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Old 04-20-2009, 05:53 PM   #1
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RANTING HERE -- I apologize in advance.

WHEN, exactly, did it become acceptable to harass a pregnant woman about her weight??????? Seriously, EVERY time I leave the house, SOMEONE has to point out the fact that I am "HUGE". Usually it sounds like this :
them - "OMG, You're HUGE!"
me - "Uh, thanks. "
them - "How far along are you?/When are you due?"
me - "I've got about 4-5 weeks left"
them - "OMG, is it twins?!!??"
me - "Uh, no."
them - "Um, honey, you DO realize that you are going to have to lose all that weight, don't you?? Your husband doesn't want a fat wife" (yes, she said that yesterday - no kidding)
me - "Um, this is my 7th - my husband would want me if I were 800 pounds and hadn't bathed in a week "
Thankfully, she finally walked away. But I have had that EXACT conversation so often I feel like I'm gonna blow a gasket on the next person who thinks that they HAVE to comment on my size.

I'm 33 weeks, am 5'4" and have gained 30 pounds. I normally wear a size 8, and right now I'm wearing a size large in maternity. I can still wear my reg bra & undies - the only part of me that's really big is my belly. I can even still reach my feet! LOL But all these terrible comments are really getting to me. WHY is it ok to say stuff like that to a preg woman??? There was even 2 ladies that we know who said something to my HUSBAND last week about my size. I won't repeat what he told them, but suffice it to say, he has never been more attractive to me than he was when he told me what he said back to them.

OK, thanks for reading. I feel better now - I just HAD to get that off my chest. Now I am going to go comfort myself with chocolate - if they're going to call me fat, I might as well live up to it!

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Old 04-20-2009, 06:05 PM   #2
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awww mama

Apparently people think it's ok to tell pregnant ladies that they are "huge". I'm 5'3" and I gained 40-45lbs with both of my kids. I had complete strangers in the grocery store telling me I was enormous ALL.THE.TIME. Why do people think this is ok?

I'm so sorry. It sucks that people think it's ok to be so rude and completely tactless at a time in a woman's life when she is feeling most vulnerable and uneasy about her appearance.

The best response I ever gave was to my aunt, who said, "OMG! You're HUGE! How much do you weigh now???!!!!" I smiled and said, "About as much as you do." That shut her up.

Let it roll off your back mama. I bet you look awesome. Thirty lbs is NOT a lot to gain AT ALL! Tell them to shove off.

Or you could just take it like a real compliment...

Them: "Wow! You look huge!"
You: "Thanks! So do you!"

*walk off*

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Old 04-20-2009, 06:18 PM   #3
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i know you feel. im 5'4 and gained 50 with each. i always got the "is it twins?" thing...it is annoying.
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Old 04-20-2009, 06:20 PM   #4
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That is so obnoxious. Where do these people come from?
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Old 04-20-2009, 06:21 PM   #5
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I get comments like that all the time! The funny thing is I haven't gained as much with this pg as I did with my last one.
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Old 04-20-2009, 06:23 PM   #6
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That is so out of line! 'Your husband doesn't want a fat wife.'

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Old 04-20-2009, 06:30 PM   #7
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People are ignorant.

It goes both ways too. I am tall 5'10" and have been fairly thin. I don't show when I am pregnant, I look 4-5 months when I deliver. I once had a lady tell me that my baby had probably DIED inside me because I was too little to be 8.5 months pregnant! I was so upset that she had said that to me. It was horrible. People are just rude and mean.

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Old 04-20-2009, 06:40 PM   #8
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I agree. In my opinion, NEVER comment on a pregnant woman's size. All it can do is hurt and cause worry. It is easier this pregnancy b/c I knew my daughter was fine and am following the exact same weight pattern but it is still worrisome to hear comments about size.
Sorry you had to go through that.
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What is WRONG with ppl?!?!
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Old 04-20-2009, 06:49 PM   #10
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Quote:
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Them: "Wow! You look huge!"
You: "Thanks! So do you!"

*walk off*

This, most definitely!
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