Diaper Swappers

greenkmt · 10-23-2006, 09:10 PM

You did a GREAT job! I think I would feel guilty if I weaned my DS even now at 2. LOL Mamma's are so hard on themselves. I read about your baby and I am sorry

. GLuck Don't think she would relatch on? A friend of mine did after 8 months of not nursing...

crunchychristianmom · 10-24-2006, 12:07 AM

It took me three years to fully get over feeling guilty about weaning my first baby for the same reasons you did -- valid reasons!! He weaned between 10 and 13 months after I got pregnant and couldn't take the pain, and he never looked back. I, on the other hand, mourned the loss of that connection, felt guilty about not being strong enough to handle nursing through pregnancy, and felt even more guilty when I bonded really strongly with my second son, and sometimes took stresses out on my toddler.

But, you know what? He's five now, and the sweetest, healthiest little boy! We adore each other, and I've worked really hard to not let my guilt create baggage between us -- because I really did the best I could do at the time -- and he really was fine!!

You did the best you could, too. You're already mourning the loss of your unborn baby. Don't let another day go by where you feel guilty when you look at the daughter you have, instead of simply cherishing each moment you have together, just as it is.

havanadaydreamin · 10-24-2006, 06:55 AM

You shouldn't feel guilty, but I think that is part of being a mom. I think that all of us mamas will find something to feel guilty about! You did it much longer than most of the other mamas out there.

I am thinking of weaning my 17 month old, and I get sad thinking about it. But I really think that it is time for me to do this.

1happymama · 10-24-2006, 07:41 PM

You're doing great! Don't worry about this...she obviously was ready and it sounds like you had a very easy time weaning (which I've heard can be very difficult). I too felt the same way that you did when I weaned dd because I was pg with ds. But she never looked back! (I think that hurt even more. I wanted to feel needed.) It's a loss of something that we've grown so accustomed to in our relationship with our babies. You have the added emotional difficulty of dealing with another loss. So the way that you're feeling is completely understandable. But guilt accomplishes nothing. I do believe in the power of prayer and I'll be praying for you. (I'm soon to head down this same road with ds)

momx2 · 10-24-2006, 11:23 PM

:hug:

mama don't feel guilty!! You did what you needed to so that you could get through that time. Would you have rather continued bf and started feeling resentful towards your dd instead? You think about your dd and try to provide the very best for her and that's what makes a great mama, which you obviously are!!

OneFabMama · 10-24-2006, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by 1happymama

You're doing great! Don't worry about this...she obviously was ready and it sounds like you had a very easy time weaning (which I've heard can be very difficult). I too felt the same way that you did when I weaned dd because I was pg with ds. But she never looked back! (I think that hurt even more. I wanted to feel needed.) It's a loss of something that we've grown so accustomed to in our relationship with our babies. You have the added emotional difficulty of dealing with another loss. So the way that you're feeling is completely understandable. But guilt accomplishes nothing. I do believe in the power of prayer and I'll be praying for you. (I'm soon to head down this same road with ds)

Yes, it was a lot easier than I thought it would be just from what ive heard.
She was totally weaned in like 2 days.

10-23-2006, 09:10 PM	#11
greenkmt Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Location: Missouri Posts: 2,067 Ratings: 23 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Guilty... You did a GREAT job! I think I would feel guilty if I weaned my DS even now at 2. LOL Mamma's are so hard on themselves. I read about your baby and I am sorry . GLuck Don't think she would relatch on? A friend of mine did after 8 months of not nursing... __________________ Misti- Mommy to my smart, HSed, BFed, PLed, healthy eating, 4 year old Mamma's boy. DOULA in training! HCG Diet works! Ask me how.

10-24-2006, 12:07 AM	#12
crunchychristianmom Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Location: California Posts: 150 Ratings: 27 Feedback: 100%	Re: Feeling Guilty... It took me three years to fully get over feeling guilty about weaning my first baby for the same reasons you did -- valid reasons!! He weaned between 10 and 13 months after I got pregnant and couldn't take the pain, and he never looked back. I, on the other hand, mourned the loss of that connection, felt guilty about not being strong enough to handle nursing through pregnancy, and felt even more guilty when I bonded really strongly with my second son, and sometimes took stresses out on my toddler. But, you know what? He's five now, and the sweetest, healthiest little boy! We adore each other, and I've worked really hard to not let my guilt create baggage between us -- because I really did the best I could do at the time -- and he really was fine!! You did the best you could, too. You're already mourning the loss of your unborn baby. Don't let another day go by where you feel guilty when you look at the daughter you have, instead of simply cherishing each moment you have together, just as it is. __________________ ~Amanda, homeschooling mom to three boys and a baby on the way http://crunchychristianmom.blogspot.com Last edited by crunchychristianmom; 10-24-2006 at 12:08 AM. Reason: gender oops!

10-24-2006, 06:55 AM	#13
havanadaydreamin Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Searching for my lost shaker of salt..... Posts: 2,637 Ratings: 100 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Guilty... You shouldn't feel guilty, but I think that is part of being a mom. I think that all of us mamas will find something to feel guilty about! You did it much longer than most of the other mamas out there. I am thinking of weaning my 17 month old, and I get sad thinking about it. But I really think that it is time for me to do this. __________________ Joy-Mommy to Delaney & furbabies Kiwi (cat), Angel Oscar (July 1999-3/25/08), Boozer & Harmony(Boxers)

10-24-2006, 07:41 PM	#14
1happymama Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Location: Hill AFB, Utah Posts: 1,407 Ratings: 39 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Guilty... You're doing great! Don't worry about this...she obviously was ready and it sounds like you had a very easy time weaning (which I've heard can be very difficult). I too felt the same way that you did when I weaned dd because I was pg with ds. But she never looked back! (I think that hurt even more. I wanted to feel needed.) It's a loss of something that we've grown so accustomed to in our relationship with our babies. You have the added emotional difficulty of dealing with another loss. So the way that you're feeling is completely understandable. But guilt accomplishes nothing. I do believe in the power of prayer and I'll be praying for you. (I'm soon to head down this same road with ds) __________________ Deanna -Blessed wife to my wonderful USAF DH of 11 years , homeschooling mama to one sweet DD (8) and 4 awesome "all boy" DS (6) (4) (2.5) (14 months) and adding to team blue to create our "Fab Five" in August

10-24-2006, 11:23 PM	#15
momx2 Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 956 Ratings: 67 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Guilty... :hug: mama don't feel guilty!! You did what you needed to so that you could get through that time. Would you have rather continued bf and started feeling resentful towards your dd instead? You think about your dd and try to provide the very best for her and that's what makes a great mama, which you obviously are!!