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Old 05-25-2006, 09:16 AM   #1
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How to handle negative cding comments?

How do you diffuse negative comments regarding your choice to cd without being offensive or 'getting into it' with the person?

I was at my older dd's physical therapy session and another mom was there with her dd who was also getting p/t. She was talking to me and playing with my baby dd, and saw she was in a cd. She then asked me "You use cloth diapers?!" to which I smiled and said yes I do! She then rolled her eyes at me and said to my dd "that mother of yours!"

It wasnt a big deal honestly, but the negative association she had with cding and my choice to use them bugged me. I dont want to be confrontational, I see this woman practically every week and she is generally very nice.

Now the situation is past so I cant do anything about it. I just basically changed the subject. I guess I am trying to figure out what a good way to handle this would be for the future?

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Old 05-25-2006, 09:21 AM   #2
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

Been there, done that several times. It IS irritating to say the least but I usually will NOT let that one go but am nice about it. I explain my reasons for it, to enlighten them at least, and let them know it's easy, cute and inexpensive and it's a wonderful way to go the extra step for the health of my own child.

I try my very best to not make it sound condesending to the other parent and let them know this is MY opinion and MY decision only and it works for us personally.
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Old 05-25-2006, 09:23 AM   #3
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

I really haven't had any negative comments but when they act suprised that we cloth diaper and say "People still do that?" I say "Oh my goodness, you have no idea how far cloth diapers have come. It's really a great hobby and there is such cute stuff out there!" I usually show them a Fuzzi Bunz or something I have and they then think it's pretty cool. I tell them how much some high end diapers go for and they are amazed.Of course I tell them you can get by with inexpensive systems but people can't believe how crazed we are about something a kid poops in!

Just work their negative into a postive.

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Old 05-25-2006, 09:25 AM   #4
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

"Cloth is way cuter than disposables could EVER be" (big smile)

"I know *I* wouldn't want to sit in paper underwear 24/7...why should I make my baby do it?" (big smile, quizzical look)

"Ew, disposables are just too gross to use!" (big smile)

If you can think quick enough when someone first says "You use cloth diapers?!" in that particular tone, say "Of course...why wouldn't I?" (insert quizzical look and wait for an answer)

Can you tell I've been down this road...often?
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

"Yep I do! It's pretty fun. Look how cute these are!"

I have actually had very few negatives, and most have at least gotten less negative after hearing my excitement about it. You just have to be very positive, and let them know how great you think it is. Most people are willing to let you be the crazy one. :-)
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someone I'm on a small CD board with was told that her baby would be delayed in walking due to bulky CD's - this is hillarious. So, imagine how many generations of humans since the dawn of time and diapering were delayed and thankfully, the last few generations lucky enough to be exposed to disposables have been saved. Praise the Lord!
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she's just jealous
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someone I'm on a small CD board with was told that her baby would be delayed in walking due to bulky CD's - this is hillarious. So, imagine how many generations of humans since the dawn of time and diapering were delayed and thankfully, the last few generations lucky enough to be exposed to disposables have been saved. Praise the Lord!
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

I tend to be kinda mouthy, so I probably woulda said (to DD) "Man, what a wacky mommy you have! Using cloth instead of letting you sit in a bunch of carcinogenic and fertility-impairing chemicals all day. You poor baby!"
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Re: How to handle negative cding comments?

When people say stuff like that, I usually respond with (in a very nice tone) "Is there something wrong with that?"

Most of the people I know were just surprised to see cloth on my kids. They happen to see me changing a diaper and say "What is that? Is that a cloth diaper?? Wow!" Usuall the only comments that might be taken as negative are "Man, you're crazy.. Four kids, homeschooling, and cloth diapering? How do you do it??" They seem to think that if you cd, you spend all your time changing and washing diapers. I just say "With a family this big, I really don't notice an extra load of laundry every day or two. After all, I'm pretty much doing at least one load every day anyway!"
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