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Old 09-08-2008, 09:19 PM   #11
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egh, I'd of probably put my husband in his place! wow. sorry he did that to you mama. HUGS!

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Old 09-08-2008, 09:34 PM   #12
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It is not just men hon:hug:
dh would have lost his head had he said that!
Yep-I find more women have issues ironically. A lady at work said 'ewwww' when I had to excuse myself from a meeting to pump.
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Old 09-08-2008, 10:48 PM   #13
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You know, I think the more I think about it, I'm hurt more than anything. I feel like what he said attacked me as much as it did that woman, because I could have been her on any other day. Is that what people are saying about me when I'm feeding my child?! I guess it's a good thing we don't get out much.

Ugh.
Did you say anything yet?

I think you should just say that it hurt your feeling to hear him say ... the other day. Maybe you could find out why he said it-what he was feeling or his intentions.

I hope you feel better about it after talking!
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Old 09-08-2008, 11:04 PM   #14
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(me and DD at Old Navy over the weekend - I had to whip it out and baby, there was no blanket)


Sometimes, DHs say really stupid stuff.

Sometimes DWs say really stupid stuff. (but not nearly as often)

Cut your honey some slack but tell him you were offended. I would personally start the conversation by whipping it out and squirting him, but hey, that is just me.

Men just don't get it some times - mine is not very in tune with those crazy things called feelings so I spend a lot of time spelling stuff out for him .
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Old 09-09-2008, 02:19 AM   #15
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That's too bad. My dh would have lamented with me the fact that all those mamas felt they had to cover up!
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Old 09-09-2008, 01:50 PM   #16
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That's too bad. My dh would have lamented with me the fact that all those mamas felt they had to cover up!
Huge ditto. Someone that is very supportive of breastfeeding would never say such a stupid thing. I must be honest, if anyone ever said anything similar to that around me...well they would certainly get an earful.
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Old 09-09-2008, 02:26 PM   #17
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(me and DD at Old Navy over the weekend - I had to whip it out and baby, there was no blanket)


Sometimes, DHs say really stupid stuff.

Sometimes DWs say really stupid stuff. (but not nearly as often)

Cut your honey some slack but tell him you were offended. I would personally start the conversation by whipping it out and squirting him, but hey, that is just me.

Men just don't get it some times - mine is not very in tune with those crazy things called feelings so I spend a lot of time spelling stuff out for him .


Sorry, but I'm LOL reading this whole thread because dd is 7 months, and dh is VERY supportive, but he's a little weird when I BF in public (protective-like) and it always makes me laugh. Like making sure my blanket really covers us, finding a good corner (I like the privacy myself because it helps me relax, but not because I'm afraid I'll offend someone).

Just do like the V-8 commercial next time and slap him on the forhead (JK)!! No, really, cut him some slack... it was a brain fart!! And don't worry about what other people think of you - whether they are thinking the same... think of it as an opportunity to educate!! I always get a chuckle when someone realizes I'm BF and do a quick aversion of the eyes to avoid 'looking'... the longer I'm BF, the more comfortable I am doing what I need to do for my dd in public... I've never had anyone say anyhing or give me dirty looks (just an 'oops' like they just walked in on me in the bathroom )
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Old 09-10-2008, 11:19 PM   #18
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Oh- so sorry : ( No advice but I bet he wouldn't have meant anything bad if he really thought about it. Things like that are kind of culturally conditioned (not that it makes it less hurtful). My vote is to talk to him about it, especially since it bothered you so much, and ask him if it bothers him when you nurse in public to help get across that it made you feel that way. good luck- hugs!
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He must have had caca brain at the moment. Still not right and I'm sorry.
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My hubby can be a dummy about bf sometimes too. He's not unsupportive, he just doesn't understand my commitment to it.
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