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Old 01-20-2007, 09:42 AM   #1
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do you beleive in and do you spank

they are trying to ban spanking in California. I think that this is a bit silly because are you going to put cameras in everyones house that has kids I just wonder how on earth they think this is going to work.

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Old 01-20-2007, 09:44 AM   #2
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I saw that on the news last night

It depends here, I will spank dd's hand if she wont listen to me repededly telling her no, but it is just more to get her attention. I dont beat her or anything, just usually grab her hand and if that doesnt work I will lightly tap it.

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Old 01-20-2007, 09:46 AM   #3
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That's tough.
I don't think spanking on a bear tush is right. Or it isn't right for us, I'll say. But I do think a swat (or a tap - whatever you want to call it) on the buns over clothes and a diaper can have its place in making a point.
Generally, no I don't agree with it. I do think it would be hard to enforce that law in California!
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Old 01-20-2007, 09:48 AM   #4
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I was spanked as a child and i do believe that sometimes and some children respond to it my mom never spanked me again after nine because i did not need it but my brother she did I do not believe in beating some people get carried away i think that is were they are coming from but those people are still going to do what they do that wont make an abusive person not be abusive
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Re: have a question no debate please just yes or no

I think it's interesting for a government to try to pass as law and implement something that is so debateable in its merits and subjective as the topic of spanking.

To answer your question: We don't spank at our house. DH and I have mutually agreed the spanking is not something we would use as a discipline/behavioral modifier.

ETA: now that I have read a couple other posts I will admit that I have swatted dds hand to keep her safe or to make a point about saftey (as in not touching a hot stove/burner etc...)

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Most people associate spanking with losing your temper and being angry. It's wrong IF that is the case, but it's not always. I do spank sometimes dependind on the kid and the situation. I'm never angry when I do it and not frustrated either. Read Dr. James Dobson's "The Willfull Child". I mostly agree with his views except the belt part.
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yA we have read that book I like that he gives other ideas for different behavor . And i agree spanking is not for every child or every situation my oldest did not respond at all to it so we dont use it for him our second sometimes she has to have one but it is one swap on the fat part on the bum and that is all and the third so far she has not needed it either they actually have all need different forms of disicipline
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I think it's a reasonable guideline. I don't want my kids hitting me or each other or my grandkids, so it wouldn't be setting a good example for me to hit them, or for them to see another adult hitting a small child. There are more creative and respectful ways of getting them to cooperate. I used to spank when i was younger and I know the feeling of, "There's just no other way to get them to do what *I* want." But my younger kids are so much better behaved than my older ones ever were. I guess it's because I am better behaved and no longer hit people. There certainly are other and better ways of getting your children to cooperate.
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