BF in public vent - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

aschrader78 · 09-07-2008, 12:52 PM

Yesterday we were at my husband's company picnic. It's a large company, and we were at a good-sized amusement park. There were several women nursing their babies, covered by blankets. He didn't say anything all day, but then when we were in line for the last ride we went on, there were two women nursing nearby. One had turned a bench around facing away from the crowd, and the other just sat on another bench and started nursing, covered by a receiving blanket. He looked at her, then said to me, "Geez, you'd think she would at least turn around like the other one did."

I looked at him like he had sprouted another head. I'm breastfeeding our 8.5 month old son, and have breasted all 4 of our kids for at least a short time. He is completely supportive of my nursing, so I just couldn't believe he said something like that. I just said, "You know, that baby needs to eat, too. It's not like she's flashing nipple or anything."

I'm still upset with him about it. Anyone else I would just chalk it up to ignorance and let it go, but his own son is breastfed... and yes, sometimes in public!! (Yesterday the baby stayed with grandma, or I probably would have been sitting there with them!)

Why do men have to be so stupid?!

JeDeeLenae · 09-07-2008, 12:53 PM

I would be really disappointed in my DH if he said that.

Irishmommy · 09-07-2008, 12:56 PM

I would have replied, "Geez, I really wish you would think for half a minute before you say something idiotic like that."

aschrader78 · 09-07-2008, 12:59 PM

I am really disappointed in him. And I just didn't know what to say... I couldn't (and still can't!) believe he said that. Several times today I've started to bring it up, but I haven't yet.

ETA: Shannon, I wish I had had the presence of mind in the moment to say that! Perfect!

aschrader78 · 09-07-2008, 01:03 PM

You know, I think the more I think about it, I'm hurt more than anything. I feel like what he said attacked me as much as it did that woman, because I could have been her on any other day. Is that what people are saying about me when I'm feeding my child?! I guess it's a good thing we don't get out much.

Ugh.

Hammie43 · 09-07-2008, 02:42 PM

Ugh! I know how you feel. DH doesn't make any comments like that but we don't really go anywhere. But I hear things like that and I wonder if that's what people are saying about me too. She was covered up! Give the woman a break!

TieNappyQueen · 09-07-2008, 02:45 PM

It is not just men hon:hug:
dh would have lost his head had he said that!

lydiamom · 09-07-2008, 08:55 PM

Yeah, my DH would've been in the doghouse bigtime for that.

pixilated · 09-07-2008, 10:14 PM

Same here, DH would've been in big trouble.

evaliesmom · 09-08-2008, 03:57 PM

ugh! so sorry mama! wish more men/husbands/people were more supportive!

09-07-2008, 12:52 PM	#1
aschrader78 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Indiana Posts: 731 Ratings: 130 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	BF in public vent Yesterday we were at my husband's company picnic. It's a large company, and we were at a good-sized amusement park. There were several women nursing their babies, covered by blankets. He didn't say anything all day, but then when we were in line for the last ride we went on, there were two women nursing nearby. One had turned a bench around facing away from the crowd, and the other just sat on another bench and started nursing, covered by a receiving blanket. He looked at her, then said to me, "Geez, you'd think she would at least turn around like the other one did." I looked at him like he had sprouted another head. I'm breastfeeding our 8.5 month old son, and have breasted all 4 of our kids for at least a short time. He is completely supportive of my nursing, so I just couldn't believe he said something like that. I just said, "You know, that baby needs to eat, too. It's not like she's flashing nipple or anything." I'm still upset with him about it. Anyone else I would just chalk it up to ignorance and let it go, but his own son is breastfed... and yes, sometimes in public!! (Yesterday the baby stayed with grandma, or I probably would have been sitting there with them!) Why do men have to be so stupid?! __________________ Anne ~ DH Jeremy 3/29/97 & ExtBF, ERF, CD'in, Christian SAHM to: Chelsie Brooke 5/20/97 Caitlin Alexis 7/8/99 Brayden Matthew 12/17/03 Jackson Luke 12/19/07

09-07-2008, 12:53 PM	#2
JeDeeLenae Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vegas Posts: 22,119 Ratings: 121 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: BF in public vent I would be really disappointed in my DH if he said that. __________________ ~Cassie~ Single Mom to Jordan 9/04 and Jaxon 6/06 and Kelli 10/08 and 1/11 and Jevin 12/11 Check out my gallery! PM me for YYMN and other knitting needs.

09-07-2008, 12:56 PM	#3
Irishmommy Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: south Texas Posts: 2,544 Ratings: 95 Feedback: 100%	Re: BF in public vent I would have replied, "Geez, I really wish you would think for half a minute before you say something idiotic like that." __________________ Shannon - Loving wife to my Navy man Mommy to Noah 6.5, Caitlyn 2.5, and Aiden 2-28-08 and my two angels CL, and Emily JoAn b/d 5-14-2004 ***No longer anxiously awaiting Aiden - He's HERE!!**

09-07-2008, 12:59 PM	#4
aschrader78 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Indiana Posts: 731 Ratings: 130 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: BF in public vent I am really disappointed in him. And I just didn't know what to say... I couldn't (and still can't!) believe he said that. Several times today I've started to bring it up, but I haven't yet. ETA: Shannon, I wish I had had the presence of mind in the moment to say that! Perfect! __________________ Anne ~ DH Jeremy 3/29/97 & ExtBF, ERF, CD'in, Christian SAHM to: Chelsie Brooke 5/20/97 Caitlin Alexis 7/8/99 Brayden Matthew 12/17/03 Jackson Luke 12/19/07

09-07-2008, 01:03 PM	#5
aschrader78 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Indiana Posts: 731 Ratings: 130 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: BF in public vent You know, I think the more I think about it, I'm hurt more than anything. I feel like what he said attacked me as much as it did that woman, because I could have been her on any other day. Is that what people are saying about me when I'm feeding my child?! I guess it's a good thing we don't get out much. Ugh. __________________ Anne ~ DH Jeremy 3/29/97 & ExtBF, ERF, CD'in, Christian SAHM to: Chelsie Brooke 5/20/97 Caitlin Alexis 7/8/99 Brayden Matthew 12/17/03 Jackson Luke 12/19/07

09-07-2008, 02:45 PM	#7
TieNappyQueen Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Just outside of crazy Posts: 6,475 Ratings: 55 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: BF in public vent It is not just men hon:hug: dh would have lost his head had he said that! __________________ Gluten/Dairy Free, breastfeedin', shared sleepin' unschoolin' Mama to two boys with perfect junk Easton( 4/27/05 SPD Hypo and Aspergers) and Junah( 2/18/08 born at home in the tub!) Check out the blog link above, daily GFCF meals, menu's and shopping lists!! Making GFCF fun, easy, and not like cardboard!

09-07-2008, 10:14 PM	#9
pixilated Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,033 Ratings: 48 Feedback: 98%	Re: BF in public vent Same here, DH would've been in big trouble. __________________ Due to a malware infection in my desktop, I will be limiting my DS time while I finish up my last few transactions. Please be patient.