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Old 11-19-2006, 09:52 PM   #1
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My SIL, whom I consider my best friend, told my husband last night that we need to start "feeding" our 8 month old dd. (I had spent the whole evening with her baking cookies with the kids and she pulled him back into the house while I was putting the girls in the car to tell him this) Apparently breastmilk isn't real food. I can't help but feel ticked. I don't want to confront her, but her comment has made me sad. DD #1 is such a picky eater and I decided to skip the pureed Gerber stuff for DD #2 and go straight to cut up soft solid table foods - so I do give her food from my plate at least once a day - but she is still pretty much efb. Not to mention I am trying to delay solids to help with our family food intolerance issues. She is healthy and around the 50 %. I am just sad - thanks for letting me vent. :sigh:

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Well, I would try not to be hurt by it if at all possible. She probably thinks she is giving sound advice, as that is all she knows. Try to look at it from the perspective that she truly cares for your dc and that may be able to help you understand where she's coming from. I'm sure it wasn't malicious, but I know it can be frustrating!
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She probably thinks she is giving sound advice, as that is all she knows.:
You are right - I have to remember this is coming from a woman who never made it to the two week mark breastfeeding her own kids because "two weeks of being attached to a kid was loooonnngg enough for her".
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You are right - I have to remember this is coming from a woman who never made it to the two week mark breastfeeding her own kids because "two weeks of being attached to a kid was loooonnngg enough for her".
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You are right - I have to remember this is coming from a woman who never made it to the two week mark breastfeeding her own kids because "two weeks of being attached to a kid was loooonnngg enough for her".
Wow. Sounds like you have very different parenting styles. I think she really meant well with that crappy advice.
Both my boys were EBF until 6 months to the day. Thereafter, I made them food out of the same stuff we ate. Each new food was introduced very slowly and DS#2 wasn't very interested. I followed his cues and he didn't eat much "real food" at all until after one year old.
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Old 11-20-2006, 06:03 AM   #6
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my mom says this about my DD. Just nod and say Thanks for the advice but I think we are doing just fine. Then explain to your husband why you are doing what you are doing (but im sure he already realizes it). Like the PP said she probably thinks she is giving great advice and doesn't realize how different a BF and diet are compared to a FF baby
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It is nice to have a place to vent hun?
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Old 11-20-2006, 06:15 PM   #8
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I got that too ALL the time from the IL's and even my mom who is VERY bfing friendly. They just don't understand that bm is just fine until a year or longer. Let it go, and smile!! You're doing what's BEST!
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I would tell her exactly what you just said in your first post.
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