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Old 03-27-2009, 02:14 PM   #11
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I feel for you momma! As a school psychologist, I've always been lucky that my PTs were advocates for Adaptive PE. If you find yourself repeatedly not getting anywhere, you could always request a reevaluation looking specifically at gross motor skills. It would help determine if your child has made improvements and give the school an idea of where things stand now. An advocate is also always acceptable and a great way to help parents find their voice. I often recommended them to parents and always welcomed advocates at meetings because 1) I never had a need to feel defensive about it and 2) the advocate could help myself and parents communicate better. There were times when I was explaining something five different ways but the advocate could explain it better, simply because she was a parent who had "been there" and there have been times when an advocate could explain a parent's position better to me. It can be so intimidating for parents when you are the only one(s) there and there are 4-5 school personnel sitting there on "their turf." Another option would be to make a list of your questions and make an appt with the PT to sit down one-on-one and discuss your concerns. Your child is soooo lucky to have you as a mom, taking the time to advocate and follow up on things. I wish I had 100 more mommas like you!
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Old 03-27-2009, 03:11 PM   #12
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thanks this is all great advise. I had another meeting yesterday and they agree with what I say now that they have had more time to to get to know him..we are going to reconvine again and it went really well so far. I met the behavioralist and she wants to put together a behavoir plan with me involved since he has been hitting and stuff in class. Hopefully the meeting will go as well as I hope
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Old 03-28-2009, 10:37 PM   #13
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By law the school has to 'accept' the IEP and MFE documents until a meeting can be held, did you have one of those yet? if the school doesn't have it, that doesn't mean that your child doesn't get it. If the team feels that the child needs that service and put it into the IEP the school is mandated to provide that service, even if that means contracting out the service or sending the child to another school for that service. I would strongly advise getting and advocate. Be patient with the teachers, they may be feeling pressured from within the school.
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I may be reiterating what others have said but I'm currently working on my Master's in SPED. You are allowed (and I would encourage) to bring anyone you want to the IEP meetings. The meeting should not conclude until all parties are satisfied--basically the school wants to make the family happy. I hate that different states have different rules on SPED, and it appears to be different from one community to another. I don't know, but I would think that if the school you are currently at does not meet your needs, it is the responsibility of the school to bring in the requirements or to pay for transportation to where your child's needs would be met. I think I have bias towards parents because I've been on several sides of the IEP process--student with IEP, sibling of those with IEP, mother of child with IEP, general educator in IEP process, and now working on becoming a special education teacher.
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we did have a meeting when we first moved in and that was when they changed the IEP and took away some services. I was told they don't have certain things like adaptive PE so that was a huge concern. they also practice a full inclusion model where in his old school he was partial inclusion because it was too much for him to be in the class all day. The new school doesn't like to do that but said they are going to start as they have seen behavior and agree. i am going to his school today to meet his new one to one specialist/assistant as they hired a new one because the first one turned out to not be qualified to handle him. thanks for all the advise and support
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thanks this is all great advise. I had another meeting yesterday and they agree with what I say now that they have had more time to to get to know him..we are going to reconvine again and it went really well so far. I met the behavioralist and she wants to put together a behavoir plan with me involved since he has been hitting and stuff in class. Hopefully the meeting will go as well as I hope
I am glad that you are working with the school and it seems to be going better. Sometimes, it does just take a little bit to get to know each other. Keep working with them and keep advocating for you son. You are doing a great job. Keep it up.
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I am glad that things are starting to work out for you. Anything on that IEP must be followed or the school can get in serious trouble! Does he not have a one-on-one aide? If he doesn't, the school must provide one, if needed. I am glad that you are not just one of the parents that don't care, sign whatever, and rarely show up for meetings! I have been to several where the parents never show up. After everything settles down, I would also meet with his teacher(s). I know as a teacher, sometimes hearing from the parents helps me be a more effective teacher. Parents know their kid the best. (Like one kid we had had OCD about mixing stuff. Parent told us, not IEP. Our science teacher was like that's something I NEED to know.) Good luck with it!
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I'm so glad to hear you're making progress!!!! It sounds like the school is really starting to respond. Hooray!! I'd like to give a "shout out" (do people still say that anymore???? ) to all the special ed teachers, directors and school psychs out there! It's nice to see so many of us trying to help parents get the help their children need!
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I am glad that things are starting to work out for you. Anything on that IEP must be followed or the school can get in serious trouble! Does he not have a one-on-one aide? If he doesn't, the school must provide one, if needed. I am glad that you are not just one of the parents that don't care, sign whatever, and rarely show up for meetings! I have been to several where the parents never show up. After everything settles down, I would also meet with his teacher(s). I know as a teacher, sometimes hearing from the parents helps me be a more effective teacher. Parents know their kid the best. (Like one kid we had had OCD about mixing stuff. Parent told us, not IEP. Our science teacher was like that's something I NEED to know.) Good luck with it!
oh my! I can't even imagine not showing up to a meeting! He does have a aone to one and they actually hired someone new because the first one wasn't working. They hired someone more specialized with training and experience working with kids with autism and she is amazing!!!! I did talk to his teacher as she had some questions about some behaviors he had in class and she was very very sweet. She told me he is doing wonderfully in gym so I guess I don't have to worry about adaptive PE after all I just don't understand the huge change from the old school, but hey I am happy with it!
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I'm so glad to hear you're making progress!!!! It sounds like the school is really starting to respond. Hooray!! I'd like to give a "shout out" (do people still say that anymore???? ) to all the special ed teachers, directors and school psychs out there! It's nice to see so many of us trying to help parents get the help their children need!
I agree mama a huge shout out!!! you are all amazing people...I would love to enter the field someday myself!
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