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Old 04-12-2009, 05:21 AM   #1
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My 1yo still wakes up twice a night!

Can someone help? This is a child who wakes up everytime SCREAMING. Naps, morning, everything. He is full of drama, for sure. I am absolutely not opposed to letting him cry it out (with more delayed visits each time), but he doesn't stop. Seriously, we've let it go on for 45 minutes before (going in a 5 minutes, then 10, then 15 , etc.) and he doesn't stop. He's the most stubborn kid I've ever seen (much like his mother).

He NEEDS sleep. WE need sleep. We're losing our minds and have absolutely non-existent energy throughout the day. Any suggestions?

He does take a bottle when he wakes up - but I'm willing to delay that. I know he's not starving. He eats/drinks fine all day long.

Thanks in advance!

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Old 04-12-2009, 05:27 AM   #2
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Re: My 1yo still wakes up twice a night!

I'm not much help my 2 year old wakes 3 to 4 times, I just go with the flow I figure as long as he goes back to bed once I give him the bottle to hold then I'm ahead. He does have a nap of 3 or 4 hours in the afternoon which is our saving grace. I also have operated on little sleep I think you sort of get use to it. I have fought it, given him water in a bottle to drink instead of tasty milk, and as long as he's not teething or sick I just do a bottle for him and hand it to him and close the door and head back to bed. I was the playing at night that burned my bottom lol
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Old 04-12-2009, 05:35 AM   #3
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Re: My 1yo still wakes up twice a night!

my kids woke up every 2 hours to nurse at that age. I'm having trouble deciphering what the problem is?

is he not napping? not going to sleep or not staying asleep? is it the night waking? (is he night waking?)
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Old 04-12-2009, 06:01 AM   #4
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Re: My 1yo still wakes up twice a night!

He naps twice a day - once in the morning about 10am once in the afternoon around 3pm - each time for about 1 1/2 hours.

At night, he goes to sleep around 8pm, wakes up around 2am for a bottle, then most nights, wakes up around 4am again for a bottle. I should also mention he's really a big boy. He's about 33" long and 26lbs. So I know he might need more food than a smaller baby, but I really believe he's getting all the food in during the day that we can get in him. He eats 3 meals, 2 snacks plus an 8oz bottle before each nap. Plus he drinks about 6 oz. of water during the day with his food. My point, I'm not sure he's really hungry so much as just wanting to wake up.

But, when we do try to just let him put himself back to sleep, he SCREAMS and is relentless. Like I said in the first post, we delay returning to him by 5 more minutes each time (5, then 10, then 15, etc.) and he will cry all night long if we let him. Most times he even falls asleep for a few minutes, wakes up, realizes he's not crying anymore and starts all over again. But he waits just long enough for us to have dozed back off. It's so frustrating.

I think he's payback for all the craziness I put my parents through when I was in my teen years.
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Old 04-12-2009, 06:06 AM   #5
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Re: My 1yo still wakes up twice a night!

My DD is 1 & she still wakes up 2 times at night. I know how you feel. I give her a bottle which I know people say thats a no no but I think what ever works for you family is fine. I do plan on trying to stop one of the bottles soon. My pedi told me that if she doesnt have a poopie diapee then shes fine she'll go back to sleep. I just cant sleep with her crying on the monitor. Its tough hang in there. We play alot before bed. I try to tucker her out. That seems to help.
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My 15 month old wakes every 2 hours to nurse during the night. She has never slept longer than a 3 hour stretch when she's just utterly exhausted. My 4 year old wakes every night and comes into bed with the baby and I. It's normal to wake during the night for the first few years of life. Even grown-ups don't sleep soundly all night long. They wake and put themselves back to sleep. Making him get upset by screaming for 45 minutes doesn't help him learn to soothe himself to sleep.

This would be my recommendation:

Jay Gordon
It's more for nightweaning in the family bed but the suggestions are for a gentle way to teach your child to soothe themselves during the night so you could easily adapt it to a bottle-fed, solo-sleeping child.

Many people like Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution though I've never read it.

But whatever you choose to do, are in order. Sleep doesn't seem like a huge deal until you don't get any of it. It's exhausting trying to be a good mom when you are physically and mentally wiped out ALL.THE.TIME.
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Old 04-12-2009, 06:31 AM   #7
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I am of the unpopular mindset of CIO, its the only thing that works for us. DD last night was up from 2-3 off/on crying and fussing. I'd go in there, comfort for a minute put her back down, and walk away. I don't necessarily watch the clock but instead listen to her cry. If its really bad, I'm in there sooner, more like fussing or stopping in between, then longer between comfort. She gets in this cycle after an illness, takes 1-3 nights to adjust and then she's back to sleeping through the night.
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Old 04-12-2009, 06:54 AM   #8
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My son woke up once or more a night until he was about 18 months old. Most times I would give him a bottle and he'd go right back to sleep. To me that was a lot easier than fighting with him to go back to sleep, and didn't cause any problems. I was only up for a few minutes then we could all get back to sleep, no big deal, and he was happy and comforted as opposed to being left to cry himself back to sleep. I knew he would eventually grow out of it and sure enough he did.
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I feel you pain mama!! Dd#2 was 3 in November and JUST started sleeping through the night about a month ago! She was up anywhere form 4-8 times per nigh.

She has major allergy/breathing issues, that we did not realize.........we just thought she snored........lol

We took her to a specialist ~ she is on Zyrtec at night, a nasal spray and a breathe right nose strip.

I hope you are able to find the cause soon!!
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Many 12 month olds are up twice or more per night. It has less to do with food than it does sleep stage. He probably has had a dream and is not awake. Some babies want you to sooth them back to sleep and can/will not do it themselves. A strong willed child may not benefit from CIO as they tend to not stop at all till they stop breathing (I have one of these). Sometimes you just have to deal with it and realize that these years will pass soon. I am currently 21 weeks PG and have to sporadically sleep in the recliner when my son night wakes. It is the only thing that works. Be thankful it is only 2 times. Mine has been every 30 minutes unless I am in the chair, and then it is every 2 hours.
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