Diaper Swappers

elioraimmanuel · 01-30-2009, 10:49 PM

We all get "needed and touched out," Mama. Take a bit of time for yourself. I do have one that wouldn't allow me to meet any of her needs, except BFing for 25 months. She wouldn't kiss me goodnight, turned her face away. DH said that it would bother him. I was ecstatic that she loved her Daddy so. Then DS came around and that all changed...as soon as she had real competion, she wanted me.

Now, DS is all about Me! He tugs at my heart soo. It is such a short time that our LO's need us. If you get a bit of time to yourself and a bit of help from DH, maybe you'll get some perspective. Soon enough this special time will be gone!

ACSNMama · 01-30-2009, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by momof4girls

They know that minute might easily be a few hrs (you cant get him off his internet game he plays). I totally understand.

Wow DH here used to not care for the computer, NOW he lives on the thing playing the d@mn games! We don't have video games except N64 (we're so outdated in that aspect). And today he was fixated on doing the taxes, that's fine and dandy not listening to a word I said!

I breastfed my son as well, I think it just wasn't AS demanding because it was him only. DS has been jealous of newborn DD so it has been rough. He went through a stage at the beginning where he DIDN'T want me, it was as if he resented me for bringing DD home.

Then he went through a strictly Mommy stage, NO DADDY. Now he's starting to let Daddy read him stories and such before bed but certain things I still have to do which is ok, but the most frustrating part is the fact that it always seems to land on the moments DD needs to eat. I think that's part of my issue.

Whenever she is awake during the day and not fussing it's almost like I'm always anticipating her starting to fuss. I spoke to a few mom friends who've said the same thing. There is that peaceful feeling or shall I say relaxing feeling when you know the kids are sleeping and you actually have a few hours to do...well whatever you want to!

I told DH tomorrow I'm going out alone to do some shopping...buying a high chair (I have a coupon and sounds like a great reason to get out of the house). Maybe stop a few other places. I don't know, I'll find something to do!

MammaBx3! · 01-31-2009, 12:21 PM

Nope. You will never have a moment to yourself again. Not event to go poop or take a shower

I know exactly how you feel, mama.

Hang in there!

crystalanne79 · 01-31-2009, 01:21 PM

I totally understand. My dd is attached to my dh and he is by far her favorite but with our ds he is such a mama's boy it's not even funny. They both have their advantages and disadvantages! It can be really hard not being the favorite too, trust me. I also have my "me" time after the kids go to bed.

WhatWasIThinking · 01-31-2009, 01:41 PM

I do stay up late also to get some me time! Glad to that I'm not the only one!

We are on our second round of the tummy flu so of course I am everyones favorite now!!!!!!!

princesshannon · 01-31-2009, 03:42 PM

i can't even hide in the bathroom anymore b/c ds2 has discovered how to take apart the doorknob covers and bust right on in....AGGHHHHHHHHHHH!

01-30-2009, 10:49 PM	#11
elioraimmanuel Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: On the Alpaca Farm! Posts: 2,342 Ratings: 106 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Sick of being the Favorite! We all get "needed and touched out," Mama. Take a bit of time for yourself. I do have one that wouldn't allow me to meet any of her needs, except BFing for 25 months. She wouldn't kiss me goodnight, turned her face away. DH said that it would bother him. I was ecstatic that she loved her Daddy so. Then DS came around and that all changed...as soon as she had real competion, she wanted me. Now, DS is all about Me! He tugs at my heart soo. It is such a short time that our LO's need us. If you get a bit of time to yourself and a bit of help from DH, maybe you'll get some perspective. Soon enough this special time will be gone! __________________ Kelly wife to Dazyboy SAHM to 5 Seeker of Natural Health

01-31-2009, 12:21 PM	#13
MammaBx3! Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,755 Ratings: 37 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Sick of being the Favorite! Nope. You will never have a moment to yourself again. Not event to go poop or take a shower I know exactly how you feel, mama. Hang in there! __________________ Remember...to...Breathe! Super busy mama to superkids, wifey to Hot Army Man, and trying to de-stash before PCS! Robeez, NIP for $21ppd... Boy and Girl, sizes 0-24m!

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crystalanne79 Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 8,854 Ratings: 164 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Sick of being the Favorite! I totally understand. My dd is attached to my dh and he is by far her favorite but with our ds he is such a mama's boy it's not even funny. They both have their advantages and disadvantages! It can be really hard not being the favorite too, trust me. I also have my "me" time after the kids go to bed. __________________ Crystal~WAHM to Emma & Liam and wife to Scott my entertainer. Stocking Minkee and Bamboo Cloth Pads at Tree Hugger! Choose from 125+ colors!

01-31-2009, 01:41 PM	#15
WhatWasIThinking Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: PA Posts: 2,805 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Sick of being the Favorite! I do stay up late also to get some me time! Glad to that I'm not the only one! We are on our second round of the tummy flu so of course I am everyones favorite now!!!!!!! __________________ Brandy WOHM Mommy to: E 13 , K 11 , A 7 , and Little J 21 months and he's in the ~~> stage right now! Officially ERF & EBF!

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princesshannon Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: the middle of nowhere Posts: 1,160 Ratings: 4 Feedback: 100%	Re: Sick of being the Favorite! i can't even hide in the bathroom anymore b/c ds2 has discovered how to take apart the doorknob covers and bust right on in....AGGHHHHHHHHHHH!