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Old 04-16-2009, 08:36 AM   #111
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Re: Not allowed on Field Trip if I breastfeed

What I meant when I said "that is silly" is that it is silly for that poster to be that disrespectful to to the other poster who voiced her opinion. She was very rude and demeaning. I completely understand everyone's point of view, but some of these posts are downright disrespectful of other people. Everyone here should have a right to their opinion, and some of the people are just sitting on this post just WAITING for someone to say something they don't agree with so they can bash them.

I came to this board for breastfeeding support, but everyone seems to think their way is the only way. We are all nursing moms here, and should stick together. Not everyone is comfortable with NIP, but we are all trying to give our babies the best nutrition possible.

How about a little constructive advice instead of all the bashing. No need to say anything back to me, I will go somewhere else for support.

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Old 04-16-2009, 08:37 AM   #112
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I would call the principal, ask what the official policy is on this (Im sure they will have to say you can nurse) and then demand an apology from the teacher to both you and your daughter. (If you are nursing while apology given-even better-haha!)
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What I meant when I said "that is silly" is that it is silly for that poster to be that disrespectful to to the other poster who voiced her opinion. She was very rude and demeaning. I completely understand everyone's point of view, but some of these posts are downright disrespectful of other people. Everyone here should have a right to their opinion, and some of the people are just sitting on this post just WAITING for someone to say something they don't agree with so they can bash them.

I came to this board for breastfeeding support, but everyone seems to think their way is the only way. We are all nursing moms here, and should stick together. Not everyone is comfortable with NIP, but we are all trying to give our babies the best nutrition possible.

How about a little constructive advice instead of all the bashing. No need to say anything back to me, I will go somewhere else for support.
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Old 04-16-2009, 09:14 AM   #114
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Re: Not allowed on Field Trip if I breastfeed

Sorry. No one has the "right" to tell me I can't nurse my child wherever I am, whenever I feel like, however I want to.
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Old 04-16-2009, 09:15 AM   #115
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Not everyone is comfortable with NIP, but we are all trying to give our babies the best nutrition possible.

How about a little constructive advice instead of all the bashing. No need to say anything back to me, I will go somewhere else for support.
Good luck with that, you won't find a board EVER that is completely and totally supportive and drama free, not a board full of women anyway.

I was never comfortable with NIP either. I did it when I had to but that was it, I would just CRINGE every time. Still, it is because I KNOW how people can be about NIP. I don't think it is right either, I think that we need to fight this because if we don't, breastfeeding rates will NEVER go up. Breastfeeding moms giving in to the "breasts are sexual, therefore they shouldn't be seen by kids above the age of ..." is not going to help. Do we go all stripper dance about it? NO! Just be natural and do what you need to do to take care of your child. That's all you can do. And yeah, I tried to pump bottles to take with and have other people give her a bottle when we were out. It never really worked.

Hmm, that reminded me of a story that a mom wrote on her blog about TRYING to be discreet and find a private to nurse her child. Yeah, found the perfect spot too, a bench in Central Park that was anything BUT private because it was where all the tour guides stopped. Oops.
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When I was a kid, bottles used to make me feel a little embarrassed- I mean it is a replica of a nipple!

And really, the kids most likely would never even notice the baby nursing! And even if they did notice, they would most likely not catch a glimpse of anything at all- and again, *if* they saw something, it would most likely be less than what they might see some chick at the park with a low-slung shirt on.

There was a mom with a 7 wk old at our local mall who was nursing with a blanket covering the baby and she was made to leave by the security guard. Ridiculous. And, legal! The mall is private property. Luckily, we convinced them to change their policy to now allow it- that mom went to the newspaper and she, along with outraged mothers, is what changed that policy! We need more people to stick up for the right to BF anywhere and everywhere. The reason it happened is b/c people have this attitude that feeding a baby with a boob should be a private act. If we lived in a culture with high BFing rates, no one would blink an eye at it.

So, OP- you may be saving another mother the hassle by sticking up for yourself! Good for you

Also, again, I along with what seems like many who are posting here, have rarely seen a mother NIP that was not discrete. It is not like the OP was ever planning on taking her shirt off at the park to feed the baby!
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There was a mom with a 7 wk old at our local mall who was nursing with a blanket covering the baby and she was made to leave by the security guard. Ridiculous. And, legal! The mall is private property. Luckily, we convinced them to change their policy to now allow it- that mom went to the newspaper and she, along with outraged mothers, is what changed that policy! We need more people to stick up for the right to BF anywhere and everywhere. The reason it happened is b/c people have this attitude that feeding a baby with a boob should be a private act. If we lived in a culture with high BFing rates, no one would blink an eye at it.
FWIW, it's not actually "legal" to make people leave. It's just not prosecutable.
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Good luck with that, you won't find a board EVER that is completely and totally supportive and drama free, not a board full of women anyway.

I was never comfortable with NIP either. I did it when I had to but that was it, I would just CRINGE every time. Still, it is because I KNOW how people can be about NIP. I don't think it is right either, I think that we need to fight this because if we don't, breastfeeding rates will NEVER go up. Breastfeeding moms giving in to the "breasts are sexual, therefore they shouldn't be seen by kids above the age of ..." is not going to help. Do we go all stripper dance about it? NO! Just be natural and do what you need to do to take care of your child. That's all you can do. And yeah, I tried to pump bottles to take with and have other people give her a bottle when we were out. It never really worked.

Hmm, that reminded me of a story that a mom wrote on her blog about TRYING to be discreet and find a private to nurse her child. Yeah, found the perfect spot too, a bench in Central Park that was anything BUT private because it was where all the tour guides stopped. Oops.

Good post! I know many many women who are not comfortable NIP b/c society is generally not supportive. I always make an effort to say something really positive to any mothers I see NIP. I nursed my dd in public, all over the place, til she was close to 2. But, I have small boobs (I think it is way harder to be discrete and comfy with large ones) and my mom was an LLL leader, so it gave me confidence.
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FWIW, it's not actually "legal" to make people leave. It's just not prosecutable.
I see. I do know that they were planning to call the police and have her escorted off the property. My LLL Leader called the LLL lawyers and they confirmed that yes, they had the right to do that b/c it was not public property. The woman inititally tried to resist, but once the threat of being escorted out by a police officer came up, she left and went to the newspaper
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I see. I do know that they were planning to call the police and have her escorted off the property. My LLL Leader called the LLL lawyers and they confirmed that yes, they had the right to do that b/c it was not public property. The woman inititally tried to resist, but once the threat of being escorted out by a police officer came up, she left and went to the newspaper
The issue is that if she has the right to be on the property otherwise, she has the right to be there breastfeeding.
The issue comes in that even in states that have laws protecting the rights, there's no enforcement clause. Only a handful of states have any actual legal consequence for infringing on this particular right.
That's why lawsuits come of it, not trials.
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