Diaper Swappers

HookedByCarolyn · 03-12-2010, 06:07 AM

I am 17 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 15 month old dd. She is *mostly* down to nursing just before nap and just before bed. She does occasionally nurse once or twice more if she is sick or gets hurt or something and can't calm down. I don't mind nursing her now and wouldn't mind to continue nursing until she self-weans, but most of the stories I hear about tandem nursing; their toddlers end up nursing as much as the newborn when the baby comes b/c they see the baby nursing all the time, then they want to also. I'm thinking that if that's the case, I'd rather encourage her to wean while I'm pregnant so I don't have to deal with the tantrums later. Any advice? Did anyone NOT have a toddler do this? Is is possible to keep her on the same schedule of only 2-3 times a day even after the baby comes? Thanks in advance!

isabelsmom · 03-12-2010, 06:33 AM

My girl was 2.5 when I got pregnant and I fully expected to tandem nurse. DD ended up weaning during the pregnancy. She did ask to nurse maybe 3 times after the baby was born (when she knew I had milk again), and I let her try. She kindof "played nursing" a few times, I honestly think she was just trying to see if I would let her/say it was ok. The fact that I did say yes seemed to make her feel good, but she did not have the actual need or want to nurse and it just stopped being a focus for her. She asked maybe 6 months ago (she is 4 now) and had forgotten how. She asked again about nursing (not if she could, just kindof talking about it, saying Baby Rae nurses but she doesn't anymore because she's big. ) So, really, my main point for you is that I worried about it too, worried that I wouldn't have enough energy, that constantly nursing them would just take all my time and drain me completely.

This obviously didn't end up being the case. So, my advice is, read up on tandem nursing a bit, and then let it go. Wait and see before worrying.

I'm sure everything will be fine.

1blessedmama · 03-12-2010, 08:12 AM

I am nursing my 4 year old and my 22 month old along with my 1 week old. This is my 2nd time tandem nursing. Neither time have either of the girls nursed as much as the baby.

b If they did/had, we'd probably just set some boundaries.

HookedByCarolyn · 03-12-2010, 09:46 AM

Thanks mamas! I know it's pretty early to be worrying. I just know that if I do decide to wean her, I would like to do that a few months before my due month so that she doesn't associate a new baby arriving with not getting to nurse any longer.

Now trying to convince annoying family members that tandem nursing is normal and natural...THAT'S another thread!

I can just hear it now!

dimples_giggles_1009 · 03-12-2010, 05:17 PM

what is tandem nursing??

HookedByCarolyn · 03-13-2010, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by dimples_giggles_1009

what is tandem nursing??

It's when your nurse 2 or more children at a time. Like a toddler and a newborn.

03-12-2010, 06:07 AM	#1
HookedByCarolyn Registered Users Formerly: shaneNspencersmommy Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 3,004 Ratings: 190 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Nervous about tandem nursing I am 17 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 15 month old dd. She is mostly down to nursing just before nap and just before bed. She does occasionally nurse once or twice more if she is sick or gets hurt or something and can't calm down. I don't mind nursing her now and wouldn't mind to continue nursing until she self-weans, but most of the stories I hear about tandem nursing; their toddlers end up nursing as much as the newborn when the baby comes b/c they see the baby nursing all the time, then they want to also. I'm thinking that if that's the case, I'd rather encourage her to wean while I'm pregnant so I don't have to deal with the tantrums later. Any advice? Did anyone NOT have a toddler do this? Is is possible to keep her on the same schedule of only 2-3 times a day even after the baby comes? Thanks in advance! __________________ Carolyn ~ mommy to 4boys (9, 6, 2.5, 2months) 2girls (4, 9months) and 2^i^ MY RAINBOW is here! Already 2 months old! KNIT GALLERYMY STORECROCHET GALLERY

03-12-2010, 06:33 AM	#2
isabelsmom Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,259 Ratings: 281 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Nervous about tandem nursing My girl was 2.5 when I got pregnant and I fully expected to tandem nurse. DD ended up weaning during the pregnancy. She did ask to nurse maybe 3 times after the baby was born (when she knew I had milk again), and I let her try. She kindof "played nursing" a few times, I honestly think she was just trying to see if I would let her/say it was ok. The fact that I did say yes seemed to make her feel good, but she did not have the actual need or want to nurse and it just stopped being a focus for her. She asked maybe 6 months ago (she is 4 now) and had forgotten how. She asked again about nursing (not if she could, just kindof talking about it, saying Baby Rae nurses but she doesn't anymore because she's big. ) So, really, my main point for you is that I worried about it too, worried that I wouldn't have enough energy, that constantly nursing them would just take all my time and drain me completely. This obviously didn't end up being the case. So, my advice is, read up on tandem nursing a bit, and then let it go. Wait and see before worrying. I'm sure everything will be fine. __________________ Karen~SAHM to DSS (17) , DS. (17) , DD1 (15) , DD2 (6) , and DD3 (3)

03-12-2010, 08:12 AM	#3
1blessedmama Registered Users Join Date: May 2006 Location: NW Posts: 3,065 Ratings: 91 Feedback: 100%	Re: Nervous about tandem nursing I am nursing my 4 year old and my 22 month old along with my 1 week old. This is my 2nd time tandem nursing. Neither time have either of the girls nursed as much as the baby. b If they did/had, we'd probably just set some boundaries.

03-12-2010, 09:46 AM	#4
HookedByCarolyn Registered Users Formerly: shaneNspencersmommy Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 3,004 Ratings: 190 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Nervous about tandem nursing Thanks mamas! I know it's pretty early to be worrying. I just know that if I do decide to wean her, I would like to do that a few months before my due month so that she doesn't associate a new baby arriving with not getting to nurse any longer. Now trying to convince annoying family members that tandem nursing is normal and natural...THAT'S another thread! I can just hear it now! __________________ Carolyn ~ mommy to 4boys (9, 6, 2.5, 2months) 2girls (4, 9months) and 2^i^ MY RAINBOW is here! Already 2 months old! KNIT GALLERYMY STORECROCHET GALLERY

03-12-2010, 05:17 PM	#5
dimples_giggles_1009 Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,012 Ratings: 78 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Nervous about tandem nursing what is tandem nursing??