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Old 08-07-2008, 05:47 PM   #1
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We are expecting #3, which will be our last child. Some people have said congrats, but most have said something along the lines of:

"Oh wow. Was this planned?"
"Oh wow. Will this be the last one?"
"Oh wow. Will you be getting your tubes tied after this one?"

And the best came from my mom today
"Well, I think you're crazy. But I guess it's your decision on what you're going to do about it."

WTH? "What I'm going to do about it?" I'm married, financially stable, we own our home, why is having a 3rd child such an anomaly? I keep hearing from everyone "well, most people only have 2 kids, so yes, having more than 2 is unusual."

I truly don't care what people think, it would just be nice to see some positive reactions from people. Or at least they could keep their mouths shut.

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Old 08-07-2008, 05:51 PM   #2
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Ugh! I am sorry, why do people do that? Like it is any of their business!

My Uncle said to me when he heard about #3 "Haven't you learned how to keep your legs closed?"
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Old 08-07-2008, 05:53 PM   #3
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i basically just ignore people if they have a rude comment cause really its none of their business how many children i have. just smile and say "i'm just lucky to be so blessed!" they'll most likely look at you in a very retarded way!!!LOL
i dont have that problem with my mom though, my youngest is 7 months and she's already asking when i'm having another one!!!hee hee
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Ugh! I am sorry, why do people do that? Like it is any of their business!

My Uncle said to me when he heard about #3 "Haven't you learned how to keep your legs closed?"
i'm sorry!! i always get 'haven't you heard of birth control?'
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Actually, I had a friend of the family tell me I should have 3! Guess why? In the event something happens to DF & I, with 2 they still have someone. BUT--if something happens to one of THEM, then the other kid is alone. Hence, you have 3 so they always have SOMEONE. And, congrat's on baby #3!!
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Old 08-07-2008, 06:03 PM   #6
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I don't know why people do that. My mom always seems happy for me. But when DH told my FIL, he said, "I think it's time to close the factory son."
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Old 08-07-2008, 06:06 PM   #7
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Yeah, I'm hearing the same things right now. Most people are pretty supportive (Jonny's mom had 6 kids, so she can't really say boo!), but there is the odd duck. Some that I imagined would be supportive actually said some pretty dumb stuff!

Congrats mama! We're due date month buddies!
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you really cant win...I get comments about only wanting 2...

I'm sorry you have to deal with these comments during such a happy time.
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Re: Vent: why can't people just say "congratulations?"

I got the same reaction, and still do . . . everyone is different ya know & when people ask me that I realize how much they just don't "get it" . . . how amazing it is #1 to be able to have babies and #2 take the risk of having more than 2 because it's just so much fun and so fulfilling! Don't even let it get to you mama, just smile inside knowing that you are going to have a house full of wonderful little people that you & DH made. The more the merrier I say!
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Old 08-07-2008, 06:10 PM   #10
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Re: Vent: why can't people just say "congratulations?"

Yesterday I told my sister and she was like "oh- I didn't know you were trying"

We weren't... but we are married and fine. Uggh! It annoyed me.
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