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Old 09-07-2008, 12:52 PM   #1
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Yesterday we were at my husband's company picnic. It's a large company, and we were at a good-sized amusement park. There were several women nursing their babies, covered by blankets. He didn't say anything all day, but then when we were in line for the last ride we went on, there were two women nursing nearby. One had turned a bench around facing away from the crowd, and the other just sat on another bench and started nursing, covered by a receiving blanket. He looked at her, then said to me, "Geez, you'd think she would at least turn around like the other one did."

I looked at him like he had sprouted another head. I'm breastfeeding our 8.5 month old son, and have breasted all 4 of our kids for at least a short time. He is completely supportive of my nursing, so I just couldn't believe he said something like that. I just said, "You know, that baby needs to eat, too. It's not like she's flashing nipple or anything."

I'm still upset with him about it. Anyone else I would just chalk it up to ignorance and let it go, but his own son is breastfed... and yes, sometimes in public!! (Yesterday the baby stayed with grandma, or I probably would have been sitting there with them!)

Why do men have to be so stupid?!

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Old 09-07-2008, 12:53 PM   #2
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I would be really disappointed in my DH if he said that.
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Old 09-07-2008, 12:56 PM   #3
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Re: BF in public vent

I would have replied, "Geez, I really wish you would think for half a minute before you say something idiotic like that."
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Old 09-07-2008, 12:59 PM   #4
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I am really disappointed in him. And I just didn't know what to say... I couldn't (and still can't!) believe he said that. Several times today I've started to bring it up, but I haven't yet.

ETA: Shannon, I wish I had had the presence of mind in the moment to say that! Perfect!
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Old 09-07-2008, 01:03 PM   #5
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You know, I think the more I think about it, I'm hurt more than anything. I feel like what he said attacked me as much as it did that woman, because I could have been her on any other day. Is that what people are saying about me when I'm feeding my child?! I guess it's a good thing we don't get out much.

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Old 09-07-2008, 02:42 PM   #6
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Ugh! I know how you feel. DH doesn't make any comments like that but we don't really go anywhere. But I hear things like that and I wonder if that's what people are saying about me too. She was covered up! Give the woman a break!
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Old 09-07-2008, 02:45 PM   #7
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It is not just men hon:hug:
dh would have lost his head had he said that!
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Old 09-07-2008, 08:55 PM   #8
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Yeah, my DH would've been in the doghouse bigtime for that.
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Same here, DH would've been in big trouble.
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ugh! so sorry mama! wish more men/husbands/people were more supportive!
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