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Old 03-16-2009, 06:40 PM   #11
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"Why, because he was in my womb for nine months, knows the sound of my voice, my smell, my movements, and still wants to feel security? I'm honored."

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Old 03-17-2009, 04:39 PM   #12
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i think my response would be along the lines of, "those kinds of comments are neither helpful nor welcomed." short and to the point.
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Old 03-24-2009, 09:40 PM   #13
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I would make sure I never complained to whoever is making those sorts of comments about thet baby being needy etc.....(not that she does...) and it depends on how close to the person I was....Not very close? I would probably just smile,act like it doesn't bother me and say"No.....Just very much loved!" If I was close to the person I would probably say something along the lines of what the other poster said..." Please.....You had your chance to raise yours.....This is the way we are doing it...."
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Old 03-24-2009, 10:49 PM   #14
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Thanks ladies... she is loving the advice I am passang along. Now, wether ot not she is brave enough to try it??? Another story.

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Old 03-24-2009, 11:49 PM   #15
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My SIL is super opinionated about everything. She also claims to be an expert in everything. I have already had to think about what I will say to her. I have had a couple of situations to say something to her when she gives an opinion about ttc, but I tend to bite my tongue.

Here is what I plan on saying to her when she criticizes my parenting skills (cause she will - she is all-knowing):
"Thank you for your input. However, I have decided to do things differently. If I have any questions I will ask for your opinion. Until then, please respect the fact that I am parenting my child the way I feel is best."

BTW, I truly don't believe that babies can manipulate. They are not mentally, intellectually, or emotionally capable.
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Old 03-25-2009, 11:07 AM   #16
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Thanks ladies... she is loving the advice I am passang along. Now, wether ot not she is brave enough to try it??? Another story.

BTW- Mommyto??: I LOVE your avi! Is that what I think it is? If so, its beautiful!
my avatar is my baby boy in his bag. born 1/20/09 16 minutes after his sister at home... thanks!
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Old 03-25-2009, 12:07 PM   #17
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I think "You raised your kids how you saw fit, now I'll raise mine as I see fit." is the perfect answer to all annoying suggestions from anyone. Even if they don't have kids!! I told my dh last night that's what I was going to tell my mom or MIL if/when they say something about me needing to spank my kids. I guess MIL brought it up to dh last night and he made the mistake of telling me. Now I'm annoyed with her. I'm not going to spank my kids because she spanked hers. They didn't exactly all turn out so great!! One ran away at 12 and lived on the street. Three are drug addicts and my dh is a recovering alcoholic. But they were well behaved in public. Okay, whatever. Listen to your mommy instincts, and stand up for you kids. It took me too long to start doing it. I really regret that. Just do it. You'll feel empowered.
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Old 03-25-2009, 02:48 PM   #18
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Really, really great advice. I think we all have this image in our heads about how we're goin to protect our kids and stick up for them but when we suddenly have to stick up for ourselves, its a mind blank! You guys are awesome, even without this thread, there is ALWAYS going to be a rude person who feels compelled to share their wisdom or opinion!!
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fruit and vegetables spoil children don't

what I found works for most any rude comment/question is to say "Since I am sure you did not mean to ask such a rude question (make such a rude comment) I am just going to pretend I did not hear it!"


That's got my vote!

My family has the spoiled baby philosphy. I just ignore them or say "Well, imagine how much more spoiled he'd be if I only had one!"
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Kelly,, I love your post!! Spot On!


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fruit and vegetables spoil children don't

what I found works for most any rude comment/question is to say "Since I am sure you did not mean to ask such a rude question (make such a rude comment) I am just going to pretend I did not hear it!"
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