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Old 02-06-2009, 07:32 AM   #1
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I really felt guilty/embarrassed at the WIC office yesterday

So, we have been on WIC before, but not for about the past year. But, we could really use the help and qualify, so I went there yesterday for myself and scheduled and appt to get my 2 boys on it also.

They were VERY nice. The lady who took my info. told me it was great to have someone like me come in- I think it was b/c I was truly interested in my kids nutrition and breastfed all of them.

That said, I could not help but feel guilty to be there asking for assistance and yet pregnant for the 4th time! Our financial situation should improve in the next year (hopefully- if dh can get a job in the field he is graduating in!), but still.

I don't know. I guess it is just that I have all these kids and yet there I was basically saying I can't afford to feed them. There was a time when I would have said some not so nice things about someone like me.

Anyone else been there/is there? Anyone got anything to make me feel better?

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Old 02-06-2009, 07:39 AM   #2
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hugs mama!!! you didn't make the economy like it is. and i'm sure under better circumstances your husband would make plenty to help support. the gov't makes these programs for a reason and as long as you don't take advantage of it that's the whole point!!
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Old 02-06-2009, 07:41 AM   #3
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Re: I really felt guilty/embarrassed at the WIC office yesterday

I'm preggo with my third and am considering applying for the first time. Though I do feel a bit guilty I remind myself that our financial situation is not normal right now and when it does finally go back to normal we won't need WIC anymore. The only reason Im applying is because we need it and I refuse to feel guilty that we've been blessed with another child in this crappy economy and you shouldn't feel bad either.
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Old 02-06-2009, 07:42 AM   #4
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hugs mama!!! you didn't make the economy like it is. and i'm sure under better circumstances your husband would make plenty to help support. the gov't makes these programs for a reason and as long as you don't take advantage of it that's the whole point!!
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Old 02-06-2009, 07:45 AM   #5
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WIC isn't 'government assistance' in the same since as Food Stamps. Having said that -there is no shame in getting help when you need. We all pay into our government to have that help available not just when 'they' need it but when we need it too. To recognize that you can use services available to you is mature and responsible- pride will not feed children.
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Old 02-06-2009, 07:56 AM   #6
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Re: I really felt guilty/embarrassed at the WIC office yesterday

Like pp's said you did not make the economy like it is mama... Please don't feel guilty or embarrassed. To share my story with you... I had been with a man for over a year, we hadn't gotten married for personal reasons but had decided to try to get pregnant. I got pregnant, he became extremely abusive, and I had to leave. I didn't want to be on state assistance or WIC but I am now left a single mother with a ton of bills, just trying to make it. It's rough but sometimes things happen. I don't plan to remain on WIC/Assistance forever but for now, it's something that I need to do for mine and my baby's health. Please don't feel guilty mama... just try to give to other people in need when you can!
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Old 02-06-2009, 08:06 AM   #7
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don't feel bad about it mama....you are doing something that will benefit your children. We are struggling because of this economy...when we were TTC we figured in DH's raise and cost of living raise as well....he didn't get it. Our mortgage is going up by $200 a month and our water bill just increased as well. Things happen. If you know that know that you are doing what you can to better your situation then don't be ashamed. Hold your head up high and don't let others opinions/thoughts bother ya.
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Old 02-06-2009, 11:40 AM   #8
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Mama, don't feel bad, WIC is a great program. My husband is a medical student (almost done - hooray) and I have been staying at home with our son since he was born (3 years of med school) and without certain types of government assistance like WIC, medicaid we wouldn't be able to make it with me being a SAHM - BUT that is very important to both of us so we are willing do what needs be right now.

I knew starting out that it wouldn't be forever and we will be done with getting help in just a few short months. Don't feel guilty or embarassed
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Old 02-06-2009, 01:13 PM   #9
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we are actually in the same boat. DH had a really good job and was just recently laid off in Jan. He had to apply for unemployment, and I had to apply for our family food stamps and medicaid you do what you need to do to make sure your family is taken care of. He went back to school to get his bachelors and is looking for work so we can get out of the hole we are in.
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Old 02-06-2009, 05:22 PM   #10
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I've considered using WIC- i know we qualify but i'm concerned that they will try to dictate how i raise my kids- what food we give them/the shots we don't give/ micromanage thier weight ect..
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