Diaper Swappers

mevans · 01-21-2009, 10:34 PM

My 4.5 year old DD uses this excuse A LOT. For not picking up toys, for not wanting to go places, etc.
I'm not sure when to believe it and when to ignore it.
Like when she says it when we're getting ready to go to Walmart or whatever, I usually ignore it and we go anyway.
But if it's something for her, then I get all on the fence about what to do. The 2 times I've noticed it the most is with gymnastics on Fridays at 11am and AWANAs on Wednesday evenings. When I start getting her ready, she starts saying I'm just too tired. I just want to stay home and take a nap. But once we get there, she likes it, and has fun.

I dont want it to be like I'm forcing her to go, but....

MammaBx3! · 01-21-2009, 10:48 PM

My son did that at the same age with preschool. Also various things around the house (picking up toys, etc). He always enjoyed preschool, in fact talks about it even this year. I don't think you should stop her activities, but if you want to-- just ask her if she wants to stay home. Or just stay home one day and see if it bothers her.

My son just outgrew this phase. I think he was either misunderstanding what he was saying or he was just trying to get a reaction out of us.

GL

topazdodge · 01-21-2009, 11:03 PM

I notice my dd saying that when I've been saying it too much.

my2sweets · 01-22-2009, 05:47 AM

For the past 1-1.5months my soon to be 4yr old has been using "I dont feel well" when I tell her to pick up, clean, ect. I tell her if she doesnt feel well then she needs to lay down. If she gets up to play I say 'If you dont feel well enough to put the books away then you dont feel well enough to play/color/watch tv/ect either' and have her lay back down. It doesnt take long before she's up and putting those books away lol Since I've been doing this (just the last 1-2wks) she's been saying it a lot! less. lol

However we dont have any activities or school yet. Maybe ask your dd if there's another reason she doesnt what to go. Try to get her talking. Maybe remind her of how much fun she has when she's there. Could you tell her that if she's still really tired once yall are there that yall can leave? As for the store though if you have to go you have to go. Tell her she can rest on the way to and from and even take a nap when yall get home.

mamoo3 · 01-22-2009, 07:57 AM

Does your dd still take daily naps? My 2nd dd is also 4 years old and tells me she is to tired to do things quite a bit. On the days she naps we don't have that problem as much. When she does say she's to tired to do something I've asked, I'll tell her that she can take a nap or go do what I asked...she usually ends up doing what I asked.

weddell · 01-22-2009, 11:28 AM

My dd always says she can't pick things up because she "can't bend over well". She started saying it after I said it while pregnant and wearing ds in the carrier.

c2afwife · 01-22-2009, 11:48 AM

My DD says "I'm too sick" and then follows it with whatever I want her to do. "I'm too sick to go to school" "I'm too sick to pick up" "I'm too sick to eat that". LOL It's funny but yet very frustrating! I wonder if they are picking it up from us???

mevans · 01-22-2009, 11:51 AM

I have to say I'm glad I'm not alone! lol
We've had a problem with arguing, back-talk, not doing what we say, etc lately too.

She doesnt take a daily nap...just random naps.

I dont think she really doesnt want to go...I dont really want to stop her activities, because she does like them when she's there. And, I pay $40/month for the gymnastics, so I definitely dont want her skipping that! lol

Last night after AWANAs I talked to her about how she doesnt need to whine and complain about going places, because she has fun when she's there. I asked if she had a good time at AWANAs, and she said yes.

Thanks for the advice everyone!

If there's anything else, feel free to post.

4HisGlory · 01-22-2009, 11:52 AM

my 4.5 year old does the same thing. If she really might be tired let her skip gymnastics or something once and see what happens (but make her rest while she skips it) and see if she ever says it again..lol

**bjaneen** · 01-22-2009, 01:26 PM

I wish I could use that excuse! I'm too tired a LOT!

01-21-2009, 10:34 PM	#1
mevans Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Illinois, USA Posts: 4,970 Ratings: 21 Feedback: 100%	"I'm too tired to...." My 4.5 year old DD uses this excuse A LOT. For not picking up toys, for not wanting to go places, etc. I'm not sure when to believe it and when to ignore it. Like when she says it when we're getting ready to go to Walmart or whatever, I usually ignore it and we go anyway. But if it's something for her, then I get all on the fence about what to do. The 2 times I've noticed it the most is with gymnastics on Fridays at 11am and AWANAs on Wednesday evenings. When I start getting her ready, she starts saying I'm just too tired. I just want to stay home and take a nap. But once we get there, she likes it, and has fun. I dont want it to be like I'm forcing her to go, but.... __________________ Michelle wifey to Justin, homeschooling SAHM to Kerilynn 3/28/04, Hunter 8/4/06, baby girl Piperann Meadow born 7/19/2011 at 40w5d, and our Great Dane Jess & missing Finley Jonas 7/27/10 ISO: size large Bummis Super Brite covers

01-21-2009, 10:48 PM	#2
MammaBx3! Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,755 Ratings: 37 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: "I'm too tired to...." My son did that at the same age with preschool. Also various things around the house (picking up toys, etc). He always enjoyed preschool, in fact talks about it even this year. I don't think you should stop her activities, but if you want to-- just ask her if she wants to stay home. Or just stay home one day and see if it bothers her. My son just outgrew this phase. I think he was either misunderstanding what he was saying or he was just trying to get a reaction out of us. GL __________________ Remember...to...Breathe! Super busy mama to superkids, wifey to Hot Army Man, and trying to de-stash before PCS! Robeez, NIP for $21ppd... Boy and Girl, sizes 0-24m!

01-21-2009, 11:03 PM	#3
topazdodge Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Rapid City, SD Posts: 5,450 Ratings: 193 Feedback: 100%	Re: "I'm too tired to...." I notice my dd saying that when I've been saying it too much. __________________ Carrie: Mom of 3 gorgeous girls; Hazel 01/04, Annalisse 02/07, and baby Roxy 07/12... Single Mom, proud member of UUA, & Magnum ~~owner~~ LOVER Free Crochet Longies Instructions Here

01-22-2009, 05:47 AM	#4
my2sweets Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 4,815 Ratings: 5 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: "I'm too tired to...." For the past 1-1.5months my soon to be 4yr old has been using "I dont feel well" when I tell her to pick up, clean, ect. I tell her if she doesnt feel well then she needs to lay down. If she gets up to play I say 'If you dont feel well enough to put the books away then you dont feel well enough to play/color/watch tv/ect either' and have her lay back down. It doesnt take long before she's up and putting those books away lol Since I've been doing this (just the last 1-2wks) she's been saying it a lot! less. lol However we dont have any activities or school yet. Maybe ask your dd if there's another reason she doesnt what to go. Try to get her talking. Maybe remind her of how much fun she has when she's there. Could you tell her that if she's still really tired once yall are there that yall can leave? As for the store though if you have to go you have to go. Tell her she can rest on the way to and from and even take a nap when yall get home.

01-22-2009, 07:57 AM	#5
mamoo3 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: SD Posts: 1,026 Ratings: 79 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: "I'm too tired to...." Does your dd still take daily naps? My 2nd dd is also 4 years old and tells me she is to tired to do things quite a bit. On the days she naps we don't have that problem as much. When she does say she's to tired to do something I've asked, I'll tell her that she can take a nap or go do what I asked...she usually ends up doing what I asked. __________________ SAHM to Lena Bena (1-02), Claire Bear (11-04), Con Man (12-06 and Trickster (5-09)