry and was frustrated when he sucked and got nothing.
With this experience, I was 23 when dd was born and eventhough my boobs filled up enough to feed an army lol I didnt nurse because of my previous experience.
With my 3rd child, I read the LLL book a bit and asked questions to my SIL and decided to give it a go, and I was more relaxed, as well as older ( I was 27) and I weaned him at 16 mos old due to the fact I needed to be put on meds to do this surrogacy I've been trying to do.
Since then, Ive become a huge bf advocate and love to help people learn more about it!
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Ijust wanted to add here, that i dont think anyone choose to bottle feed becasue they dont want to do what is "best"
Everyone has differnt ideas. I know several young teenage moms, who did extended breastfeeding( one was 14 when she had her baby and BF for 2 years)
I also know severeal VERY educated moms,who just decided BFing wasntbest for them inthere own situation.
We all do the best that we can. Breatfeeding does NOT make you a good mother. Feeding your baby and loving them does...
Lets be nice please...

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Old 10-12-2006, 12:33 PM   #40
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Re: Why don't people breastfeed?

I have a friend who is the most mothering person you'll ever meet. From the time I met her at age 12 she wanted to be a mother. She tried to BF her first and had a lot of problems BFing. When her daughter was 2 months old she finally decided to stop stressing about it, realizing that her daughter would be better off drinking formula and having a mother who wasn't stressed out all the time. I think now she has a negative association with BFing and chose not to BF her son.

I can also understand that mothers just want their body back after 9 months of sharing it with someone else!

Personally, I'm glad I'm BFing, and I hope that all mothers will give it a shot, but I understand that it's not for everyone.
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